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I am finding that the less I think about the "good" times and the more I think about the things that really annoyed me, pissed me off or the stupid things my stbx did, the better and stronger I feel.
So, maybe your entries to this post can help most if not all of the DSers through this difficult time.
I'll start (and I have a lot):
1. My stbx literally screwed my throw rugs to the floors (in kitchen, dining room, living room, and den) because he said they kept moving.
2. He put the upright vacuum on the seat cushion of the new couch (while it was running) and it sucked the material up around the roller which burned a permanent long mark in the fabric. He said he didn't know it would do that.....duh!
Your turn....I'll continue with more of mine later.
So, maybe your entries to this post can help most if not all of the DSers through this difficult time.
I'll start (and I have a lot):
1. My stbx literally screwed my throw rugs to the floors (in kitchen, dining room, living room, and den) because he said they kept moving.
2. He put the upright vacuum on the seat cushion of the new couch (while it was running) and it sucked the material up around the roller which burned a permanent long mark in the fabric. He said he didn't know it would do that.....duh!
Your turn....I'll continue with more of mine later.
My ex wouldn't unpack from a trip. She would simply put the suitcase on the floor and remove articles when she needed them. The luggage would often sit on the floor for weeks after the return from a trip.
My ex would replace the toilet paper roll when it would get down to the last couple of squares ... but she wouldn't throw away the old rolls. There were a couple dozen toilet paper rolls with 4 or 5 squares still on them piled up underneath the sink cabinet. When asked why she didn't throw them away, her reply was, "I can use them for a craft project with the kids".
My ex used to take her hair that would come out during a shower and roll them up into little hair balls ... but instead of throwing them in the garbage, would start a little collection of them on the soap shelf.
2. Blows his nose in the shower right onto the shower curtain or walls, and doesnt wipe it off.
3. Watches his 'adult movies' in the bedroom and deposits his 'stuff' directly onto the carpet next to the bed.
4. Doesnt brush his teeth on the weekend because, "it's the weekend".
5. Sweats when he eats
6. Got so drunk one time that he crapped his pants in his sleep (in my bed, and I was 8 months pregnant), then re-washed the underwear and keeps wearing them!
7. Laughs when people get hurt.
8. Eats from my plate, even if we're at a buffet and he can get as many of his own plates as he wants.
9. Only cuts his toenails about twice a year.
10. Bites his fingernails and spits them wherever he is sitting, couch, floor, tables, WHEREVER!
OK That's my top 10!
My ex would cut his toenails, and put the clippings on the table next to him so he could chew on them while watching tv. He would pick his nose and wipe it on his pants. He always chewed with his mouth open, that makes me sick to see someone smacking their lips when they eat.. that sound is worse than fingernails on a chalkboard. His dirty socks were always on the living room floor. His empty pop cans, and paper plates were sitting on the end table right IN FRONT of the trash can. He refused to use a regular plate, insisted that he could only eat off paper plates, but refused to put them in the trash when he was finished. Not to mention that on the rare occassion that his plate would end up in the trash, his dirty fork was left on the table instead of taking it back to the kitchen. When he undressed right in front of the dirty clothes hamper, his dirty clothes would be thrown in the floor. He never did laundry.. if he happened to run out of clean clothes before I did laundry, he would wear a dirty pair, then tell his mom that I didnt do his laundry. HELLO, you are an adult too, and are quite capable of working the washer on your own. He would use his dirty socks to wipe his nose if it was runny... even though I keep kleenex boxes in almost every room in my house. He showers about once maybe twice a week, and brushes his teeth about once or twice a month. When he shaved his hair, he would leave the clipped hair all over the bathroom.(well, at least he didnt collect it eh LMAO) I could go on and on.. he is a pig.
my stbx told our son that he didn't have enough $$ for food so he went to the food bank - he makes lots of $$ - wanted us to feel sorry for him, anyway he tells the kid, I have lots of food now because I told the food bank I have a family of 4 to feed. (a very low point in the life of his 13 yrs old son) stbx lives by himself - then tells the kid, he is selling his blood for money, a journeyman electrician, right.... even lower point for the kid. what a gem, right?
2-My stbx would never help out around the house...he would do his laundry, but noone else's.
3-Told my 13 year old daughter to get the f--- out of HIS house because her friend came in to use the restroom when we weren't home.