Hello, My name is Okini....and I am a LIAR.....whatever type of Liar there is...I am it. I have lied to family, friends and to my wife. I have lost a lot over my lies. I am tired of it. I have a problem. I need to work on this and most of the people around believe that it can work. Others doubt my ability to stop lying. I started lying when my brother was born and continued til this day. My wife has been more than patient with me when it has come to the lying. She has told me and has been hurt by lies I have told. I have told too many to account for. While I say all these things, in my lies.....I always get caught....I am always the one to get caught. Maybe I am not built for it anymore or its just that maybe its time to be my age and be a MAN!

Welcome Okini. I hope you post often here and read other people's stories. You'll find support and encouragement. There's a lot of wisdom here and a chance to be completely honest with other liars! (Crazy that you have to find a group of liars to learn how to tell the truth, but hey, it works for us :)

TY very much. I have been looking to end this lie train and jump on the truth express. Is so bad lies flie out a mile a minute. I thank you for showing me as well as others that this is an issue for us and that we do need help. Thank you soo much for your warm welcome....and I thank you and have read alot of persons stories. WE ALL SHALL MAKE IT!!!!!

Hey everyone. One step forward one step back, but at least there are some steps forward! I am so grateful to have the opportunity to focus on living a new way. I've realized how hard it is to live when I'm constantly using mushy, unclear, evasive communication, when I'm constantly hiding something I've done or not done and then trying to cover that up. It's just tiring and hard and not the way I want to live. I have a conversation scheduled with my husband tonight that will not be easy. I have to come clean with money I've spent that he didn't know about. He already found out about most of it, but tonight will be the full picture. I ask for strength to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Send good juju! Love to you all (whether you post or not :)

Good fortune. We are here for you.

Hi im Jareth and im a LIAR. I plan to post a blog here in hopes to help myself and those of you like me. it will be under journal share/get it off your chest. Your welcome to share any journals youve written. Ill talk to you guys and gals later

Hi my name is Jack and i have been a compulsive liar most of my life i had been off the wagon for about 5-6 months until a couple of weeks ago when i lied to my partner about something that happened in the past. Since then i haven't lied because she knows the truth about my past and my life.

It all started when i was about 6 by just saying silly little lies to my friends to fit in as my mother was in hospital all the time and i was in care. I lied all my way through primary school and secondary school just trying to fit in. I would also lie to all my family trying to blend in and make my family proud of me. I could never stand up to my mum as i was scared of hurting her and putting her back in hospital. I have lied to everyone in my life at some point but mostly and regrettably my loving partner all she wanted to do was love me and care for me and all i did was lie to her and cheat on her as it was my way of dealing with my problems. I lied to her about everything under the sun. In April 2011 we had a daughter who was from her previous relationship,which i thought would of helped me change which it didn't but then in august we got pregnant again with a little boy. My partner was going to abort my baby around Christmas because she found out that i had been lying to her and that i had been cheating on her again. After that i decided to cut my mum out of my life and the lying stopped!!

The lie i told a couple of weeks ago was that was about me cheating on her with prostitutes for a few months and i thought i had told her but then i told her the truth but then i panicked and lied saying thats not true and tried to manipulate her.

Since then i have been on the straight and narrow we have a daughter and a son i would never ever want to lose them i would love to talk to people on a daily basis to help myslef and then overcome this problem that takes hold of so many peoples lives and ruins it if they don't confront.

I nearly lost my family and i am seeing a couples counsellor to help with everything and its helping.

Thanks for listening and taking time to read it

Jack

Jack i started very much the same way. Although thinking back on it i believe it was more a fear of confrontation. so i lied to avoid it. and i just got so good at it, that no one knew the difference. especially when i started taking theater classes it just compounded my abilities. Being able to "throw on a character" and pass the lie.

I have lost my family so consider yourself lucky brother. i have a chance to rekindle it but i need help first. one day at a time and one truth at a time. i have had a couple of humbling experiences recently, and have found telling the truth feels a whole lot better than liying. mail me anytime bro.

Jareth thanks for the reply i know im so lucky and i am not going to blow it this time. I know what its like just throwing on a character because i didn't know who was my real self was.

Same mail me anytime if you need to talk.

no problem buddy. we are all in this together!

Hi my name is Ronson and I am a Liar. I lied today. I think I have a narcissistic personalty disorder from my research. I usually lie to feel important or so that others will respect me or look up to me. I feel good when I lie, but feel bad after. One of my child hood friends recently told me I lie, Also I spent more $ than I had trying to impress others. I guess this was my breaking point. I really exaggerate all accomplishments. Its effects a lot of my relationships & business because I don't want to be discovered as a fraud, so I end them early. I feel like im always ON, trying to impress others. I was a loner and then learned how to lie and act cool, it felt good, but its meant I was always ON. I become socially avoidant in situations where I cant show off or impress. SO I come to this group in honesty, So that I can have meaningful friendships, so that my business & other associate wont see me as a liar. I dont want to feel this lonely, because I have to withdraw from people before they discover me. I realize now that, we are not fooling anyone , but ourselfs. It just now, I not only lie to influence, but to keep lies going or just because, it has become part of my second nature. Does anyone know of any treatments or selfhelp guides. Im reading

The Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workbook for Personality Disorders: A Step-by-Step Program (Kindle Location 1688).

Its a guide for narcissus and how to cope with it. But if there is any other books anyone's knows of that are self help guides.

Hi my name is Ronson and I am a Liar. I lied today. I think I have a narcissistic personalty disorder from my research. I usually lie to feel important or so that others will respect me or look up to me. I feel good when I lie, but feel bad after. One of my child hood friends recently told me I lie, Also I spent more $ than I had trying to impress others. I guess this was my breaking point. I really exaggerate all accomplishments. Its effects a lot of my relationships & business because I don't want to be discovered as a fraud, so I end them early. I feel like im always ON, trying to impress others. I was a loner and then learned how to lie and act cool, it felt good, but its meant I was always ON. I become socially avoidant in situations where I cant show off or impress. SO I come to this group in honesty, So that I can have meaningful friendships, so that my business & other associate wont see me as a liar. I dont want to feel this lonely, because I have to withdraw from people before they discover me. I realize now that, we are not fooling anyone , but ourselfs. It just now, I not only lie to influence, but to keep lies going or just because, it has become part of my second nature. Does anyone know of any treatments or selfhelp guides. Im reading

The Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workbook for Personality Disorders: A Step-by-Step Program (Kindle Location 1688).

Its a guide for narcissus and how to cope with it. But if there is any other books anyone's knows of that are self help guides.

Hi my name is Ronson and I am a Liar. I lied today. I think I have a narcissistic personalty disorder from my research. I usually lie to feel important or so that others will respect me or look up to me. I feel good when I lie, but feel bad after. One of my child hood friends recently told me I lie, Also I spent more $ than I had trying to impress others. I guess this was my breaking point. I really exaggerate all accomplishments. Its effects a lot of my relationships & business because I don't want to be discovered as a fraud, so I end them early. I feel like im always ON, trying to impress others. I was a loner and then learned how to lie and act cool, it felt good, but its meant I was always ON. I become socially avoidant in situations where I cant show off or impress. SO I come to this group in honesty, So that I can have meaningful friendships, so that my business & other associate wont see me as a liar. I dont want to feel this lonely, because I have to withdraw from people before they discover me. I realize now that, we are not fooling anyone , but ourselfs. It just now, I not only lie to influence, but to keep lies going or just because, it has become part of my second nature. Does anyone know of any treatments or selfhelp guides. Im reading

The Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workbook for Personality Disorders: A Step-by-Step Program (Kindle Location 1688).

Its a guide for narcissus and how to cope with it. But if there is any other books anyone's knows of that are self help guides.

Hi my name is Ronson and I am a Liar. I lied today. I think I have a narcissistic personalty disorder from my research. I usually lie to feel important or so that others will respect me or look up to me. I feel good when I lie, but feel bad after. One of my child hood friends recently told me I lie, Also I spent more $ than I had trying to impress others. I guess this was my breaking point. I really exaggerate all accomplishments. Its effects a lot of my relationships & business because I don't want to be discovered as a fraud, so I end them early. I feel like im always ON, trying to impress others. I was a loner and then learned how to lie and act cool, it felt good, but its meant I was always ON. I become socially avoidant in situations where I cant show off or impress. SO I come to this group in honesty, So that I can have meaningful friendships, so that my business & other associate wont see me as a liar. I dont want to feel this lonely, because I have to withdraw from people before they discover me. I realize now that, we are not fooling anyone , but ourselfs. It just now, I not only lie to influence, but to keep lies going or just because, it has become part of my second nature. Does anyone know of any treatments or selfhelp guides. Im reading

The Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Workbook for Personality Disorders: A Step-by-Step Program (Kindle Location 1688).

Its a guide for narcissus and how to cope with it. But if there is any other books anyone's knows of that are self help guides.

Hi Im Ronson and Im a Liar