I will thanks for the reply. I've been doing so much reading and research. As bad as it sounds I feel great, because I'm finally starting to understand so much about myself and my problem. This website is incredible. I've found many other websites, but when I get reading, I quickly learn that they really have no clue about our problem. This has been the first website that has made a difference to me.

That was my big issue as well. There doesn't seem to be a place that discusses the actual person doing the lying - just the family/friends that are effected by the liar. I loved this site and this board. I actually started a blog as well, if you're interested in reading that. It's just my experiences and thoughts/feelings.

http://truthisarevolutionaryact.wordpress.com/

Well I just lied, I'm admitting it. :/

Ah I hit submit before I explained. I wrote a letter to my ex last night/this morning and I wanted to give it to her in person, but she's been ignoring me for the last couple days, so I decided I'd mail it. I told my dad that I wrote her a letter a week ago, and I forgot to give it to her when I saw her last. Ugh I was worried he'd give me crap for bugging her, so I lied and said it was a week ago that I wrote it so he would mail it for me today. I miss my ex and her daughter like crazy, it really tears me apart knowing what I've done to her during the time we were together. She gave me many many chances to stop lying and when I finally started telling her the truth it blew up in my face, and now I think she is gone for good. She said she is so tired of it and she just can't do it anymore. I told her the truth on christmas night hoping to start a new year right, but she broke up with me two days later. Anyways here is my story if anyone wants to read it.

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/liars-anonymous/discussions/messages/15432406

I wish she'd realize that my problem is an addiction, but she's looking at it like I purposely lied and hurt her, she has even said it is about morals :( . I've tried to tell her that I couldn't explain it and that I wasn't trying to hurt her. I genuinely love her and her daughter so much. I did send her some links from the website, but I don't know if she'll read them.

I'll check out your blog

It's tough to come clean, even about little things. But especially difficult when you have to come clean to someone you love and care about regarding larger things.

You're right - people that don't suffer from this don't understand it. It's too hard to explain because they don't have the compulsion that we do - for whatever reason. That doesn't help things for you, i know. But what you have to remember is that you can only control your actions, and you cannot control the way that people react to them, you know?

Just keep telling the truth, come clean right away if/when you slip. Some of the 12 Step literature helps me by just swapping out drinking for lying. Hope that helps, and keep posting!

Hello everyone,

Lost count of how many days in I am. It's been tough, especially lately, but we muscle through, right? You guys are awesome. At any rate, I'm checking in. Peace and love to all of you guys. ALL of you!

Checking in today. I'm trying to tame this beast of lying. As lame as it sounds, one day at time is the way for me. My mantra is "no lies today". I will do this!

This is my first time checking in, I have lied for as long as I remember. I have hurt so many people and I am wanting a better life. My life has gone so wrong and I truly know it's from my web of lies that started at a young age. I had a band aid ripped off of me today and it needed to happen. I have been 0 days of not lying, but today is going to be my first day of the rest of my life. I'm so glad that there is a group out there like this! Looking forward to reading and learning how to cope with my new life without lying!!!!

Hi Packer! Welcome! Great to have you, and congratulations on the first step!

Hi everyone. It's been a while since I checked in! I'm 38 days into recovery, but can't say it's 38 days of not lying. Nothing big, but exaggerations have come out when I'm with friends and telling stories, etc. that's the hard thing for me. I have a flair for the dramatic and really just want to make the story better. I don't do this type of lying in a calculated or malicious way, but it's still lying... At least right now until I get the other stuff under control.

No big lies, no stealing, and it feels great!! Working on the exaggerating from this point forward. Thanks for being here.

- Kelly

Checking in today. I'm trying to tame this beast of lying. As lame as it sounds, one day at time is the way for me. My mantra is "no lies today". I will do this!

Hi everybody this is day 1 again for me. I got in my car today and heard a song that I think everybody needs to listen too. It's called "changed" by Rascall Flats

And so it goes…

I was doing so well with controlling my lying. Working hard to slow down and think before I speak. Then this morning for absolutely no reason, I lied to my son on the way to school. Of course I embellished a story. Like he would care one way or another…man that pisses me off. As soon as I said it, I wanted to retract it. I changed the subject immediately and have felt guilty all morning about lying to him.

Dumb.

Almost two days without "skirting" the truth, embellishing, omission or lying!!! I can do this!

Good afternoon. My name is Khori.. and I am a liar. I've been been a liar for as long as I can remember. I have an ok life, but it is based on nothing but lies. I need help.