jerseydebbie
Status: After a lot of pain, life is a peaceful journey now. Don't lose hope.
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- One of the issues of widowhood is wanting to travel and not knowing or having anyone to travel with. I was lucky to make friends that have the financial and personal freedom to go places at the drop of a dime.There is a web site I was looking into,...
- Since my DH passed 5 years ago now, I have made a host of new friends, indulged in old hobbies, started a eBay business, and often my calendar looks like a train wreck.It was a very painful journey to get here, but to my surprise I found that I...
- It will be 4 years in May that I lost my life partner. Even though I am fully functional, accepting, and enjoying my days, I at times still get angry, especially around the holidays.Mainly, he didn't deserve to die the way he did, and I was handed...
- I just had to share this with all of you. We have often discussed advice from others, but this came from a 88 year old woman (my friends' mother) that was widowed twice.In talking to one of her daughters, it was expressed to me that Mom says I...
- Christmas has put me in a tailspin this year. It isn't my favorite holiday to begin with, but my husband's absence was strongly felt this year.I am OK with the fact that he passed. Cancer just can't be fought. I am OK with my living conditions...
- This is a bad time of year for many of us, regardless of the length of time we have been widowed. Well-wishes by others don't mean much when your partner is gone. They can't understand, so I fake a smile and move on. My widowed friend sent me the...
- Was driving to work today, and because it has been bugging me for quite some time a good answer to obtrusive/insensitive questions came to mind."No offense, but I feel that question to be offsensive. So, if you don't mind, I would rather not answer...
- Whenever someone inquires as to what I've been doing, the only answer is that my calendar looks like a train wreck.Then in the next breath I hear the words, "That's good. At least you're keeping busy. You have to keep going and occupy your...
- The following was printed in my local paper this morning. The words have a lot of meaning for me. Maybe it will for you also:"Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the...
- During the time I have been a member of DS, I often see "I don't want to ______ the rest of my life." For example, I don't want to be lonely the rest of my life.When that thought comes to play, no wonder it brings anxiety, sadness, and a fear of...
- I'm not looking for support or agreement on this, but I really need to silently vent.My soul mate passed May 22, 2009. After that time I have found companionship in many forms. My pet, female friendships I maintained and new ones that I acquired,...
- One of my co-workers seems to have a gift communicating with those who have passed.She was working at one of our buildings this morning, packing items for mailing. She asked what she could do to help me in my grief journey. Unexpectedly, a paper...
- I woke up this morning with a disturbing feeling that I was not wanted or needed, or had a purpose in life. It literally scared me for I am still a wife, a sister, an aunt, etc. There are people who depend on me at work and I run bus trips for my...
- Have you reached the point of being content with your life just the way it is? Trust me, I'd give anything to have my husband back, but the life I am carving out for myself is OK, until someone wants me to feel guilty or I am doing something...
- Has anyone gone through a phase where they feel neither wanted or needed? How did you get over this hump.I love to cook and bake, but haven't had enough ambition to get out in the kitchen and do it. As far as cooking, I really don't have time to...