I don't check in daily because I keep my self busy and active but today I'm 44 days free from lying. I'm finally starting to be in a good place with myself and being happy. my ex and I are still talking about things between us but also still enjoying our time when we are together. It feels good so far still taking everything one day at a time. Postive vibes!

5th Check in - Still taking it a day at a time. I start a new job today which is both scary and great. My wife and mother are very nervous about me working in finance and with the lying, hiding and stealing I get that but I need to work. I need to support myself and my family. This is the 1st time I've confronted my addictions as addictions and I know I can do a good honest job if I just keep dealing with my addictions every day. I am attending or calling into meetings daily and will continue to do so. I want to share a resource that has been very helpful to me: http://miseryaddicts.org/ssa-meetings. The book they use and the calls hit home for me, I feel like I'm, talking to people who know what I'm dealing with. CoDA has also been helpful but for me this program is my on point. Hope you are all having a good day.

6th check in - Work is going well. Got served separation papers yesterday, I knew it was coming and I had asked a friend to do it for my wife but it still hit me hard. I know my actions caused this and all I can do is keep taking it a day at a time and moving forward the best I can.

I am continuing my meetings and learning and working the steps. The problem I'm having is that I am not a religious person and the Higher Power conversation is a difficult one for me. I've gotten some good advice and I have some ideas on how to make it work for me but I'd love to hear from you all if your willing to share.

Thank you

Hi RickLocicero!

You're doing great, keep on taking it a day at a time. I relate, and it will get better for us, we are on the right track. Truth WILL set us free, even if losing people we love and have betrayed hurts immensely... All we can do from now on is be changed people who not only try their best but do the best, because now that we are aware of our addiction, it's our responsability to treat it ; just like someone with cancer would be responsible for taking his meds.

About the higher power, I also struggled a lot of first, as I was not spiritual at all. I work in a rehab so I was lucky enough to get amazing guidance do understand the whole higher power. What helped me the most is when a therapist at work told me : "we all serve something. We all have a higher power. Maybe before you served Lying, and now you are serving Fear." What she meant by that is so true. You already have a higher power, and you need to find a new one. For me, it clearly was fear that I was serving. I lived in fear of my lies being discovered. In my head I was always thinking "i'm afraid I'm afraid I'm afraid". Your new higher power can be Love, Service, anything. It's something that you will are serving.

All this being said, my higher power doesn't have a face or a name, it's just in my mind some kind of Force of nature that will "make everything ok in the end". I can tell you that having a higher power, turning my fears to him and SURRENDERING has reduced my anxiety immensely.

Hope this helped, hang in there.

Hi my name is Patricia, first time in public (whew!). It might take me a while to call it lying, I've been honest for most of the time since 2007, after hitting rock bottom. Just for today, told the truth.

Hi all. I'm Jessica, and I'm a liar. Feeling a lot of shame and shock. Just made this realization and just starting. I've been honest for almost three hours.

Hi There, just for today I will not pretend that things are the way I want them to be, also called lying. I think someone tried to scam me in an email from overseas, I sent them a clear and brief reply. I dared to ask myself, have I ever been like that? Never, but maybe at my worst I had a more subtle way of taking others caring and time. In balance to that though, not going to beat myself up today, it's Christmas, am taking the day off from self-flagellating. These scammers did me a favour. I was able to see where I am in relation to their (sad sad sad) behaviour, and happy to say that just for today, I am very far away.

Merry Christmas morning to everyone! The sun is shining and it's a warm summer morning. Just for today am being honest. Have some urges to embroider what I say and make it sound just a little bit better, so must be a bit stressed and shamed by my christmas exoectations. So I'm just doing it moment by moment, trying to remember to count to 5 and breathing in and out a couple of times before speaking, that helps. I love being honest, it feels like freeeedom. Merry Christmas!

Just for today, it's Boxing Day, staying honest, counting to 5 before I speak. Trying to feel for that spot inside that is the most peaceful, still working on that one. Looking forward to re-living Christmas day in a few minutes, skypeing overseas to where it's still Christmas.:-)

I saw that quote from Melodie Beattie's book The Language of Letting Go on the intro page, I've used that book over the years and found it very worthwhile, she reaches me. Today, am going to try and stay in today as much as I can, and see what is here not the future or the past, which is a bit scary actually. I was going to do a lot of forward planning for the new year, always a good thing, but that can wait until tomorrow. Just for today, I am being honest and I'm being here.

Hi, my name is Michael and I'm a liar. This is day one and I'm pretty sure I didn't make it through the day. Just for a few moments today I tried to be aware of this "addiction" and I've got a lot of work ahead of me.

Hi, my name is Michael and I'm a liar. Its been 24 hours since my last lie.

My name is Patricia and I pretend, which is lying, that's not easy to say. Just for today I'm living my honest life, in what I do and what I say.

Hang in there Patricia, its one day at a time.

Thanks Michael, all support for you too.