Good Morning - I'm Mitiz and I'm a liar. Tonie, I thought the same thing - Yes our traits are very similar. I am not sure why I started lying - I'm sure at the time I felt I had a good excuse - the problem is not it comes so easy but that I lie without thought. So I am making a concisous effort to think before I speak. I use to type/speak without thought which has gotton me in more trouble with my partner than it is really worth. You see I lie and sometimes don't even realize.

Tonie I look forward to making this Trek with you - I believe there is strength in numbers. We can beat this habit.

Mitzi

Good evening! My name is Tonie I am a liar.

Mitzi it has been wonderful to meet some one with similar traits, I do definitely believe in strength in numbers.
I told my partner everything today, he has accepted me again we are by no means back on track but I do think things will be made easier by having someone to make this journey with.
I have started keeping a diary, I wrote in it for 3 hours last night I read it back to myself this morning and made notes. It is helping me delve into my inner issues, of low self esteem and confidence, I have found it is really helping me. Have you tried it?
I am 2 days without a lie now and going strong thank you for your support we can do it!

Tonie x

I'm Mike and I'm a liar

Today marks the end of day 4 for me. I hope this streak breaks my personal best of 18. Tonie and Mitzi, progress is measured in very small steps. At the beginning every minute is a challenge, but slowly, ever so slowly, you will start to make the progress you strive to make. Setbacks will happen (I think my picture is next to "setback" in the dictionary) but you have to learn from them. Just stay strong everyone....

I'm Mitzi and I'm a liar.

Well I have made it a day and doing well so far today. Tonie, I'm so glad that your partner is willing to take the trek with you. My partner says I need to fix it but he is not going anywhere - yet...

I have started a journal here that I have set so no one can view - but I have not written in it since the frist day. I guess you are right there is a reason why our behaviour is such as it is - I have just never really thought of the root cause. My partner thinks it started in a loveless marriage - but truth be told it started way before that - maybe since my youngest sister was born. I will make a habit to try and write in the journal here every day - I'm sure it can't hurt Tonie.

Thank-you for the encouragement - you are right together we can do this.

Mitzi

I'm Mike and I'm a liar

Day 5 has come and gone, successfully. No lies, no urges to lie. On to the beginning of day 6. Mitzi and Tonie, realizing the problem and seeking help is a fantastic step. Having support is important. Mitzi, what held me together during my darkest period was the fact that my partner and I still had a dialog going. As long as there is communication there is hope.

Stay strong everyone...

So today is a hard day. I thought my wife and I were in a good place, however I told my wife something that happened a few weeks ago, which wouldn't have been anything major if told at the time. Because I waited and didn't tell her, it looks like a big coverup. Anyway, my progress has ended and have to start again. She doesn't want to be near me and I can tell she is still really upset. We exchange pleasantries and day to day stuff (kids, household, etc.) but I even lied on this forum. I am sorry and realize that this is an open thing. Anyway that's my day so far. Good luck to all of you.

I'm Mitzi and I'm a liar - and a bitch. Have not started out the day the greatest. My partner and I have planned a trip to VA Beach next week and now he has decided with everything he has to do for work and our small wood turning business that maybe we shouldn't go. I have made plans to reconnect with an old friend while we are gone - so the thought of not going upsets me. So when he said that I could plan a time to go and see her I said maybe I will go this coming week - I have already taken the time off work and we have the reservations - big mistake. Now he is very hurt and upset with me - is telling me he is in the way of what I want to do and who I want to be. The person in our home this morning is not going away -but coming more frequently. HELP!! - I don't want to lose him - we have made a good life together for us and my daughter - we have started this small business that is really starting to take off and all I can think of is being selfish - what is wrong with me!!! Have a wonderful day - day 2 - no lies - but the bitch is back!!

I'm Mike and I'm a liar

I'm mostly through day 7. So far so good.

Mitzi, I really dont know what to tell you. These things are going to happen. But maybe, as part of your atonement process, you have to be hyper sensitive to those around you and their feelings.. I'd love to know what others in the group think...

Stay strong everyone...

I haven't lied today or yesterday and am being very conscious of what I say. I had some good advice from a therapist I saw this week, after he ripped me a new one. I have also started blogging. My blog is listed here. It is the story of my changes to my life to get better.

http://brokenblogger.blog.com/

For all of you men that strive to be better, I have dedicated this song to me and to you. It is a country song yet it hits the nail on the head - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fWcs1GmJRQs

My name is Sharon Sarver..it is the only thing I know to be true....

My name is Mitzi and I'm a liar. It has been six days since I have told an untruth - a lie!! - I must say it is becoming easier. Weighing everything I say before it spills out it not only keeping my lies in check but also my tounge. Today has been a good day - I have completed my assignments at work - tomorrow should be an easy day - and my partner comes home tonight.

Hi folks! My name is Greg, and I am a liar. Well, it has happened. I told a lie after managing several months of not telling one. And it was a stupid little thing, a lie of omission. But it still stands as a lie, so it is time to start from the beginning again. What a frustrating thing to do to myself, and my partner. I have been vigilant and examining every word before I speak. And then to let my guard down a little bit, thinking that I had managed to make a change in this pattern of lies. What a hard lesson to learn. Things were going fairly well while I was constantly watching myself, and indeed it felt like I had begun to eradicate old habits. I was fooling myself, and now have had it driven home that the old habits are there just waiting to become dominant again. The up-side is that I know that I can be honest for a long period of time, and that I can never stop my self-monitoring. So here I am at Day One again. Reading all of your posts is a true source of inspiration and source of strength to me. I hope that my jottings help you along this road as well.

I'm Mike and I'm a liar

Today, day 9, is almost over. So far so good. Greg, I've been there. Not as successful as you yet, but constant vigilance is so important. I don't think we are ever "fixed". We always have to be examining ourselves.

Stay strong everyone...

I'm Mike and I'm a liar

Good morning all. Today marks the start of day 12 for me. Hopefully I'll get through it successfully. I'm a little disappointed that no one has posted here since my last post on the 14th. I hope the reason is that everyone was really busy over the weekend, not lying!!! Anyway, we all must remained focused if we have any hope of battling our problems. And we need each other's support. Hope to hear from all of you out there in the coming days.

Stay strong everyone...