Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
"There is a saying in the recovery movement "Your only as sick as your secrets" This is true for relationships as well. If there are secrets that haven't been shared, topics that can't be discussed. Things from the past that are forbidden to be brought up, it can cripple a marriage.
And so many of us are sleeping together, but we are really sleeping alone." - SexGod by Rob Bell.
Months after my recovery began I read Carns talking about self-esteem, intimacy, communication and forgiveness all under the context of sexuality. Bell suggested that the word sex is related to the latin word secare, which means to sever, amputate or disconnect from the whole. This is where we get the word, sect, disect, section.....
So maybe sex is more about reminding us how seperated and disconneced we really are, and us going about trying to reconnect.
So, I am acting out, in my own vile disgusting way in a feeble and broken way trying to make a connection with my body. And this very act is causing a disconnection from my wife, my perfectly and divinely created customized helpmeet intimately customized by my creator for me and only me.
Is sex about me having the privelage of being phisically closer to her than it is possible to be with anyone else in the world. To the degree that we can not tell where each of us end or begin. Or is it us intensely discovering that we are not as connected as we desire to be, spiritually, emotionally, and finally physically because we are both isloated by our brokenness?
Sexuality is not about sex. It is about either being connected or wanting to be connected. If this is true, then sexual addiction, both the addicts behavior and the spouses reactions is an attack on the divine spark that compells us to connect.
This "the collection" is not about That "sex".
And so many of us are sleeping together, but we are really sleeping alone." - SexGod by Rob Bell.
Months after my recovery began I read Carns talking about self-esteem, intimacy, communication and forgiveness all under the context of sexuality. Bell suggested that the word sex is related to the latin word secare, which means to sever, amputate or disconnect from the whole. This is where we get the word, sect, disect, section.....
So maybe sex is more about reminding us how seperated and disconneced we really are, and us going about trying to reconnect.
So, I am acting out, in my own vile disgusting way in a feeble and broken way trying to make a connection with my body. And this very act is causing a disconnection from my wife, my perfectly and divinely created customized helpmeet intimately customized by my creator for me and only me.
Is sex about me having the privelage of being phisically closer to her than it is possible to be with anyone else in the world. To the degree that we can not tell where each of us end or begin. Or is it us intensely discovering that we are not as connected as we desire to be, spiritually, emotionally, and finally physically because we are both isloated by our brokenness?
Sexuality is not about sex. It is about either being connected or wanting to be connected. If this is true, then sexual addiction, both the addicts behavior and the spouses reactions is an attack on the divine spark that compells us to connect.
This "the collection" is not about That "sex".
"And so many of us are sleeping together, but we are really sleeping alone." ....wow this statement really hits home for me......living with a SA, well i have felt this ALOT.
"Sexual health is...the integration of the physical, emotional, intellectual and social aspects of sexual being, in ways that are positively enriching and that enhance personality, communication and love."
"...a capacity to enjoy and control sexual and reproductive behaviour in accordance with a social and personal ethic."
"...freedom from fear, shame, guilt, false beliefs and other psychological factors inhibiting sexual response and impairing sexual relationships." (Here's where I see the SA problem come in....it causes fear, shame, guilt, etc...and then inhibits sexual response.)
"...freedom from organic disorders, diseases and deficiencies that interfere with sexual and reproductive function."
Good sexual health means making sure you have the knowledge, skills and ability to make informed sexual choices and acting responsibly to protect your health and the health of others.