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I made a list of goals for myself for 2008 and posted it on the fridge as a reminder.. I look at it often as well as a few "stay strong" quotes just to keep it fresh in my head.

Never and I repeat never in your weakest of moments call the stbx crying. Dance as often as possible. Find a way to laugh at least once a day. Be wary of friends that don't really care they just want to hear the "gossip" talk to the people you know really love and care about your well being.

get what i call break up buddie..someone to call any hour of the day or night..it may be the wee hours of the morning or night..you can call them..but funny thing is sometimes knowing you can makes all the difference

Rediscover a hobby and learn all you can about it.

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Look for humor and things that can make you laugh like a funny movie or hanging out with folks who have a sense of humor. Not everything has to be doom and gloom during this time.

Part of the 'taking care of yourself' part is to look at yourself honestly and figure out what you need to do to live your best life with honesty integrity. When you are in a relationship, it is easy to give others the power and to filter your own behavior through the relationship. Take your time to really examine who you are, and what you need to do to be your best self. Until you do this, you will not be ready for another relationship.

I'm with teadrinker: Exercise.

Discover things that you love. Hobbies. Do things for yourself.

allow yourself to experience your feelings even if it's pain because with that comes healing and recovery

I really want thank everyone that has posted to this. I just have to figure out how to put it to good use here now. This I believe is one of the key components to healing. (helping others and spreading what we have learned). I think this is one of the best attributes of human beings. The willingness to help others in need. If someone has some ideas on how to make this easily available to others please post. I am well on my way to healing. I know that many things have gotten me through one of the toughest points in my life. DS and the people here have played a large role in that. I thank each and everyone of you that have been there for me.

Talk about it with friends and family.

Focus on getting thru one hour by hour then day by day.

And another one, don't beg you X in comming back, kep your pride and she will notice your strengh in time.

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I have a few break up books that I've been reading. Two of the suggestions in them are
1. to take some time to just be a mess (cry, lounge around the house, etc.)
2. make a list of the x's bad qualities and when you are missing them..look at the list.
3. Make a list of the qualities you want in a partner (and don't list your x)

I'll add more the further along I get in the books

Go out of your way to be kind to others. It comes back to you, when you least expect it.