Thanks phoebe :) You read that it's beckie0's view yes? But I do indeed agree. And I'm all for people who are well educated about trich and how it affects them giving it a go, because they're more likely to not spin out of control if they "fail" and feel large amounts of guilt. Anyway, it's not for me.

I'm glad it wasn't actual heat stroke, that is deadly.

Oh, a 5 for yesterday. But a better day again today. 3pm and a rating of 1 so far. I'm feeling good. I'm trying to remind myself that it's not worth it and it makes me feel like crap.

I saw a video of hers in the past where she said that she was not trying to stop pulling (maybe it was just for that point in time...we all change our attitudes toward trich often!) So that is what I was basing my opinion on, but I don't watch her videos regularly and that one may have been out of date. I totally agree that she is speaking to a different audience, and probably a younger audience as well. I also agree that the pull free terminology can lead to disappointment and a simple change of word choice or perspective can make those non PF days feel much less disappointing.

I think I know the one you're talking about, I think that she, like us, tends to change her perspective and approach every so often.

I have discovered an interesting new barrier. If I spray heaps of hairspray on a certain area I'm trying not to pull from (my poor fringe, he just wants to grow!) then all that hair sticks together and I'm unable to easily access individual strands. It's not perfect but what is. It's helping!

Interesting!! Great idea.

I so love Beckie0's posts. So honest and open and reading it is like oh yeah, I've felt like that before.
I think the fact that there's an actual person attached to the posts makes it so powerful and easy to connect for me. Though I could never do that myself - I spend so much time hiding it and would hate for people to know about it. Though at times I have thought it would be so freeing to just be so open about it and tell people I know…hmm…would require so much bravery. Also, I think most of my fear of telling people comes from the fact that I'd be scared to fail and pull and have people know that I'm not able to overcome it.

I need to check out Becky0. Is she in this discussion? Late to the party, here.

BeckieO is awesome for how much awareness she has raised. I disagree with a fair amount of what she says, but it is great to hear anyone discuss trich publicly, and of course we all have different approaches and opinions.

Phoebe, just search for BeckieO on youtube....she has a series of trich blogs on there. (Is there a special name for it if it is a youtube blog?)

Hey phoebe, yep just type "trichjournal" into google and visit her youtube channel. She's a young girl (21) with trich, who blogs about having trich (and about other stuff too) via her online journal. Since it's a journal, and she's not claiming to be a professional, I don't really like to judge her (oh but plenty of people do). Like Manda, I sometimes don't agree with her opinions. But I really appreciate that she's done HEAPS to raise awareness about trich. And I appreciate that she pushes the importance of acceptance. Because SO many people think that we can just stop.

Hi j, I agree and resonate with so much of what you wrote. Great to hear from you too!

Pulling spiralled out of control (oh wasn't actually out of control but I felt kind of trapped in the gross cycle) this afternoon. And yesterday afternoon too. Blah blah!

Cheers to whatever works, even disagreeing, because that helps with the awareness and the more aware we are, the easier it is to do something.

Hugs instead of tugs, and stay strong!

Yep it's great to read other points of view. Eg often Manda and phoebes opinions will shake me out of a daze/rut. Thanks mid :)

Blah, 3 hrs sleep last night. Went for a walk today and it was great. Spring is officially here! :) at the moment I have a rating of 2 (5 hairs). It's 3.30pm. Time for barriers.

Yes, barriers! Always so helpful!

Indeed :) putting my hair in a high bun with lots of hairspray helps.

I got a 3 for today :) I pulled a few more subconscious hairs. A 3 for me is a maximum of 9 hairs. I scored 3 5s in the previous few days (up to 24 hairs per day). So it's a big difference. I think all but one of the hairs I pulled today were subconscious. Yay! Honestly, I've got renewed motivation because I can see the damage I've done to my regrowth. Ah well.

Breathe. Change is good, spring is wonderful! Keep your hands busy...elsewhere!

You're doing wonderful! I have had success with hairspray helping me to keep my hands off, so best wishes!!!