ChooseThisDay
Status: A pretty easy first month of sober. After being asleep for 2 years.
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- I am recounting what I have learned, and would really appreciate if anyone else has any experience with EMDR and would be willing to share it. Was it "all that"? Back in the 90's Francine Shapiro was walking in the park and noticed that she was...
- For a while now I have been pounding on forgiveness as the soution to break free from the stuck place that anger and resentment often leave us, both SAs and SOs. I was snooping on the spouses board a bit and read a discussion where forgiveness got...
- I am working on step six, and have catagorized all of the 27 AA big book character defects under the seven deadly sins. A few landed in a new grouping called fear, but most fit... except remorse. I am confused about why remorse is a character...
- The DS support folks were so very kiind to change my handle from Choose a user name to Choose this day. You can still look forward to all the same passionate arguments that anger = fear, forgiveness = freedom, oral sex = love, bible = truth. OK so...
- Recently I looked through pages and pages of topics over the last year, and I may be off, but there were lots of topics that my handle was the last post on. Here is how I feel about that. Rejected. or Arrogant or helpful. Let me explain. and give...
- "There is a saying in the recovery movement "Your only as sick as your secrets" This is true for relationships as well. If there are secrets that haven't been shared, topics that can't be discussed. Things from the past that are forbidden to be...
- The love dare has come up in a conversation or two recently. I am wondering if anyone has done it for all 40 days, and what they thought. I was not ready a year ago when the movie first came out, but now I am fishing for some encouragement to get...
- Charlie, In the thread "The POWER of the addiction, you quoted Mark Laaser that 85% of the members of the church are sex addicts. I once heard Michael Reagan quote that 90% of all porn viewed in hotel rooms is done by pastors. How does he know...
- OK, a year into my recovery, I am closing in on some of the reasons I relapsed. One of them is that I have yet to be face to face with a single sex addict who is a Christian and believes the Bible is clear that homosexuality is wrong, who is...
- My wife and I are discussing what a healthy tempo is. Most literature says 2 to 3 times a week. I would say that daily would be fine with me, she would be happy with once a month. Neither are reasonable. So my question is how often do couples...
- I got into a conversation with several SA's at a group meeting. And we were all slightly surprised that all bot one of us had a very huge issue dealing with the fact that our wives are not willing to compele us orally. Though there is no excuse for...
- OK, now that I am beginnig to get out of myself and back into loving my wife, I want to ask a question. A book said that taking a lie detector test was a very powerful way to help those who love us feel safe and begin to relax about trusting us...
- Women, As I dig into myself and sit here feeling these terible feelings that drive my addiction without the medication of acting out to save me. One of them is a deep and unmet need for affirmation which is what I was always chasing with acting...
- How does your husbands masturbation hurt you?How does your husbands masturbation make you feel? If he were open and honest, and even asked your permission, would your feelings be different? Would you say yes or no? Would him asking give you some...
- The primer: Few men in the US have NEVER masturbated. Few men in some other countries have ever masturbated because it is seen as weakness. (read that)Some men masturbate without objectifying or fantiasizing. These men typically stop or seldom...