Cali123
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- I need some help developing a plan to leave and the timeline. I know that I need to start saving cash as I can and putting it in a place that he can't access and does not know about. Wouldn't that look bad in the eyes of the court? Hiding...
- I'm watching TV this morning while my son is still asleep. Yay! my own show -- watching recordings of Fashion Show on Bravo. I was such a big fan of Project Runway. LOLAnyway, a commercial came on for a website that takes all of your break up...
- and I feel so much better now that I've written it all down. I know that I can't write in a paper journal, so I will be typing it here. At least I can make it private if I want to as well! An added layer of security if H ever did catch on!Question...
- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rooyt3ptNco&feature=relatedto the tune of Louis Armstrong's "Wonderful World"
- My H is on a trip with a buddy this weekend. They have all kinds of awesome things planned. My son is excited too because we always have "mommy dates" when H goes away. We'll do really fun things too! My son broke my heart tonight at dinner when...
- I'm sure most of us know about the cycle of abuse:1 - the Tension building phase2 - the Explosion3 - the "Honeymoon" phaseHas anyone else experienced the honeymoon phase growing shorter and shorter, to the point of sometimes being...
- I should probably post this in the Breakups & Divorce section but was wondering if anyone has used a divorce financial planner when preparing for a divorce. I want to know whatever bleak future I'm up against, and how stuck I actually am in my...
- I looked through my journal yesterday. It hasn't been updated since before I found out about H's affair. I keep it in my desk drawer at work because he's found it and read it, so it stays far away from him now. What I had written is so depressing to...
- I've been working really hard to be more assertive for myself and not take the abuse. I know it's a treacherous position I'm putting myself in. He could flip out on me at any time. But, I've been using a lot of techniques to shut him down, and...
- I was just looking at some emotional/verbal abuse books on Amazon. I came across one written by Susan Forward. It's called Emotional Blackmail. I read inside the book a little bit, and a lot of the examples used in the book have happened to me...
- Should I expect my therapist to validate that I am being abused by my husband? He has never said the word abuse... When I told him about my H shoving me onto the floor (it felt more like he picked me up, and shoved me), he told me that I should...
- I received approval from my employer to go to a conference in DC in September. Under any normal circumstances, I'd be really excited because it's a way for me to grow in my career. The wrench in the story is that my employer approved a male...
- Are there any NON-abusive people out there? I see so many people on here who are in very similar situations as I am, but I don't hear very much about healthy relationships and non-abusive people...Other than the polar opposite of what most of us on...
- I posted much of this on the Infidelity board, but wanted to post here too. My H is such an ass! He is the one who had an affair, but his insecurity lives on, and the abuse is only getting worse.1 - This time, I noticed that he cleared the Internet...
- OMG - I am so mad right now, I want to scream! My H is the one who had the affair. Now, his insecurity and abuse is really bothering me.This time, I noticed that he cleared the Internet browsing history from our computer. He does this rather...