:) kp, you're funny

back to the topic.

Blondytou, have you ever consider taking a trip to Canada to get away? I mean, if he said you are pushing him away, then perhaps going to Canada to smell the maple leaves for a while will help you guys.

Just ask JoyRide, she is from Canada. hehe

LMAO!!!!

Yes, Galvatron will be happy to put you up and show you around the planets undiscovered "wonder", Canada. That'll cure what ails you! (Not)

If only they could play hockey up there in canada :)

Yes, and if only it wasn't so darn hot up there

I am now going through this and don't understand how someone could do that. I have been married for 17 years and have 2 kids. He tells me that he does not have feelings for anyone. We have a 16 year old daughter that he does not want to have anything to do with but our 12 year old son, he is there to support. Also, I am having a hard time letting him go. What can I do to make it easier for me and my kids? I have asked that several times and still want to work it out with my husband. I am feeling that I am losing myself.

possible, your husb is going thru some mid-life crisis, but if I were you,
just cool it, and show him you can go on with your life without him, but if you take him back, get right into counseling immediately......In fact,
act very independent, show him you are ok without him, don't show any weaknesses, even if he comes back, sleep separatly, until you have your counseling....in fact, just play it cool. The fact is, maybe he doesn't want to be married to you and anyone else. Maybe it is pure mental problems, and needs to be seen by a psychotrist....don't give up, but if you see nothing is going to come from this, divorce him,
and live your life.

meyers

It's possible but what if he met someone on the side and lost interst in her? That's possible too.

Well he came back and has left again. This time he is really mad. I know I screwed up. I begged him to stay and work on us. I told him he is running away and a coward for doing so. He says hes still not in love with me and doesnt find me attractive. Thats its. I have never cheated on him. I have never abused him, nothing. I have spoiled him. Thats about it. We honestly had a great great relationship until the day he wakes up and says...I dont love you anymore. It came out of the blue. I asked him what and where this is coming from. He said it again and said he needs time. So now Im ready to just sit back and give him time. Ten years is a long time to give up. Ill wait for him. I dont want a divorce. He is thinking that I will make it easy for him on a divorce. But im not going too. I dont want one at all. We have a daughter together. We are buying our house and property. We have built a shop on our property too for him to do car work on the side. He needs help. He needs to talk to someone. I am hoping that if he really does file for divorce, that I can make it where we have to go to and talk to someone first. I do feel that our marriage is not broken or at least I do feel we can fix it.

blondy, make sure that you have some close girlfriends. you might really need to lean on them before this is all said and done.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I agree with Faithful. While you're "waiting" for him, can I suggest you do things to make yourself happy and fill your time with positive persuits???

Please make sure you're in charge of your finances as well. Your own bank account.

I hope for your sake things work out. It would be great if they did. I don't want to be negative, but he made some very strong statements and HE has to feel the marriage is "fixable".

I'm also hoping that you will not allow a man who said he doesnt love you or isn't attracted to you to use you when he needs a pitstop.

I hope this doesn't sound discouraging, so please consider it a self-protective step. . . I think you need to meet with an attorney (find a good one) and get some advice. Do not tell your spouse you're doing so. I think you really, really need to start looking out for #1.

Oh, and go with a list of prepared questions. Everything you can think of, options, possibilities, what ifs, that kind of thing. It's very important that you get proactive. You can still try to make things work, but you need to start covering your backside, so to speak. Please!

blondytou, I know what your problem is now. You said you never abused him or had an affair right? Yet, he doesn't love you.

Perhaps, you should cheat on him and abuse him a little. It might work. It sure worked on you.

For once, I find myself allmost agreeing with Galvatron as opposed to wanting to smack him in the eye.

Blondie, Lawyer up now and do what you can to protect yourself and your interests.

Mick