Day 3, 4 and 5 went well no lies and actual honesty with my spouse about how I'm feeling about him dating. The conversations hurt ALOT but they are still honest. I'm learning every day and trying to embrace that while the truth may hurt, it never hurts as bad as a lie!

Another day of embracing authenticity. Continuing to work on letting go of that which seemed to drive the exaggerations and lies. Staying focused on positive thinking. Welcome to all and know none is alone here.

Good morning everyone, one more day down.

Today's goal is to find an expert and be responsible and accountable for my lies.And stop lying. Day 1 again.

Yesterday was a good day of no lying, however conversations with my spouse sucked. Forgiveness is just not possible and while we are still living together I expect that to come to an end shortly. I can't decide if that's good or bad. Some of me thinks that it might be a good thing, and will help in my recovery. The manner in which my spouse handled my lies (screaming, yelling, name calling, etc.) definitely in no way helped me to stop and actually made it harder to tell the truth for fear of my spouses anger. However the other part of me is truly devastated at the destruction and loss I feel at my spouse throwing in the cards and leaving, not just me but our children. No matter how my spouse likes to put it, leaving is leaving, giving up is giving up, no matter what the reasons are...it's still giving up and leaving.

Staying strong. will try every day to be a little better than I was yesterday. The 1% rule. Dr Wayne Dyer. Keep moving forward, stay committed to positive change and growth, learn to know you are enough. Things always work out for a reason. Sunday will be 30 days. Life time to go. (y'all will really be tired of me by then).

Another day survived, another step closer to beating this habit. Keep it up.

Day 14....while the lies have stopped the repercussions of those lies have not...continuing questions still come and as one who is in the midst of change I answer honestly, no matter how hurtful they are. The issues at the forefront was a friend of the other woman sent a friend request to my woman via Facebook...a ploy she feels is a direct correlation to the other person...as they live in the same town and she shares NO other mutual friends with...I questioned and I answered - her first question was did i sleep with her to which l answered no (a truthful statement) and the fact that even on fb I rarely even spoke to this person EVER...this of course ripped the scab right off of some healing and then was told that I didn't respect her enough to ever allow this to happen...and she's right. She doesn't understand why this person won't go away and leave us be...after no contact at all for over 2 weeks...I had no answer but know I have had no contact and as angry as I am at myself for allowing this, I won't reach out to her as that would cause more issues for MYSELF...as for now I'm still dealing with a person whom is hurt and mistrusts me and afraid that if things go awry or we have issues I will return to that or any other person to 'be soothed'...I don't want that and the thought of such makes me sick...it is a hurtful, hard road...lies just really crash and burn your life...

Day 7, a whole week of no lying and it feels good...at least the no lying part. The rest of my feelings suck....so much sadness and anger with myself and the mess I've created. Going to a Celebrate Recovery support group tomorrow night, and I am truly excited. I know God will always love and will be with me down this long, hard road, but it is still hard to know that I have destroyed my spouse who the Lord blessed me with. I pray that the Lord can do a work in my and my spouse at the same time.

I'm here today, a compulsive liar, just living honestly one day at a time.

Logan61... congrats on Day14. Same situation for me. Being honest, but being questioned all the time and not being trusted that I'm telling the truth (although warranted) is really frustrating... something that I feel as though I'm not allowed to feel. Even the anger... when I'm angry, especially at myself, that emotion bubbles to the surface pretty quickly, and I get the, "Why are you so angry? You're the one who did this." To which I have no reply, because, well, she's right. I did do this. So I guess I have no right to be angry either?

I've completely learned my lesson about lying, but I can't convey that in words to my wife. I can only show her... but in her anger, disappointment and complete heartbreak, she's not very receptive.

Can't blame her. Like Logan said... lies and, really the reasons why you lied and the sh*t you were trying to hide with those lies, really do crash and burn your life... and the lives you touch. I'm not confident that our relationship will ever be the same, and I'm worried that she's just biding time till someone else catches her heart.

Congrats to all. Keep on with the honesty.

I'm John, and I'm a liar.

Today is a new day and I will be truthful.

jlsrbl...thank you and congrats on your progress as well...frustrating is a VERY good word...and oh you are SO right about wanting to be angry, but I caused the whole thing, SHE has every right to be angry...and I have to catch myself from letting that anger rise into words and vocal inflections...and when those conversations end and I am alone with my thoughts and go over what happened I feel like I want to scream and cry until I have no voice left.

While I am not married to my lady and we don't live together (you might as well say as I'm there a few days a week) we have been together two years and she has been extremely good to me...and I continue to say that as long as there is communication there's hope and there's a chance. The reception is really up to her...and she has said that normally she would cut and run with others because of the hurt but for reasons she cannot fathom she didn't do that with me...I son;t want what we had, I want BETTER than what we had...and this beginning road to healing is going to be a long long one..and in the end there is still no guarantee that there will be a relationship between us when it's all said and done...and (heavy breath) if that is what her ultimate decision will be I will have to live with the idea that I screwed up the best thing I have ever had...

To everyone...keep it up - pray, find solace, answer questions, find a HEALTHY outlet for the anger, and keep pounding...

I'm Douglas...and I am a liar.

The work is worth it. My lies almost (and would again) end my relationship with the one I love. My relationship has grown out of the work and growth I am doing. I truly and fully recognize this work is private. The issues that led to this behavior are deep core hurts unique to me. Recognizing them has been healing. I bring now a "truer" solid foundation to build a healthy relationship. I feel so less codependent. Struggling with but exploring my spirituality. Keep banging away all. Remember we create anger in our minds. We also have the capacity to quiet that anger. Just breath. Slow deep breaths when all seems so unbearable.
I'm Michael and I am a liar.

IT'S FRIIIIIDAY!!!!!!!! I don't know about anyone else but this week has taken way to long. Although a rather "easy" week in comparison to some that Iv'e lived through recently due to my behavior, it has still been taxing. I was able to find a therapist ( waiting on a call back from him about scheduling my first session), and I heard back from insurance (shocker!, they aren't covering a thing until I meet my 3k deductible). It was hard to swallow, to bring myself to do it. And if it hadn't been for everyone's seemingly positive experiences with them, then I probably would of never reached out. Chin up and power through it.

Day 15...man I'm so not feeling good today...yesterday i just felt so much pressure and pain and hurt from all the lies told...the mood swings from anger to hurt to nausea, ugh...and to hear the pain and the constant WHY in her voice makes me feel her pain even more...we talked last night, she wanted to cry...we are both dancers and we both had classes last night and for a while it was an escape for 2 hours or so the reality came right back with the call...ugh...l keep reinforcing her while constantly admitting to my mistake and promising her that's a road l don't ever want to go down...she asked me again have l contacted the other woman and I truthfully told her no...because I haven't and i don't want to...she is cautious-awaiting for the other shoe to fall as she puts it, and she doesn't want to feel like a fool...I FEEL THE FOOL for allowing this to happen for so long...going to continue through like JPSchenck says...we are going dancing tonight in NYC with many of our mutual friends and plans are to stay over afterwards...man the hurt is REAL but the hope is BRIGHTER....Keep Pounding