Well this is my first post, got caught in a stupid lie tonight from this morning that i didn't care about at the time. Tired of doing this to my wife and found you guys to try and get some help.

Days 66-71- Hey family checking in hoping everyone is still living each moment in what Dale Carnegie calls 'day tight compartments'. It has been an interesting time both for me and my lady. While going through the first full week without seeing her until the weekend brought up some revisits and reviews of where we are. While still being with me she is still stuck....and she reminded of the time that had passed since the fall on Feb 2nd. She still feels that she wasn't good enough not to lie to her over 2 years. I told her again how sorry l was and that if I could change that l would, but I can't and that I'm trying every day not to be that what I was. She acknowledged that...and she says she notices my attempts...and she is trying as well...which again led to my telling her lm here and not going anywhere. She asked me are you sure this is where you want to be and l said yes without any hesitation. Not only am l working on my relationship with her, but also on restoring trust with business partners and friends in the form of repayments given for purchases. I'm making great progress...trying to right wrongs caused by lies can be a painful process but a necessary one if you are really humble and sincere in your approach. For those who have joined since my last post, HELLO!!! Hopefully this site will help you, it has definitely helped me. For those who are already you know my mantra....KEEP POUNDING!

Logan61
I like reading your posts because they are soooo much like my life right now. Me and my boyfriend will be taking on new jobs soon and the schedules will be soo off it will be crazy. But I am slowly gaining him back to me. We have went out a few times since and really had fun I can see in his eyes that he is trying and I try and make sure I'm the person I want and need to be everyday.
Yesterday was my 24th birthday and it was fun we went to this new restaurant that we have never been to and had fun we laughed and enjoyed the weather and the time together. It was the best birthday I had since I been in Georgia.

But this is my daily check in. Today is the day I have been waiting for I started with an inward change of myself then I changed my phone number I changed my car and I changed my hair style. I changed to positive thinking and today May 1st, 2016 I make an outward statement of my change I will be baptized the day after my birthday. For me this is to represent letting go of all the old things I used to do an push forward with the new me.
#HigherStandard

Love it!! Positive attitude! Positive outlook! Positive emotions. This is what the Uni-verse will give back to you! Even when the going gets tough stay positive within yourself. There is some lesson being taught. Congrats Brit on taking truthful steps, taking charge of your actions, and changing the way you think about the world. May you find peace and comfort with your spirituality! And in those great words...keep pounding!! This is Michael checking in today!! I too strive for that higher standard!!!

Good morning to everyone. I just joined this group today and this is my first post. I just accepted the fact that i'm a liar and have been most of my life. My actions have become very destructive to those I love and I don't want to be that person any longer.

With that being said, my name is Jason and i'm a liar. I have not told a lie in 3 hours.

Welcome Jason that is a great start and this is a great group to help you with your self journey to stop lying and more.
My name is Brittany and I am a recovering liar. I have not been keeping track of the days that I have not been lying but it has been awhile. I have changed my attitude towards life since I stopped lying and have not been more positive about life than I am now. Things a looking up.

You will do great just keep getting on here look at different links talk to different people read their stories and you will slowly find yourself and the root of lying. Just to help you It will not be something simple like afraid of rejection or people not liking you. Its childhood deep so you have to dig an ask the right questions. Also hold your self accountable for all your actions and what you say and HOW you say it because when your known to be a liar how you say things can get you in trouble too.

Hi Russ. I'm Ken, and I am a compulsive liar. I want to go 1 day in public without lying! :-(

Thank you for the welcome and encouragement Brittany. My hope is to have the same outlook on life that you're having. Right now i'm trying to pickup the pieces of the mess i made.

Hello, my name is Allison and I am new. I have been consistently lying since I was in second grade. I will literally lie about the simplest things such as what I ate for breakfast. I have also told extreme lies that have changed the course of my life and those around me. If I were to inform my family that I have been lying, especially about some of the things I have stated, I would be disowned. I am in desperate need of figuring out a way to stop lying and exaggerating before I ruin my life completely.

Welcome to all new comers. The simple fact that you are here says there is a commitment to change. Behavior patterns that have been part of your coping mechanism are hard to change. Take it one day at a time. One HOUR at a time. We lie out of fear. We fear that the truth will hurt us some how. The reason for this fear is deep seeded. You have to peel the layers of the onion off to get to the root. I agree that it goes back to childhood issues. At least it did for me. None of this is easy. Otherwise you would not be here. However, once you start down this path there is no going back. It becomes painful and uncomfortable and against your higher self to lie. I have counted the days since I joined this site. Not that the days matter. But as the number grows it only takes one lie to go back to zero. To start all over again. It is just a reminder to me. So live by the hour (honestly, open, unconditional love, respect). I try every day to be better than I was the day before. I stay positive and strive to find joy and happiness in whom I am. I ask each morning that I be guided to pursue these qualities. It has been an enriching journey! Life's trials and tribulations are always there but how I gave them is different. Keep pounding!!

Hi my name is Jason and I'm a liar, I've been honest for 2 days. Yesterday my fiancé and I went to counseling. Because of all the lying I've been doing. The counseled told us we need to live in separate houses in order to fix things... She said we needed space and that I needed to die like Jesus before I can rise again. Any thoughts?

Jason
Separation does help it may seem like it does not but it kind of does I know it did for me. My boyfriend and I never stayed with each other yet but for someone to be lied to so much just seeing you everyday can make her think of things you lied about. Since my boyfriend an I don't stay together it is a little bit easier for him to do things in his day and me call and talk about things that will slowly replace the thought of what I did. But my story is kind of worse than a lot of people on here I let things get way to put of control and cheated so one of the things he hated to see was my car because he knew that at one point in time I had another guy in it. And since we I want to be with him and move forward and I don't think of just my own thoughts and feelings any more I traded in my car because I want him to be happy when he see me not see the past every time I come over.

As far as the die like Jesus statement she is right the old you has to die and everyone around you and yourself will notice when it happen. It will seem like it is your lowest point and you will change for you and no one else and the changes you make will show for themselves you won't have to say a word because it will be the new you.

Hi my name is Brittany I am a recovering liar.
Things have been really good and lying is becoming more and more uncomfortable to do. Even when my brain is trying to get me to lie the truth comes out. I'm proud of my steps in my journey so far and I'm excited about the future.

Hi my name is Jason and I'm a liar. I've been honest for 3 days. My fiancé is asking me so many questions about why I lied and why I was on dating sites talking to other women. These are questions I don't have the answer to but I'm hoping that my counselor will help me with that. It's a scary feeling when you don't understand why you do certain things knowing it's the wrong thing to do. I feel lost because last week I was walking around as if I didn't have a problem, but now as I reflect, I've had this problem all my life.

I wish I had the answers for her.

Good morning my name is Jason and I'm a liar. I've been honest for five days now. I hope everyone has a great week