My name is Russ and I am a liar. I am 38 years old, and have been lying to cope as long as I can remember. It is ruined more relationships than I care to remember, to the point where I am afraid to seek new friendships for fear of eventually losing them. I am very close to losing my wife and family, for lying, the stupidest reason I can think of, because I am in constant fear of disappointing others so I lie to make myself look better. Although, as I have learned over and over, in the end I end up disappointing everyone to the point where it hurts them to be around me.

I was given an ultimatum by my wife that could cost me my family, I was asked to come clean about every lie was out there between us. I thought of some big ones, but I did not come clean entirely about a lie that was a half truth, and it came back on me a few days later day. Why wasn't able I to come clean entirely? i know with every fiber of being it is better to be honest, but yet I still try to protect some aspect of me by not exposing myself entirely. I have started meeting with a therapist to help me through the process. I am hoping with his help and the help of this group that I will be able to use honesty has my coping mechanism.

I am a liar, and I have not lied for 4 hours.

Russ, welcome. Stay committed to understanding and accepting. Read past post on this site and do your daily check ins ! Listen to that higher voice when you start to tell a lie and pause! Get it right. Once you start down this path there is no turning back! Yesterday I was asked to lie for a friend in a professional content. In the past I may have obliged. I think the universe was testing me. I have said NO. I cannot do this, even for a "cause"! It feels good to get it right!

wow - this is hard - I am a liar
I am successful - not as the levels I would like to be - and I lie to live in a fantasy world that is better then the world I am in now -

This is my 1st step

I am a liar - and this is hard

I am trying to consciously catch myself before I lie, because it seems that the minute it comes out of my mouth my natural inclination is to be committed to the lie. So it seems I have two dragons to fight, change my instinct of lying by reaction, and then if I do, letting myself eat the shame and admit that I lied. I feel like what seems to be my most powerful emotion is shame. I am ashamed of what my answer to a question or situation may be, because in my mind it may negatively affect the way people look at me. Then I am also ashamed when I lie, because I know better. Then that shame keeps me from admitting to the lie, and the spiral starts all over again.

How do I overcome this feeling of shame which seems to be running my thoughts and feelings?

I am a liar - I haven't lied in two days

This is John, and I'm a liar. I've been part of this group before, recently. I deleted my profile because I felt discouraged. I fall down daily, despite the work I put in and all the learning about myself and my past and with all my therapy. My compulsion is strong. If it was the Force, Jedi Master I would be.

Anyway, what compelled me to rejoin is that more and more people are joining this group every day, looking for help. Not one of us is perfect, and neither am I. Not even close. And seeing that renewed my faith in myself.

And what compelled me to check in is narrator's feeling of shame. I recently read, and firmly believe, that "shame" implies that you're a bad person, whereas "guilt" and "remorse" imply that you did bad things.

Shame means that you don't like yourself, whereas guilt and remorse mean that you want to change.

I don't think anyone here is a bad person, and therefore they shouldn't feel shame. I know it's hard because you feel as though you don't like yourself right now, but the fact you're all here says something about you and that you do like yourself because you do want to change.

No matter how hard.

I'm John. I'm a horrible liar. I still lie. It's day f**king zero. Again. But here I am. Again.

Day 72-90....wow 90 days...who knew that something so somple could be so challenging? To Jason and Alison, welcome-a great support system is here. Things have been good and steady job and all is going well, my relationship with my lady is also going day by day, more laughter and real talk...trying every day to face that which got me here. With the change in my time with my lady l have filled it with running/walking every morning and night. Those alone times are when the old possibilities can creep up on you if you are not careful. So l fill with something positive so no chance is given to fall back. More good news to share...my 21 y/o son is graduating from county college next week Tuesday...it is nice to share those things that were not so affected by my lies. Life is too short and remember it is not how many times you fall, it is how you get up. #KeepPounding!!!

TGIF AGAIN! Truth, Gratitude, Inspiration and Faith! Logan, Congrats on 90 days! That is huge. It's been an interesting week! I was asked to lie on a professional level on Monday and said no! I reached out to an old dear friend who was affected by my lies. Although I have previously admitted to these untruths and again accepted responsibility he was not willing to let go. I have made my amends and there is nothing else I can do. It made me sad that this childhood buddy is not able to completely forgive (although he says he has). That is the consequence of our actions. I totally understood when I reached out that it was to clear the air for me. My hope was that we could patch things up. My expectations were not met. I held and felt and breathed in that sadness. I understood it was the feeling of rejection and abandonment and not being perfect that made me sad. I also understand that there is nothing more I can do but remain honest to who I am and not repeat this behavior. Still sucks when your expectations are not met. Stay committed, stay strong and oh yes...KEEP POUNDING!

Good Evening my name is Brittany and everything has been going great my relationship is getting better. I got the job of my dreams and I got the car of my dreams. I have been doing so good so far with not lying that it got uncomfortable to lie and I like it that way. I'm excited for the future and I'm not looking back. Everyone keep your head up when your at the very bottom there is no where to go but up.

"Honesty has a beautiful and refreshing simplicity about it. No ulterior motives. No hidden meanings. An absence of hypocrisy, duplicity, political games, and verbal soperficiality. As honesty and real integrity characterize our lives, there will be no need to manipulate others" ---Charles Swindoll

Good morning my name is Brittany and today is starting off really good I enjoy my job so I get here about 30 minutes early everything has been getting better and I continue to find guidance from church.
I hope you all have a great day and week of I don't get on here before next week

My name is Lucy and I am a liar.

I joined this group almost 8 weeks ago and I was doing well. My relationship with my husband improved beyond all measure and life looked very good. Good things started happening.

Then I lied about something that had happened in a previous relationship. It would not have been a big deal to him. But I lied and told two different stories within a couple of weeks. The story I told eventually was the truth but that isn't the point. I lied after I joined this group.

I really could have summoned up the strength to tell the truth and it wouldn't have taken that much.

My name is David. And I've been honest for 1 day.

My name is Lucy. I'm a liar. My husband is still living with me but that's as far as it goes. I am almost certainly past the point now where he would believe anything I say or write. However it is still important for me to get everything that I have either lied about, kept to myself, or lied to myself about out into the open. If I'm judged for what I have done I deserve it. I do deserve to get this sorted out though, and even though it's too late to save much, he deserves it as well.

My name is Lucy and I am a liar. I started this day with honesty and I am still determined to get all this dishonesty out of myself and to be transparent.

Good morning I am determined to keep strong on my path and make today a great one. My name is Brittany an I am a recovering liar.