Hi I'm the Calligrapher and I'm checking in. no lies today

TGIF again! Truth, gratitude, integrity and faith! Goals for today!

Still so hard to reconcile. last night an old friend contacted me out of the blue. someone I've hurt before. I said I'm doing fine. I couldn't even apologize and say I was sorry because I know she wouldn't believe me. telling her I'm trying to change doesn't matter either. once trust is broken it simply can't be fixed. thats the way of the lie. it's a one time shame forever. I feel I have to cut ties with everyone and simply start over

Hi I'm Longnose. I just joined the conversation - I was mostly honest yesterday and have a strong desire to be honest today. I know what you mean Calligrapher. My wife knows I am a liar and now refuses to believe anything I say. She doesn't want to have anything to do with a "loser, liar like me." She says that every day I show her that I don't care about anyone but myself. I really don't want to lose her, but I am at a complete loss as to what I can do to win her back. She is/was the best thing that ever happened to me and I lied my way out of a beautiful relationship. I'm at a crossroads: try things that might not work, or cut ties.

Hi everyone. My name is Max and I am a liar. I've been honest for 5 days. A warm welcome to Longnose and TheCalligrapher :). I am sorry to hear about your struggles. Many of us were brought here because our lying caused us to lose something important in life: our family, our job, our friends. Unfortunately most of us are too stubborn to work on our problems until we hear a serious wake-up call, but it's better to wake up late than maintain the delusion forever. Repairing broken trust is a very, VERY difficult thing, but I believe it can be done. If something is important to you, fight for it. Those we've hurt with our lying will only take us seriously if we demonstrate consistent improvement and sustained change. Mikeyrg has been a strong advocate on empathy on these forums, and I believe he is right. I think empathy, selflessness and honesty all go hand in hand. Good luck to everyone with their journey towards honesty. It is a long, windy path, but one very much worth taking. Remember to love yourself heal through positivity. We can all do this :). One day at a time.

I avoided lies today. I took my son to his activity to sign up and when the coach pressured us to stay for a quick workout I didn't make up a better sounding excuse. I told him that my son had a birthday party to attend and we would be at practice this week. it's so hard.

Hi everyone. My name is Max and I am a liar. I have been honest for 6 days. Things are still very rocky in my marriage, and I feel like the whole things is hanging by a thread. A divorce may very well be the final consequence of my lying past. I am doing everything I can to save my marriage at the moment, but maybe it is not enough. Time will tell.

TheCalligrapher, do not get discouraged. Like many things in life, the most difficult part is starting something new and sticking with it. You are not along in your struggles. Good for you for avoiding lying. Make sure to praise yourself for the little wins you achieve. For me personally, recovery has been trying to find a balance between self-love and self-criticism. Remember, positivity will help you change your behavior much more than negativity.

As always, good luck to everyone with their journey towards honesty. As long as we make just a little bit of progress each day, we will all get to where we want to be.

I lied again today. just a response to a text that wasn't even necessary. so often I try to get out of conversations instead of just saying no or yes and allowing life to proceed.

Hi everyone. My name is Max and I am a liar. I've been honest for 7 days, and am staying on track so far. The daily grind is quite tedious, but I know from past experience that this is what makes or breaks my routine. Persistence is always the key. In addition to focusing on lying, I am also trying to be more empathetic. So far, I haven't got to where I want to be, but I'm working on it. Good luck to everyone with their journey. Keep working towards whatever goals you want to achieve. We can do this :)

I'm Doug, I've been honest for 5 hours. Not long at all, but I've lost the love of my life over an insignificant lie. I have lied to her 6 times, and she said this is the last. I want to stop lying because I have kids to be a role model to. I also hope my now ex will see that I never intended to hurt her. I'm also tired of the burden lies make you carry.

Hi everyone. My name is Max and I am a liar. I've been honest for 8 days, and am well on my way towards my two week mark. No matter what happens, my work towards honesty has to continue.

Welcome, Doug. I wish you were posting under better circumstances, but nobody ever seeks this place out if everything is going great. I'm sorry to head about your loss. Unfortunately the most common side effect of lying seems to be failed relationships. Good for you for making the commitment to be honest. It is not an easy journey, but something which you can definitely achieve if you choose to. Stay strong, and remember to be kind to yourself, and to those around you. I believe in you, man :)

Hi everyone - this is Longnose. Good work, Max! Empathy and self-absorption are two critical components of being honest. I know that whenever I lie it's out of a feeling of self-preservation or a need to appear better than I really am. I've got to keep in mind that no one likes being lied to - me included. So, putting myself in others' shoes is difficult but essential. As is remembering that I am just one part of a relationship, whether that's global or two people, and that I am no more important than others. I also like to embellish stories - either to make them or myself seem more interesting. I have to remember that maintaining awareness can bring richness to life - and that it's more important to be interested than interesting. I have honest for 2 days and I still have a wife. I'm grateful for that and for the group. I wish you all an honest, peaceful night.

Hi everyone. My name is Max and I am a liar. I've been honest for 9 days, an am continuing to work towards my two week goal. Last time I made it to 13 days, which was very frustrating. One of my struggles is accepting things for what they really are. I often try to describe my bad decision and actions in a rosier light. I've been working on being more direct and truly accepting my failures as something to learn from rather than be ashamed of. The work continues. Good luck to everyone with their journey. We can all do this. One day at a time.

So many thoughtful post, all insightful and enriching! Continuing to strive to live by the HOUR. (Honesty, openness, unconditional love and respect)!

Hi everyone. My name is Max and I am a liar. I've been honest for 10 days, and am on track so far. Two months ago I would have struggled to hit double digits, so I can appreciate the progress that I've made. Still, there is more work ahead of me. Remember to stay positive and constructive during your journey; there is no benefit in negative self-talk. Good luck to everyone in achieving your goals. Believe in yourself, and work towards it bit by bit each day. We can do this :)