Thank you to Born and Sailor for the welcome.

Wish I could that yesterday was successful. <Sigh.>
I lied about sticking to my diet (cheated at work), and then lied to my wife when I told her I had not lied to her yesterday.

I lie because I do not want to deal with the emotional pain / anger from my wife when I do not follow through on what I have committed to. I am an extremely internal processor, pretty immature (for someone who's pushing 50), and I remain bitter towards my wife due of how much I have had to sacrifice materially and change emotionally in order to become a man of integrity. My comfort has been rocked, and I don't like it. My lying is vengeance, control.

I also lie about spending money. I do not have a substance abuse problem, nor have I committed adultery.

My higher power is Christ, though I am not proud of how I carry myself. I am intending to go to a Celebrate Recovery meeting this Friday for the first time, and reading about the online discussion via this forum gives me a little hope.

This is my first time attempting something like this, and I would welcome any suggestions on how to really examine and deal with this problem head-on.

Barton today is a new day. You can not control yesterday, just right now.
I have been working on slowing down and thinking before answering.
Yesterday was a hard but amazing day. I really feel as though I'm understanding the toll
My lying has taken and the reasons why. I'm understanding what she needs
From me and why. I know it sounds silly and I know they are common sense
Things but it never clicked for me.. 12 days lie free...
I found an app for my phone call MST "my spiritual toolkit". Free and helpful.
Wishing all of you a lie free Tuesday.

Happy lie-free April Fool's day to everyone :-)

Hello everyone. I created my profile yesterday went without a lie all day. Today I started to lie for no reason. But right after I said it I quickly corrected it. I said I'm sorry that's not correct I should have said ..... It wasn't perfect but I was happy that I made the choice to correct myself and tell the truth. I know it will get harder before it gets easier. But I'm going to stay focused. Thanks for all the support

Hi Russ
My name is Ron and I am also a liar! I have three days in. Been a life time journey. Realizing the pain and hurt my lies have caused me tears me. Good job keep it up
Ron

Hi Russ
My name is Ron and I am also a liar! I have three days in. Been a life time journey. Realizing the pain and hurt my lies have caused me tears me. Good job keep it up
Ron

Barton and others I suggest you go back through previous posts - the suggestions are pretty consistent: Slow down, take a deep breath, think about what you're about to say (is it the truth or more BS?) if BS start the process over again (who cares if someone thinks your daff for taking so long to reply). and as Fulgen stated above if you lie, fix it.... immediately - Good work Fulgen!

The knowledge of being lie-free is wonderful and the irony is as you eliminate the lying the rest of your life becomes liberating. Yes, you may lose some friends and loved ones - that is their decision, not yours (yep, plan on giving up the thought of being able to control others) - but you will be on a healthy path.

Happy lie-free Wednesday

Good morning everyone! Day 6 lie free and things are starting to fall into place. Ironically the hardest part for me is my brain acting like everything is a lie still. My mind tries to think a step or two ahead towards what I will say next, even though I don't have to worry about that because I am being honest. Hopefully that makes sense. Anyways just staying honest today.

Born, Sailor: thank you for the encouragement. Today is a new day indeed. The truth shall set you free.

It's Thursday, that means an online LA meeting. I believe Sailor is leading this evening's meeting. Look forward to seeing y'all on line tonight - happy lie-free Thursday

Happy Thursday everyone! Day 7 (woohoo one full week!). It has had its ups and downs but I pushed through. I honestly don't think I would have made it without this group.

I am still dealing with the fallout of my lies. The broken trust, damaged relationships, and pain toward myself and others. I can only assume that those things will get better with time.

Congratulations Gabriel! A week is a big deal.

Working on taxes right now and it is tough to look back over the year and see the fun things my wife and I did together - the trips, the dinners, the nights out - only to realize it is all over now due to my lying. I will be happy when I am done with taxes so I can focus on the future going forward instead of having to look back at the past. Thanks Uncle Sam :-)

Hope to see/talk to some of you on the online meeting tonight in about 1 hour.

-Larry

Great meeting. Glad you to see you Larry. I'm sorry you're having to relive some tough things from the past, but remember those fun times and the hard times you're currently going through have brought you to where you are now and that is recovery! despite all the pain, there is no feeling like being in recovery once it all "clicks". *Hugs* to you tonight my friend.

Laura O.

Hi! I'm new here. My name is Pablo and I'm a liar but today was my first day "sober."
- Pablo

Welcome Pablo! Every day is an accomplishment. This group is amazing and has helped me to last 8 days.

Happy Friday everyone! My name is Gabriel and I am a liar. Things are slowly beginning to fall back into place in my life. The hardest part is that no one is sure if they should believe me when I tell them something. I have a job interview on Monday in a totally new industry and no one is really sure that I'm not lying about it. I don't blame them but it stings a little. I wish I had the magic words to make all the hurt I caused go away but rebuilding trust will have to be a day by day process just like telling the truth.

Let go of the past, focus on now, and worry about tomorrow tomorrow.