I disagree wnclair. Any day without a lie is a good day, if for no other reason than it helps break the habit of lying. Keep up the good work!!!

Thanks Stapler...

No lies today either. I feel like it's too little too late though.

I'm afraid my girlfriend is gone. I'm not sure I can win her back this time. She says that she can't be hurt by me anymore, and I understand that.

I don't want to hurt her, and I don't want to do anymore damage to my relationship. Maybe this is better... maybe I can fix myself during this time. I can only hope she's still there in the end.

OMG, wn, been there. I'm very lucky that my gf saw enough good in me to try to work our way through this, but you've made the most important step in wanting to change and make yourself a better person. If you don't want to change, no one can make you change. Stay strong. Feel free to chat anytime, ok?

My name is Rob and I'm a liar.

Today is the end of day 1 for me and I'm eager to get through another week being honest with not only those around me but to myself. Thanks to everyone here - I believe there is strength in numbers. Mike, well done! I'm very glad to hear that you're so determined. Matt, it's never too late to make a difference. You and your partner have 3 wonderful children together, and that's always worth fighting for - they NEED you.

We can be strong together, we have each others support and that's a lot. Be truthful with yourselves first - the rest will come.

Rob and Stapler...

Thanks for your support... it really means a lot to me. I've got to get through this. I'm afraid I'll never be able to forgive myself if I've blown my chances at this family. M. has been more forgiving than anyone should ever expect to be.

One thing I found encouraging was in a text to me tonight. She said, more or less, that I knew it was all on the line, and that she recognized there was something seriously wrong in that I continued to lie.

Maybe I'm grasping at straws here, but I feel as if there's a ray of hope in that.

She's not leaving because she doesn't love me, she says it's because she has to protect herself.

I can understand that, but I find it entirely disheartening that the woman I'm in love with feels that she has to protect herself from me.

Rob, congrats on Day 1. We're at about the same level of honesty.

I'm not sure how I should score my goal. I'm certainly at a zero now... I guess I'll give myself a little credit when I'm able to be honest with her about something I might be inclined to lie about.

Thanks again all for your support.

Matt, as long as there is dialog there is hope. That's how I was able to get through my darkest time. Grasp at whatever you need to, but just grasp something because we all need hope in one form or another. Let's hope today can be a good day for both of us!

Mike, you said it all. We all need a reason to want to change, and that hope can be our biggest motivator. Matt, you have to believe in that hope and in yourself. You're a good person, You're attempting to own your problem - that's step number one.

You can do it!

Hi. I am Kelsey. I am a Liar. And I am desperate for change. I am starting on this new path today and I am scared out of my mind. The support will help.

I'm Mike and I'm a liar

Today marks the end of day 10 for me. No temptations, no urges. I'm also glad, and grateful, for the chance to lend some small measure of support and comfort to others like myself. Peer support is so important. I'm not sure if I'm a good source of advice or not, but I'm happy to share my experiences and insights, whatever they might be. Good night everyone. Stay strong....

Sometimes the lies you tell are less frightening than the loneliness you might feel if you stopped telling them.
-Brock Clarke

Mike, Thanks again for your words of encouragement. Your experience with this issue is extremely beneficial for me thus far.

I think I did pretty well today. I definitely had an occasion where I was inclined to lie. M. was asking me about a conversation I was having with my students. She asked me what I had told them with respect to my resignation. i did tell them something inappropriate... something that I would normally be inclined to lie about.

I didn't lie.

Things are still tense between us. She's still so angry, and... understandably so. If I can just be good... if I can just give her something to hold on to. I know we can do this.

Thanks again for your support everyone.

Oh yes, Mike... and congrats on 10 days of honesty... i've probably never been completely honest for 10 days in my entire life.

Hi I'm Reese. I would be on day eight, but I had a relapse and I'm on day 4. I'm Reese and I'm a chronic liar

I'm Pat and I am a liar. I haven't been keeping track of the days. I'll be good for a week or so, then slip up, good for a week or so, then slip up. My therapist says this is normal. We've behaved our ways into this addiction and we've gotta behave our ways out of it now. It's normal for us to slip up and we'll keep slipping up til we don't anymore. It's all about staying vigilant. I admit that I haven't done the greatest in that regard, but I am trying.

I'm Mike and I'm a liar.

Today marks the end of day 12, an even dozen for me. A decen day at work and a nice afternoon with some of the family. Best of all, no urges at all. Hope everyone had a good, positive weekend. Stay strong everyone...