Hi, my name is Matt.
I am a liar, and this is my first day of being lie free.

I haven't checked in, in months. Busy, life, stress, etc. I can't think of any lies I've told however that doesn't change the fact that I am a liar. At least not in my husband's eyes. Since no recent lies have been told, the one I told 7 years ago can be great ammunition in his eyes. I have learned one thing over the last 6 months since I joined this group....I am a lot stronger than I ever knew I was. I know I have a problem, I'll readily admit to it, but that doesn't mean I'm a bad person. I'm a person with a problem who needs support....not support in the screaming, name calling, threatening form either. So yeah, what I've learned most about myself in the last 6 months is that I can have a back bone and no longer have to be bullied because I have a problem with lying .

Checking in for today.
It's been like an up hill battle in my head, trying to do the right thing.
I've struggled with it, but so far, I have been honest with everything.
My partner and I have talked about the issue, as I will end up relying on her for a lot.

It felt like an addiction, exaggerating everything, but I've seen the damage it causes, and am doing my best to fix myself, to grow up and become an adult, not just for myself, but for my child.

2nd day lie free.

3rd day, and still going.
Feel like I can breath a little easier, like less weight on my shoulders... But I know I'm not free yet.

I am still lie free, but occasionally exaggerate on some things, and i am doing my best to curb that habit.

Good luck to everyone.

Still lie free....still doesn't change anything. The biggest thing I have come to realize is that you can't want to give up the lying for any one but yourself. No matter how much you change the person you have lied to will remember it and it's ultimately up to them if they wish to forgive you. You have to do what's best for you and forgive yourself. It's the only way I found I can truly change. I've also realized that some people, no matter how much you love them, or how much they say they loved you, they just simply can't forgive or forget, and leaving in that limbo land can be extremely destructive to all who are involved.

Lie free for a long time now, but I'm still aware of the lies that I told and at times they haunt me. A good thing happened last week though. I messed up at work and forgot to do something. My boss asked me about it a couple of days ago and I told her straightaway I had completely forgotten. Her decision was that she would lie to the customer about the reason her order was late. I told her I'd rather tell the truth. She still decided to tell the lie. In a perverse way, it made me feel good, even though she would be lying to make me look better. The reason for this - I didn't think through the lies I could tell to cover my back. I owned up to the mistake and I was prepared to take the flack, whereas in the past I'd have lied from the start. It feels good to have a clear mind about what I've done and said.

Still lie free. Feeling good. Even though this month is going to be difficult financially, it feels good to be sharing the burden instead of keeping it to myself and lying about it, which is how it used to be.

Checking in. Lie free for weeks.

Looking deep inside. I have to stop self centered behavior which is what lying really is all about. Manipulation. No matter how trivial the lie. I will again go today and be a little better than I was yesterday! Remain committed to this course. All have s good day and be kind to yourself

Integrity: doing what is right not what is easy! Starting another lie free day! Living with authenticity! All have a great day!!

Day 9. TGIF. Truth, gratitude, integrity and faith. These are my goals to live by. Do something nice for someone today.

Hello all - been a while since I have checked in. Things in my life have been up & down. I am staying positive and working through it. :)

Continue to work on me. Learning my "imperfection" are really perfections. I think once I can accept the authentic me the rest quits mattering. Continue to work on self love and service to others. It's an every day commitment.

Again, as I learn to truly love myself for whom I am the need for me to have others see me as anything else falls away. Whether this is a stranger or my mate it matters not. I have to ultimately be me no matter what. Then all else falls away. I am my happiness. Until then every thing else is a manipulation to make me happy. It's really quite simple.

I start this week with faith that I will be the best I can. Busy week ahead. All be kind to yourself.