I am new here. I have to stop letting fear keep me from being truthful. I lie when I think something I have done or forgotten to do will anger my husband. I lie to make myself 'look' like a good person. I leave out details. I have to stop this or it will end my marriage.

Hi folks, my name is Greg, and I am a liar. Welcome to you who are new to this group! We all share similar stories, fears and hopes. as you read through the various threads here, you will probably see yourself, or aspects of yourself reflected in our stories and entries. This is one of the great strengths of this site, the knowledge that you are not alone is in itself such a huge relief. That is how I felt when I first found this site and discovered that it wasn't just me who lied all the time, and didn't know what to do about it, or how to go about doing something about it. I have been here for about 10 months now, and yes, I have had setbacks on my journey to honesty, but the gains I have made are great. It has not been an easy journey, and it has been very painful at times. But it has been me who has caused the difficulties and pain, both to me and to others in my life. And it is me who must face up to everything and put things right, or do my best to do so. Each time an issue from past lies surfaces and is dealt with is another victory for honesty. There are times when it seems bleak and overwhelming, but once the issue is in the open and being dealt with, the relief is palpable. Never fear to face a problem which you have created with your lies, whether they be from a lie you told ten years ago, or ten minutes ago. Stay strong everybody!

MY name is philly and I'm a liar.this is my first time.I am already in AA now it's time to do something about my lies...

are there any 12 step groups where people actually meet, any literature?

Hey Philly!

So glad you are here with us. I'm a member of Al-Anon so I know how important the literature and meetings are. At this time, to my knowledge there are not official Liars Anonymous groups out there or literature. I am actually in the beginning stages of writing a book, and I created this group to see what the interest was like to create a 12 step group. Now that we have crested over 400 members, I think that we're getting close. But I think it's pretty important to have some literature 1st before a group is created. What do you think, seeing as you're apart of another 12 step group?

Laura O

Hi, I'm Cara and I'm a compulsive liar. I'm rested and focused today. I've read some 12-step recovery literature; talked to a friend for a couple of hours and discovered he used to be a compulsive liar. I plan on going to a 12-step group tonight. I have been "clean" for about an hour now.

Thank you guys.

Cara

My name is Laura O. I'm a compulsive liar. I haven't lied in the last 48 hours. Thanks for everyone staying active. It helps give me hope :)

Take care of yourselves,
Laura O

Hi, my name is Greg, and I am a liar. Today has been a good day. The words and thoughts come naturally and honestly. These are the days that I sometimes fear the most, and conversely, feel the best. They allow me to feel what I think of as normal, yet this is when the lie can slip out because I become lax in watching for it. So far that has not happened today! Each day like this makes it better. Good to hear from all of you, and I always look forward to your next posts.
Greg

My name is Laura O, and I'm a compulsive liar. Today i am 72 hours free of lies. I attended an al-anon meeting last night, and sometimes I forget how good i feel when i consistently attend meetings. always a good reminder! i hope everyone takes care of themselves today!

Laura O.

I'm Cara and I'm a compulsive liar. I haven't lied since yesterday! It's weird because I get nervous telling the truth when I'm trying to be aware of my words. We have company over and I haven't lied to him. I feel rested and focused. I read some recovery literature on the 'net this morning. My partner was, ostensibly, talking about his son and mentioned the value in "less is more;" the less you talk the more others listen. I took what he said personally.

Thank you all for being here and best to each of you this weekend! We should be back online around Monday! We're moving into a gorgeous home. I will be thinking of this group.

Thanks, Laura, and everyone for your kind welcome and words! We shall talk and get to know each other better

Hi,

My name is Jac. I lie. I'm scared.

I'm Mike and I'm a liar

Today is the end of day 20 for me. Hopefully tomorrow, Fathers Day, will be a good day for my son and myself. Its nice to see some activity here again. I was beginning to wonder where everyone was! Welcome to the newcomers to the group. I hope you find this site as helpful and supportive as I have. It feels good to know that there are others out there like me.

Stay strong everyone...

I'm Simon and I am a comulsive liar.

For me service in supporting my fellows in this and other groups often pulls me through really crap day, have been struggling recently to lieterally keep my head above the water. I would like to thank al members for the support that you give to each other and that includes to me.

I have not LIED for about 4 days and in not doing so I like myself better for today. For it is only for today that I worry about.....one day at a time.

Stay true to the group....Hugs

I'm Cara and I am a liar.

I feel pretty good this morning. Up too late. Days "clean"- 0. Ugh, I feel like a screw-up. Had a great conversation with my man yesterday. Patching things up. I need to exercise and move around. I need to eat well and drink water and take better care of myself.

Welcome to the new people! I'm new myself. We can do this today!

I send love.

Cara

Hello, my name is Greg, and I am a liar.

It is good to see everyone checking in here on a fairly regular basis. I know how life can be, and it can be hard to find even a few minutes to sit down at your computer. Great to hear all the positive news from you folks! Today has been pretty good so far. I had a small bump with my wife this morning when I forgot about an appointment and double-booked things. Because of my past history of lies, she suspected that I was lying about the one appointment. Just another example of past behaviour following me to the present. The moment passed, but to see the hurt on her face when she thought that I was lying to her was terrible. This is going to take a long time to heal, but the process is happening. Cara's comment on having a great conversation with her man points out a key thing here. Communication, open and honest, is integral to this path. Hope all of you have a good day, and stay strong!
Greg