Doing better today. Realizing things aren't going to change with her, but are changing for me.

J467, good start. Your head is in the right place. I would say that the majority of people that first come to this site come here because they have a relationship that is in turmoil due to their lying (about to break-up or has broken up) and they want to try desperately to salvage it. The lucky ones do salvage their relationships. However the really lucky ones decide that they need to make this change for themselves - to be a better person - regardless of their current relationship. The ones that stick around and work the program all have this attitude. The others usually stop visiting the site once the relationship is back on track or once the relationship falls apart. Their motivation was to salvage the relationship, not to salvage their own life from lying.

Keep up the good work and remember - you can overcome lying. The truth can replace the lies and you can be known for being an honest person. Just takes time and consistency and not being too hard on yourself when you slip.

-Larry

Larry,
Thanks for responding. True, I have to fix myself before I expect others to believe in me. I noticed that my lying came out of protecting myself, for I feared that I wasn't good enough for my GF. Now, I know differently.

Tuesday. A long but good day. Hope everyone stays the course - honesty and integrity feel so good when you can truly live with those twin pillars.

I had a long, but good day as well. Staying the course as you say, but also keeping what is important in the back of my mind, and who is important as well. It has actually allowed me to concentrate at work a little better as well.

good work J

Wednesday am - just meditated; getting ready to go to the gym - may my Higher Power be with me today as this will be a good, but long and trying day.

Happy lie-free Wednesday to all!

This started out with a migraine, but now I'm up and running. Every day is a better day, even though the road is long...
Have a great day!
And a lie free day as well!

Hi everyone. Just checking in. Got some disturbing news this morning but I'm trying to hold fast to the belief that my higher power is in charge and has my best interest in mind. Trying not to stress but instead practice serenity. It will work out I know.

Iswan,
Hope your day got better and it all worked out!

Iswan - every day is a new day, hang in there my friend. Remember it is how we process and react to situations that we have control over not the events themselves.

Happy Lie free Thursday.

Looking for a great day...being able to be on this site has helped me a lot. Helping me move forward in my life.

Thanks J467 and BTR. Today is a better day for me. Day 29. Hope to see everyone at the online meeting tonight.

I'm finishing the week out myself if being honest. It's a great feeling to be getting back to the way I used to be. Everyone have a great day!

I'm finishing out the week being honest myself. It's a great and empowering feeling. Everyone have a great day!

good work J! It's Friday and I'm finally home after a week of traveling. In public settings I really need to think about what kinda crap comes out of my mouth - itravel and being surrounded by a lot of successful people is a trigger for me. I must of sounded like a moron, slowing down, starting and stopping in mid-sentence in order to reform my thoughts and words. It was a good learning experience and a real world test of my conviction to STBS (stop the BS).

happy Friday all and may you all enjoy a lie-free day.