I agree with Mrs. Kolo, when we are children, we only have our previous experience to build upon for making choices.
A choice to pull or not pull. I agree, and it's the hardest part of dealing with trich, because it feels so good to have the hair gone, in that moment.
Best wishes on your continued success!
Stay strong, you can do this!

I agree with that too, and I often give parents of kids with trich that advice. But the more positive stories and knowledge made available to kids with trich (given to them without pressure or nagging), the better their outcome can be. Well that's what I believe.. Am I being naive?

I think you are right - but so often parents can just get in the way and make the feelings worse - I think for parents you have to give the kids the tools but also the space and independence. I know my parents involvement made me feel much much worse and I just buried it - so much so Ihaven't been able to talk about it in person ever since to anyone!

Yep, I agree that the individual has to come to their own conclusions. I guess I just wish there were more positive/success stories out there, in the open, because I know that they exist! I guess it all comes back to the thing that we all want; more exposure and knowledge of trich in everyday life. It starts with people like us, spreading our knowledge, but we're all so ashamed to talk about it! I would love to be brave enough to post on facebook that I have trich and give some info about it, but at the same time, I really don't want to! It's no-one's business but mine, and I don't generally share anything on facebook. But I want to create exposure. BUT BUT BUT.

Okay, I've tried writing a reply a few times now it keeps coming out wrong. For now, I think I'll just say thank you for writing it - you've given me a lot to think about (so no, you're not late to the party!).

Ultimately, I think that your last conclusion -- you don't have to be afraid that this evil trich is just going to overtake you and spoil your efforts -- is totally correct and what a beneficial revelation to have. So glad for you that you're finding a positive, healthy perspective to view trich!

Yes that's the bit I'm happy about too. In my "revelation" I may have underplayed the strength of the urge sometimes, and I do realise that the strength of the urge does differ from person to person, I realise that for some people they get strong urges all day which constantly persist them.

xx I love your replies Kauxfire, you're always so calming and sage..

157 days, arghhhhhhh what should I do to celebrate 6 months?

Oh yes urges can completely overwhelm at times....thats where techniques, barriers and distractions come into use!

6 months is awesome - nice meal out with boyfriend? Amazing day out somewhere? lovely new shoes?

Whoo, hoo! 157 days! Six months, I can think of all sorts of things to do to celebrate! It really depends on what makes you excited and want to stand on top of the mountain and do a shout out!

I am seeing the vicious cycle of shame come through in how parents react to their children having trich, and it will take time for the awareness to help some parents realize their personal feelings have to be switched in order to help resolve the trich conflict in their households.

The urges, the power we have over the urges, and the privacy on the social network, and together, hard to find a way to match up. Separate them, and I think we will find something that works for us!

Here's to another pull-free day, and urge distraction!

158 days!! Come onnnn 180! I've been preeetty good at keeping my hands down, not the best. Found myself playing in the car last night, which I haven't done for AGES. I usually grip the wheel with both hands. I'll have to make sure that I keep doing that.

I like your ideas Mrs Kolo, I'll take all three thanks!

Thanks mid!! Yep today will be pull free. It certainly helps that its so cold I'm wearing a beanie as I work all day on my laptop, and then tonight I'll be at work. So distractions and barriers all day! UGH I HATE MY JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have two waitressing jobs in addition to my design stuff, and one of them kinda sucks. The chef is, to put it politely, a dickhead. Most chefs are a little crazy but he's a doozy. And the boss is basically a retired man with OCD, who is lovely until you do something wrong, then he goes nuts. Thankfully I haven't done anything wrong yet, but I basically live in fear! I should get another job, but they are currently giving me 30hrs a week, which is creating great savings for my upcoming trip. But I can't live like this any more! I wake in the morning miserable cos I know I have to go to work there.. Like today, I can't enjoy my saturday cos I'm thinking about working tonight. I really like working at my other job.. Ugh, I need to just go an get a new job I think. Sick of this crap.

SORRY for miserable post by the way, I didn't intend it to be that way. xoxo thanks for all of your support :) It means so much to me.

(oh and ps, re: the boss at this job I hate, doing something wrong could be leaving your water bottle at work over night.. ARGH!)

158 days!!! aaah!!!! celebrate every single day!!!1
and thats too bad about your work- that literally sounds like the worst boss ever!!!! and theres absolutely nothign you can do but sit there nerviously hoping you wont get yelled at haha HATE that!!!!

so happy that you've been doing well- hope the work situation fixes itself soon!

Yeah, it sounds like your boss sucks. Great to hear that you're still pull-free though!

Yep C, especially when compared to my other boss, ME! haha. I love being self employed. It is great, I'm thankful for being pull free.

Hehe I am celebrating firante, kinda! I get excited every time I post a new day on here. That's my celebration. And you're right about all I can do is hope and hope I won't get yelled at, I'm going to be in charge of the front of house soon, sooooo scared of effing up. But I'm more scared of yelling back or quitting if I get yelled at! I won't be pushed around. Off to work soon, noooooooo! I'm such a complainer, sorry :(

Hmm, celebrating 6 months. I keep thinking of ideas that involve a fair amount of money - booo! Spa day, a new fun electronic gadget (iphone/pod/pad), I like Mrs. Kolo's idea of new shoes!

On the more cost effective side, maybe you can ask your boyfriend to be your slave for a day ;-)

Thank God your job can just be short term. It's already mid-May! August is around the corner...

..."Calming and sage?" Ha!! I wish! You are too kind :-)