ESTRANGED FROM FAMILY Community Group

This group was created to talk about family situations where estrangement was chosen or others have chosen to estrange you. Many families are now estranged with individual members, not excluding; Sister-in-Laws, Brother-in-Laws, Parents, siblings, Uncles, Aunts, the other family and so on. Sharing the reasons for estrangement in order to help those who are new in estrangement, are hurting or are ok with the estrangement. Let's always keep respect for each other in the highest prior

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  • deleted_user

    finally letting go of my sister

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    I am so glad to have found this forum. Five years ago my sister became angry at my mother and violently attacked her. She stopped speaking to my parents and I was in the middle. My sister and I had a minor disagreement, over something very petty, and she cut me out. Six months later I tried to reconcile, she told me she wasn't ready and it had to be on her terms. I was baffled because it was...
  • ryverrat

    Why have you given up on your family member(s)?

    I think we all have different reasons to have given up. For me it was my mother's narcissism. There is no stopping it and I was hurt badly by it. Admitting it in a non-judgmental environment helps, make me not feel like a bad daughter. It takes the blame from me and puts it where is belongs- mom.
  • Thumpa

    Miss the people I thought they were...

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    hi all,can I honestly ask if it is a terrible thing to NOT want your parents in your life??? I feel terrible for not wanting to fix this anymore... I always was the one that kept my family together. The fixer, the youngest but eldest of my sisters to organise and create a wonderful family life with my parents... But lately it's like I've realised that my sadness and loneliness I feel from the...
  • Today is my husbands bday.... one of the nicest ones we've had for ages!but then... 8 o'clock at night- his so called mother texts to say happy birthday... hope he's had a nice day with his beautiful family... wtf? It's been years of no contact and she hasn't even met one of out girls (her own grand daughter)!he replied saying thank u and I can't help but feel furious because she doesn't even...
  • Thumpa

    Everyone has their parents around them... but me

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    hust have to let this out- even at the Drs I hate seeing the parents of adults with babies helping and supporting their child and grand children... at this very moment I am sitting across from a mother of a little girl and she has her parents AND grandparents sitting next to her. All happily helping out holding bub and even offering to change her nappy... while I sit here alone... and wait for...
  • seekingbuddha

    accepting the loss of family

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    Hi all! I know that many people love this time of year, but I am always filled with dread and sadness. I have 2 brothers that I have not seen in over 20 years. There is a pattern of excluding people in my family of origin, and I am the one who is excluded in my generation. I have nieces that I know about from Facebook. My one brother has been married for almost 30 years and has 2 young adult...
  • heathern898

    Not close at all

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    So, I have never been close to my family. I always considered myself to be different than my siblings. I did things that my other siblings did not do ( bad things). I was rebellious and so on. I feel like I try with my family. I send cards for Christmas and bdays ect, and I feel like they do not care in the least. I get upset when I see this happening, I feel like we all should be closer than we...
  • deleted_user

    Are there Others out there?

    Have you estranged yourself from someone in your family? I have. I had to. My family continues to cause so much harm and unjust that some members I had to say goodbye to.I'm just wondering if anyone has done the same and you would like to share your story.I'll start this discussion and see how many others join who are tired of being told they are wrong for turning away.
  • wep

    Negative Words

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    Last weekend was my nieces' birthday. Mom called my oldest brother (I hate when he talks with her). Mom wanted to send his daughter a card and a gift (she is about 9 years old). He told mom that his daughter has a lot of stuff and that she is not into fingernail polish like most girls, she is mostly interested into her movies but he never told her what movies my niece is interested into. The next...
  • Gia1994

    Adult Sibling Rivalry

    Searching for people who have been rejected by a brother or sister. Have had sibling rivalry as children and as adults now. Your Brother/Sister severed the bond with you. And how to deal with the feelings of abandonment, rejection and being ignored.
  • deleted_user

    Estranged? *may trigger*

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    I just joined this group thinking it was a group for those who no longer have conatct with the abusive family, anyone who excused the abuse, turned a blind eye, was emotionally abusive............But as i read the replies i see a lot still do have conatct with your families so what does being estranged really mean?I guess my meaning is different than others.When i mean estranged from family is...
  • deleted_user

    Why does my brother blame me for his issues with h

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    my brother is 30 im 33, i helped raise him until he was 12 and went to live with his dad...i have always thought of him as my child and we were very dependent on each other...we were raised in a physically and verbally abusive home...eventually we moved to live with our fathers, he was 12 i was 15...we would visit each other at least once and year and have amazing times together reminiscing of...
  • deleted_user

    talking about my estrangement too hard

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    and it would take over 50 episodes of dr phil to scratch the surface.i was a victim of severe child abuse by my father & mother. siblings were sometimes a part of pleasing my parents with their interaction. a few siblings were not targeted. anyway im 59 yrs old now.i have a wonderful husband of 23 years now. i do not like to talk about the terrible things that happenend to me.but i still...
  • deleted_user

    Son is getting married and rejecting his family

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    I never thought I'd be writing on a site like this but seeing my wife not sleep for 3 months, waking up with the thought of losing my son is just overwhelming. We've done all we can now and have to wait for his marriage for us to be insulted one final time. The feelings of loss are incalculable to both of us... We over indulged our children and now we are paying the price... Our daughter...
  • deleted_user

    New to this group.

    Hello Everyone!My name is Brie. I have an aunt who chose to estrange herself to the entire family due to some differences of not getting along with her siblings (aka my parents and my other aunt and uncles). I am trying to reach out to her and reconnect with her. Its been over 10 years and my grandmother is starting worry for her youngest daughter. I am very thankful to have found this group to...