Checking in....30 days lie free, but I find myself getting defensive more often. Working on my triggers.
Looking forward to seeing everyone tonight at the meeting. Have a Lie free Thursday... BTR it will be good to see you!

I am Emma. I am a liar. I haven't lied in 2 days.

Sailor - Congratulations! 30 days is a big milestone.

Welcome Emma to our group. Stay strong - you can do it.

Just had a great online meeting led by pablita2. Thanks. Always encouraging to hear other peoples stories of success and stories of struggles. Together we are stronger than alone. The support and love I have felt from this group has been a great blessing and source of strength in my recovery efforts. Day 22 for me today.

Welcome Emma; Sailor, it was good talking with you and a well done 30 days! Iswan, 22 days! well done my friend and I agree Pab did a wonderful job leading the meeting, the readings were excellent and thought provoking.

This site and our meetings have been a great aid in helping me reach 136 days of sobriety and lie-free existence. Thank you guys.

Happy Friday

Hey. My name is Mike and I am a liar. My last lie was several hours ago and I am now facing the fact that I have a problem. It is burning bridges to the people I care about most and I want to change

Greetings every one,
Welcome gwu, Emma, Mike and any other new people lurking. I'm just over a week lie free. It's the second time I've gone this long in a month! I hope to keep it rolling. Entering in to this new commitment to my self and loved ones I had not gone more than 24 hours without lying, perpetuating a lie or omitting. I'm proud of my self and of all you. I thank everybody for being here to keep me accountable and for being here to share our common experiences and habits.

Eric

Greetings every one,
Welcome gwu, Emma, Mike and any other new people lurking. I'm just over a week lie free. It's the second time I've gone this long in a month! I hope to keep it rolling. Entering in to this new commitment to my self and loved ones I had not gone more than 24 hours without lying, perpetuating a lie or omitting. I'm proud of my self and of all you. I thank everybody for being here to keep me accountable and for being here to share our common experiences and habits.

Eric

Hello, I'm joe and I'm a liar.

I lied to my current gf about some of my financial ties with an ex gf. I also didn't tell her I owed just a small amount to the IRS. these were embarrassments in my past. And when she asked me about them, I denied them. She now has found out, and she thinks I'm a habitual liar. Which I'm not. So our relationship has ended because she doesn't believe me or trust me.

Hello,

Just checking in, I'm back up to nine days without lying. Hang in there Joe, all you can do is be transparent from here on out and attempt to explain why you haven't been honest. The real reasons.

When things went sideways with my wife (then girlfriend) for the sixth or seventh time over my dishonesty about money, I went so far as to take photographs of checks written to pay bills going into envelopes and envelopes going into the mailbox.

She always told me it wasn't necessary, but I needed to establish trust, and I needed the accountability. In many ways this group provides me with a subtler version of the same accountability.

You can't count on someone who you've hurt by lying offering his/her forgiveness. But you can always try to earn a new place in his/her heart. You can't control her perception of you, but you can influence her perception by acting differently.

Eric

Eric
Thanks for writing tonight. Yes, I have explained to her why, but she doesn't believe me. The problem is that we live together in her home. She has asked me to stop taking care of her and the house, but it is hard not to come home and not want to mow the lawn, help with dishes, etc. I have read else where to keep doing (with out lying) what you have always done, but at this point she has told me its over.
But what I don't understand, is she sent this link to me via text. What do I make of that? does she still love me? or?

Hi, my name is Pablo and I'm a liar. It's been 30 days lie free for me. I have since started attending a 12 step meeting and have started working with a sponsor. A lot of it has to do with pride and selfishness for me as well as my avoidance of confrontation. I wish you all the best- keep at it.

Yea Pabs! Great steps for recovery!! and congrats on 30 days - awesome!

Eric, I wouldn't read more into your GF sending the link than just that, but you can certainly help yourself by coming here every day, reading what has helped others, stop lying, and post your progress. You may wish to consider thanking your GF for sending the link, this is a safe place with good advice.

Day 2 after joining this site via my GF's suggestion. I'm glad I did. I am recognizing why I did what I did. And have to realize that I'm better than I think I am. I have always lacked confidence. This is why I lied to her.
Hope all you moms have a blessed day!

Go Pablo!

Eric checking in here again, Still lie free after more than a week.

J467, she isn't going to forgive you (maybe ever) but things can normalize and it'll probably take her a heck of a lot longer than a few days or weeks to get there with you.

When you come clean or when a lie is revealed, you get to feel relief from the burden of secrets kept too long, you unload that burden onto her, then she has to shoulder it. Don't get impatient with her, it can take people some time to come around.

Eric