Hi I'm Eric, I'm a liar. I just slipped up. My 3 week streak has come to an end. I admitted it right away, but I don't feel good about it. Good luck Jen,

I know I've only been lie free for a short time. But I have decided to be truthful no matter the consequences. Some people don't like the truth, or you are afraid, as in my case. But now I say to myself it's better to deal with the truth now for all parties, then deal with it later when it's much worse.

Hello, I'm just checking in, day 1. Keep on truckin' J.

Eric

Busy day for me, about 9-10 hours of yard work. Gf place is almost caught up. Garden is just about done, lawn mowed, etc. It's a great time to reflect, listen to music, and get inspired.
Hope all of you had a great day too.

Eric - don't be discouraged. At some point you might have to extend yourself some grace. I know different people have different ideas of what it means to be honest or lie-free. Personally I have settled on not counting it as a lie if I immediately correct the lie and tell the truth - in the same conversation - and without being "caught" by the other person - i.e. I corrected it on my own. I had to give myself that much grace because sometimes the lie comes out so fast and automatically that I don't have time to stop it, and I knew I would be too discouraged with my progress of "lie free" days if I did not give myself a little bit of grace. My last streak was 38 days and when I slipped up with a lie of omission I did correct it the same day but it was several hours later so I felt I had to start my counter over at zero again. It seems like it took forever to build back up, but today is day 37 on my new streak!

J467 - couldn't agree more with you. The pain of telling the truth now is NEVER as great as the pain of telling the truth (or having it found out) later after you have lied about it.

Hang in there everyone and enjoy Memorial Day tomorrow.

hello, my name is Jon, this is my first post. My life is a fucking mess. about to loose my wife and kids. my lies have all blown up, i am spiraling out of control. Was given an intervention with my wife and therapist today. I am ready to change and accept everything. I am a fucking liar and I have detroyed everyone around me. I am headed to a NA meeting, since its only option tonight in my area. i live in baltimore suburbs.
any advice. looking for help and answers. today is day 1 for me, No lies today!

welcome jon - something that helped me immensely in the early days of attempting to resolve my lying was to post here every friggin day, even if I was simply posting to myself - I also read previous posts from those who were making progress: slow down; think before speaking; take a deep breath or three; if you lie, fix it immediately.

It is not going to be easy to break years of lying and you may lose people or things you cherish, but then we make our own bed and have to accept the consequences of our actions - BUT honesty has its own rewards which may not seem obvious at first.

Hang in there and take it one moment at a time.

Hang in there Jon. They performing an intervention shows they care.

this is Jon, I am a liar. I have not lied today!! 2nd day on this site

thanks all for kind wishes

I have for 2 days gone to AA meetings and have been substituting the drinking with lying.
anyone else have tried this concept. While I do not have a substance problem, I have an addiction

I'm in the online meeting right now. Anybody else going to join me?

Bad day yesterday and today. The GF and I are splitting up. But we are both guilty of lying as I found out. I think this will be for the better...as the reason I was lying was because of the omission to protect myself and to protect her.

sorry to hear about the split J, things do have a curious way of working themselves out.

Larry, I hope someone joined the meeting - Thursdays are becoming difficult for me, sorry to have missed out.

All is pretty good on this end. I feel myself slipping after some crappy days at work - no lies, just falling into a precarious place, which I have the power and the will to correct - for starters posting here and getting current; then meditation; and step work - it's all good, if I make it good.

Hi BTR. Since I have been the only one to join the meeting for the last 2 weeks I am going to stop hosting the online meetings. In the future if there is a group that wants to meet, they can start it back up again.

Doing good today. Day 41 for me. Be strong everyone and stay the course.

Hi my name is David and I am a liar. This is my first post to this group.

Congratulatins Iswan - 41 days is awesome and a wonderful accomplishment! Keep up the good work!

Welcome David - keep coming back. I found in my first 90 days of breaking the habit of lying that coming here and posting everyday, whether someone else posted or not was extremely helpful - maybe one of the most helpful tools in my recovery - I'm now workng on day 160 and attribute much of my good fortune to this site and great people like Iswan, sailor, pab and others.