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on the matter regarding a dating relationship. i have been dating a woman for a out 3 months, and she is starting to dictate who my friends are. I have a female friend that is like a sister to me and I am now being told that I talk to and visit her way to much. C (the lady I am dating) doesn't have a problem if I hang out with my guy friends and do whatever..... but she doesn't believe that males and females can be friends with out hanky panky going on.......Several women on the boad know me, and we have hung out at some meetups......I consider them as friends and can talk and visit, the feel as if they are family. This seems like she is asking me to give up family.....and I am fairly sure the next step will be to not hang with the guy friends...... and then family....I have
DUNN that and I will never do that again.......Am I being paranoid?
All opinions welcomed......I think I may be about to become a monk..... Naw I like people to much......
thanks
AJJ.
DUNN that and I will never do that again.......Am I being paranoid?
All opinions welcomed......I think I may be about to become a monk..... Naw I like people to much......
thanks
AJJ.
You are to good to be going through drama like this. Step away, life is to short. Enjoy your female friends company as well as your male friends.
Excuse me.
HONKY slut.
clever maybe (and failing at it), but not dingenuous
maybe your sensor's a lil faulty
I'm making a point about your point
while trying to be humorous
hence my earlier
genuine responses
I actually think the propensity for not having thoughts get in the way of a platonic friendship
is based on the workings of the minds of the 2 individuals
and if one person feels because of the way their minds works they cant keep things platonic
action or no action
then that says something about them
just as the other person says it would never get in the way
I dont really believe its ruled solely by gender.
if I were your girlfriend and I loved you and felt we had the potential for something serious, I'd express feelings of insecurity if I had them only insomuch as I'd like your patience and understanding while working through them. I'd more so, like to get to know and love the people who know and love you, to the best of my ability to gel with people.
If I were your longterm friend, I'd be upset, and hurt to let you go because your new love interest wanted me out of the picture.
Love is not only about getting because we desire you, its also about giving because we value you.
Tell her how you feel and ask her if she is ready to accept as you are.
If someone wants to change another person, it is not going to work unless that other person is willing to change and be happy about it.
I really don't think sex is the issue in your question. Define yourself, be confident, tell her your boundaries and then ask her if she can accept the real you.
"I would like you to change ... [enter any behavior here]" The list can get very long once you start down that path.
Godspeed
Thanks for all the input....and discussion
AJJ
I didn't read all the posts but have you invited her out with your other friends?
Have a very Merry Christmas my friend.