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- I am at 3+ years out and I get much contradictory advice from people. I am wondering when someone says, "You've got to move on," what that means. In the past three years I've settled my husbands estate which was complicated by his sudden dea th and...
- I'm at 2 and a half years out and I travel, hire contractors for the house, work, buy cars as needed, attend social gatherings - but I have no self confidence. I would rather sit home and pull inside myself. In fact, I'm about to take another trip...
- Well, those of you who know me know I love a good laugh. And my husband was good at getting them from me. Tonight, as I was getting ready to shower I peeled down my tights and my jeans and had them bunched around my ankles and was getting ready to...
- I hope everyone got through the emotional minefield of Christmas okay. My darling died on Dec. 16, 2010, so I don't exactly welcome the holidays. I love the decorations, lights, and music but the relentless reminders that I am not a member of a big...
- I belong to a group that calls November gratitude month due to the Thanksgiving holiday. No matter where I am today in my grief (I go up and down a lot) It helps me to remember some of those things I am grateful for. If you want to, list some...
- I'd like to hear how you are REALLY doing, since we know our pre-bereavement friends think we should be over it. If you want, answer how far out you are and how you are getting along physically, mentally, emotionallly, spiritually and socially. Add...
- I am in a danger zone tonight. I'm feeling sad and sorry for myself about my husband's death. Those strong emotions can really set me up to overeat. I find I have to plan other things I enjoy every few days so I don't get into that deprivation "poor...
- This will probably be a rambling and self-pitying post. I just got back from an appointment in town to help my 95 year old father-in-law set up a memorial for his middle son, who died in April. His youngest son, my husband James, died very suddenly...
- Well, I made it through the second Christmas without my darling. The first was a blur, since he died on Dec. 16. I saw my 6 grandchildren on Christmas Eve and my sister came down and we had brunch and exchanged presents yesterday. I've had a lot of...
- I was thinking what I would tell (and have told) recent widows that helps.I came up with:familyfriendsa local support groupa counselor to help me with the trauma of sudden deathmy dogs and catsa neighbor (til she died)my 12 step groupshaving work,...
- A member recently brought a thought that has occured to me - winter is coming. I live in a northern state where 5 or more months of dark, slippery, cold weather are not unusual. I do what I can to make sure my house is ship-shape for this time, but...
- DS'ers, I hope you won't be offended by the idea that perhaps we can become better people through experiencing this horrible time. Besides studying our religious/spiritual programs, are there other things we can do to become more creative, more...
- I attended my first DS Gathering yesterday! It was wonderful to meet the great people who keep me going. Our hostess was the mostest and I met members from Louisiana, Tennesse, Arkansa, Ohio and Australia! What a great day with a great group. Thanks...
- Pardon me, did I miss infor on Ohio gathering? I might have left it in my spamblocker. I'd like to attend. I will probably just drive down on Saturday for the day because I'm not too far away.. Sorry for inconvinience....
- Okay folks. Here is the gruesome truth: It is 8:30 Saturdat night and I am sitting in bed reading and responding to DS posts. Oddly, I kind of like it. I like being at home with my dogs and in some way feeling connected to you all out there in far...