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I am finding that the less I think about the "good" times and the more I think about the things that really annoyed me, pissed me off or the stupid things my stbx did, the better and stronger I feel.
So, maybe your entries to this post can help most if not all of the DSers through this difficult time.
I'll start (and I have a lot):
1. My stbx literally screwed my throw rugs to the floors (in kitchen, dining room, living room, and den) because he said they kept moving.
2. He put the upright vacuum on the seat cushion of the new couch (while it was running) and it sucked the material up around the roller which burned a permanent long mark in the fabric. He said he didn't know it would do that.....duh!
Your turn....I'll continue with more of mine later.
So, maybe your entries to this post can help most if not all of the DSers through this difficult time.
I'll start (and I have a lot):
1. My stbx literally screwed my throw rugs to the floors (in kitchen, dining room, living room, and den) because he said they kept moving.
2. He put the upright vacuum on the seat cushion of the new couch (while it was running) and it sucked the material up around the roller which burned a permanent long mark in the fabric. He said he didn't know it would do that.....duh!
Your turn....I'll continue with more of mine later.
My stbx once told my 4 yr old daughter they would never be friends and that for her never to draw him pictures again, because he didnt want them.
My stbx would save his belly button lint! I swear to God he did!!
My stbx chews tabacco and leaves his spit cups all over the house. They smell really bad.
When my neighbor was dating her X, instead of washing his clothes, he would throw his clothes away and buy new ones
When they were married, she asked her husband to do the dishes, well, instead of washing them, he threw them away in the garbage when he thought she wasn't looking.
With my stbx, he used to put his dirty clothes on top of the hamper instead of putting them inside it even when it was empty.
My X would pick his nose when he was driving then wipe the boggers on the bottom of the seat.really gross when you go to move your seat...
2. Ran over my new extension cord with the lawnmower
3. Burned out the engine on the lawnmower by attempting to cut the tall wet grass
4. came on the property and stole my new extension cord
5. over the period of at least 10 years continously ruined my whites by putting something 'red' into the washer and turning all my clothes pink and thus dingy.
6. broke the sofa by jumping on it.
7. pawned my heirloom jewellry that my grandfather and great grandfather made.
8. has broken many items due to sheer brute force
9. refused to ever clean the bathroom or the toilet
10. never vacumned or washed or swept the floors.
11. never cleaned the fridge or the stove
12. never knew that the car needed oil and didn't know what a dipstick was.....had to call me at work to tell me the car wouldn't work....lol...
13. after he found out the car needed oil to run he still allowed it to run out of oil on multiple occassions.
14. bought a new beater van after we split...asked me to help him check the oil and find the dipstick...then asked me to help him fill the oil tank....during a rainstorm!...grrrr..and I did!
15. recently reprimanded my girls to be nice to his new 26 year old refugee from Riwanda girlfriend....just cos...grrrrrrrrrr ....
2. after her baths, she left her wet towels on the bed and I'd have to pick them up when I got home from work
3. she once backed into my car and then blamed me!
4. She bought tons of stuff with credit cards behind my back, hid the receipts, and then I had to come up with the money to pay.
5. I basically had to beg for sex, felt like there was something wrong with me.
Well, these are just a few things that I don't miss.
2. My ex use to watch TV ( when home) and say he would be up in ten minutes or so to go to bed and never make it to bed. I would have to wake up at night and wake him to ask him to come to bed, but would say the same thing. I would only get maybe lucky at most once a week or when he decide he wanted sex in all 8 years of marriage.
3. My ex never called me, but only when he needed something and never came home in time for dinner to eat with son and me, but maybe one day a week at most.
4. In 8 years of marriage he never went to my mom's house but once for vacation and most things I did with the son for fun was done alone since he was always at work.
5. When we did go out with others we would have a great time, but now that I look back we never acted like we were married and he would talk to everyone else. Thank god I am get along while meeting new people and not shy lol.