I see. Trying to move away from infested Infidelity group. Good thinking :-).
We both love to laugh so we go to stand up comedians shows.
I have to think of the things I would like to do but cannot because of the children. This will be easier.
So I would like us to go to the museums.
I would love us to go visit cities that are close enough (and there are many) to go for a weekend or half the weekend and do sightseeing tours.
Kayaking together was very cool.
I would like to figure out how to do geocaching and do it with my family.
I guess we also need to recycle.

Do you have anyone you can trade babysitting with? I know you've mentioned that time alone is scarce, so I'm assuming your kids are younger. (You may have said their ages, but I don't remember...?) It was a LOT easier for huz and I when my oldest went to school because we could meet other parents in the same boat and trade babysitting so we were able to go out and have time alone - even with three kids! We still rarely went out, but sometimes even staying in - sans children - was a big treat.

Thanks for your ideas. A couple really stuck out to me and I'm excited to share them with the huz.

And yeah. I needed to step away from other places. I am being MINDFUL of not reacting to "baiting" as was directed to me by the counselor we're seeing with our 16 y/o son. It doesn't come naturally to me, but I'm practicing!

It has been wonderful for us to go swimming at the gym every night. It's kind of a 3 part deal. 1st the hot tub. I think the worlds problems could best be solved in a hot tub. This is where we take a little time to talk over things. Next we swim laps for a while and the last 10 min or so we just play. I love play time. There is something very bonding about swimming together.

We enjoy grocery shopping together. weird huh

We also enjoy visiting nearby cities but don't do that very often.

Not much else, really, we just spend time together and do things together. I think we should spice things up with a few hot dates and get a little more creative.

Our local pub has 10 cent wings on Sundays so sometimes we go and have a couple of pints and watch a football game. We've tried geocaching and it's fun when the weather is permitting. We have two dogs that give us a good excuse to go for long walks, nice because it's grounding and there are no expectations attached. We do some birding at the same time, or forage for wild foods to keep it interesting.

We're saving up for a yoga retreat, all day classes available with instructors who bring their varying approaches (one who teaches Tantra), healthy meals, and lots of time for meditation and just spending quiet time connecting with our Selves and each other. I'm hoping that nurturing our spirit will help us to connect on a deeper lever and build intimacy in a way we haven't really had before.

Realizing that none of my suggestions could be considered 'hot', at all! But we've had heat before and it tends to cool over time and leave us without much to hold onto.

For Valentine's Day, we went to a park we'd not been to before in a nearby city and spent some time walking together. Then ended it with a dinner. Was pretty nice. Another related idea, go to a state park to do some exploring together for a day. It's usually pretty cheap.

We do the typical, movies, dinner, and also comedy show. Our last really hot date was planned out and created by me.

I got a hotel room for the night with jacuzzi. Checked in early and set it all up with kink and romance. Had the music, the dinner and drinks ready for his arrival.

I teased him during the day letting him know I had plans for his bday. Sent the kids to grandpas and invited hubby to room I answered in my lingerie and had the tub filled. We ate and then enjoyed the many little surprises I had set up for the night.

That was by far the best date either of us had ever planned. He's not a big planner. He loved it

pink - that sounds lovely.
Unfortunately I couldn't do it, at least not yet. Too much of a trigger, especially if it was me working on it to make it happen. This is something he would have to arrange for, though objective technical difficulty (what to do with the children) might make that impossible anyway :-(. Sigh.
It does sound absolutely wonderful though. Good for you.

I was just being silly with the "hot dates" title. It's the title of a Sims 2 expansion. :) I hate giving titles to my posts since I'm usually all over the place with the actual posts. (Yeaaah... I gotta work on that "concise" trait.)

I don't think my husband and I would enjoy "hot" dates (purely designed around sex). TOO MUCH PRESSURE!! :) Get away weekends may include steamy times, but there's other stuff, too. (hotel with a jacuzzi is our "go to" as well.)

I LOVE the idea of a yoga retreat, but huz would definitely NOT go for that. And I'm not fit enough for it at this time. Actually, I really loved ALL the physical fitness type ideas. We talk about joining a gym together, but it just doesn't work. The closest one is 40 minutes away. It's not "on the way" to or from anything else we do. At best, I think we'd go once a week. More likely we'd go once or twice and then never go again.

There is a seasonal pool in our neighborhood. Close enough we could pretty much walk to it (if not for climbing back UP the steep hill on the way home! ugh!) but... I don't know how to swim. I'm rather terrified of water. Still an idea to swish around in our brains. Maybe I can convince him to teach me how to swim.

Get out on a boat, just the two of you!

I keep looking for "like" button every time I read a new post on this thread, LOL.

I want a like button too:)

Allora, you can do yoga together at home with a good dvd. I might buy this one http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/om-yoga-in-a-box-for-couples-cyndi-lee/1004899874 as we're pretty new at it, too. But if you have access to a retreat they would probably welcome newbies too.

Sorry, that dvd is sold out :( This one is produced on demand and is less expensive http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000Z3P21Y/ref=mw_dp_sim_ps1?pi=SL500_SY125

Jay, I was going to say the same thing, a thumbs up or something.

The weather in your area might not be right for it, but a camping trip could be nice. If not camping, then fishing. The quiet & scenery can be calming and even romantic at times. And with fishing it can be almost like a partnership-building exercise as you work together to outsmart the fish (trying different bait, locations, one person netting while the other reels in). If you go camping, bring along games you can play at the picnic table as well as physical ones (I recommend badminton)--you'd be surprised at how much fun you can have once you get started.

My husband and I get a lot of laughs out of playing games like Monopoly (or for something more "hot", check out the sexy board games on Amazon), but if you're looking to go out then perhaps bowling, pool, or darts. We are the types to do a lot of smack-talking, which keeps it fun even though we are competitive.