growth mindset, share it, please, "useful" is a key word in this!

Good work, keep at it!!!

well, I' no expert at all. But the basics of growth midset is the idea that we either have a growth midset or a fixed mindset - people with a fixed mindset believe certain things like for example - "I'm no good at maths" people with a growth mindset think "I can improve my maths". People with growth mindset take feedback and don't give up when they make mistakes. There are loads of techniques to develop growth mindset, I've used some with students. The book is by Carol Dweck. xxx

Thanks mrs k. No, I haven't. Does sound interesting. I know I'm guilty of the former behaviour with some things.

Thanks mid!

Well I got a 6 or 7 yesterday. I didn't keep count and I didn't use barriers. Going through some health stuff, nothing super duper bad. I just went for a great fast walk with a bit of jogging with my sister in law. Have been walking with her lots lately, it's great. Now I'm off to the doctor, ick.

I am totally into Dweck's research! It's right up my alley - it's a very productive way of thinking that emphasizes process above outcomes (bearing in mind that the desired outcomes often follow a strong commitment to process). A great reference to add to the conversation!

Feel better C!

Thanks stroodle. Unfortunately it's just one of those things that will never get better, but oh well.

Got a 4 yesterday. It was some late night bed pulling (husband away, severe storms) that took me from a 3 to a 4. Boo!

I've read some of Dweck's work as well and thought it was interesting, but if it's not something you connect to personally then there's sure to be something else out there that might be more beneficial. But it's worth checking out!

You're so close to your goal of a 3 or below! You can get there!

Thanks for your input Manda.

Yes, I am close. It's just requiring constant willpower all day, and constant vigilance. So obviously I'm really enjoying that.

So have been reding about Dweck's theory. It's interesting (kind of) because I consider myself to have a "growth" theory of intelligence in that I know success is typically based on hard work, learning, training and doggedness. However I do dread failure, even though logically I know that failure is generally required on the path to success. So.. Where does that leave me? With issues, that's where!

Willpower and vigilance take serious time and effort to build up. You are getting there, it's just a tedious and often difficult process. I think the stage you are at right now of being SO close to your goal but not quite reaching it is the most frustrating. But it does mean that you're almost there. It's hard, but try to keep in mind that trich comes in cycles, in a way...it won't be this hard forever.

Thank you so much manda. All true.

Another 4 for yesterday. Just a reminder that my 4 equals 10-14 hairs. When I think about it that way it doesn't seem so bad, but I know I can do better.

I am on a rating of 3 for today already, and was by midday today. However I've been pull free for the past 3 hours. I really want to be pull free for the rest of today. I'm at a point where it's best for me to be hard on myself. Not beat myself up but push myself to be pull free.

For awhile I was using the perfectly valid thought of "I'm not being too hard on myself" as an excuse to be a bit lazy about actually trying to be pull free all the time. It does take awhile to build up awareness and such, but I honestly wasn't doing everything I could have done to speed up that process. It caused me a lot of unnecessary stress. It is hard to find the balance between not being hard on yourself but still holding yourself to very high standards. I guess it is mostly about a positive vs negative attitude after mistakes. You are trying hard, though, so keep your progress in mind. And if you feel like you can push yourself more, then go for it! Set some small goals :)

Good for you!! Try to just let go, but be diligent. Hard to do.

Thanks Manda. I feel like my mindset is constantly changing, but I'm used to that now! Small goals is a good idea for now :) My auto/habitual pulling is pretty high at the moment, so I think it'll still take a few days to get a pull free day, but I"m not ruling out tomorrow being pull free!

Thanks Phoebe :) Yes, indeed hard to do. But possible with practice.

Oof, after that 3 hr break I pulled about 6 or so hairs. All without realising until it'd happened. Head scarf is on now.

I think yesterday ended up being a 4.. Or a 5.

Today is a 5 already. I was so determined this morning. Determined to be pull free that is, but not determined to put in the work to be pull free. I let myself play with my hair, I didn't use barriers... I just washed my hair to get a break from it. So I actually need to enforce hands down. Just say no!