Let the sun shine on your face :) It just feels good...

Laugh like you've never laughed before...

I just had a good suggestion. How about comfort activities. When people are down they want comfort foods that remind them of happier times often childhood. Well, what about coloring, swinging, playing dress up, or jumping rope. I can barely remember doing anything besides playing barbies as a child and unfortunately I just don't have the imagination for that anymore.

i think there are a lot of things one can do. there are a couple that stand out to me that i have read thus far. first, and oddly enough, this one struck me when i read it is the one about the battery operated boyfriend and hands. sexual feelings are one of the first things affected by strong emotions. when people get upset, their sex drive goes out the window. pleasing oneself does many things. it makes you feel more attractive, but it also releases tons of endorphins in your brain, which is the body's built in feel good center. same for exercise. people who run often speak of the runners high they get. it is the flood of endorphins that are released after exerting yourself. using your body's own defenses to help you only makes sense! however you can stimulate your body to do that, be it exercise or giving yourself pleasure...it is essential.

Say the Serenity Prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.

everyone has replied with anything i would have said. i just wanted to thank pgamble, what an incredible idea, and also i wanted to add my thanks to the people here at ds, this site has changed my life, it helps keep me strong, it helps to keep me thinking about the things i need to change in my life for a better life and perhaps a relationship in the future. (light bulb) please please please, don't be afraid your going to be alone the rest of your life, once some time has passed you'll see it's part of the beginning of the journey, fear. two things to tell yourself, in the beginning, 1. it's ok for me to feel this way, your allowed to be a big ball of emotional mess.
and when in the healing process.
2.i'm going to be ok, and smile because you really are.

Dont dial drunk! lol or email or IM or TXT

Dont play them this song...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hMenB9Ywh2Q

Hey pgamble:

Got another one.

Do not post if you cannot take criticism. Every now and then, it seem to be a bash episode. Sometimes, people are hasty in replying. When faced with this situation...reply with, thank you for your care and concern.

Great idea pgamble. Alot of what I would offer has been said.
The big thing for me is: Ask for help when you need it. Surround yourself with people that can help you. Delete the people that bring you down. Make lists to help keep yourself on track with what you need to get done.
Eat as best as you can. If you can't eat, buy some Boost drinks to help keep you nourished. Drink water.
Be patient with yourself. This is a marathon, not a sprint race.
Watch funny movies.
Try to keep your finances as organized as you can. Communicate with the people that you owe $ to. They will be much more willing to cooperate if you do so.
Get a binder for all of your atty. paperwork and whatever other paperwork is involved in the process. Keep it organized. Document everything.
Accept the days when you need to just be in bed to get rest.
Don't let your atty. push you around. Get a different one if you feel uncomfortable. They are hired to work for you. not the other way around.
Cry, scream and yell when you want to.
Choose you battles wisely and carefully.

I'm with pgamble with #1:SLEEP! #2: water

exercise: http://www.nianow.com/

make your room your comforting sanctuary: http://flylady.net/

forgiveness exercise: http://www.loveandforgive.org/letting_go.php

journal. inner child stuff (NOT kidding - breakup is the time to do it.) does anyone want to talk about that?

"The New Earth" Eckhart Tolle
http://www.oprah.com/obc_classic/webcast/ane_marketing.html

"The Feeling Good Handbook" (not sexy, very dry, but can change your brain)
http://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Handbook-David-Burns/dp/0452281326/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1211749134&sr=8-1

These are all so good...thank you.

I'm new on this sitte, was on infidelity, and guess what, we became another statistic. Not what I wanted, but what I am faced with. I read through all "manual" and will try to practice them as much as possible. It's easy to say, hard to do at times. For me, the forgiveness part of this will be the most important but unfortunetly, the hardest. I pray time will be help. Maybe, others can add some "not to do" suggestions too. We can be our own worse enemy.

PGamble,

Great idea! Add do volunteer work, go to church, and plan events for yourself to this really great list.

1. Read, read, read, read, read. Start with "The Journey From Abandonment to Healing" & then read "Love Must Be Tough".
2. sunbathe
3. walk
4. don't be vindictive - you will want to but take the higher ground
5. don't play the victim - it's the hardest but well worth it.
6. be vulnerable and cry whenever you need to. Don't stop crying. It's the best and fastest way to get over it.

and all the other suggestions on here are right on. This was a GREAT discussion. So valuable.