I lost my 56 year old soulmate suddenly on February 7, 2012 to an massive cerebral hemmorhage caused by an undiagnosed congenital defect which gave no warning signs. He was the love of my life, my everything and I am having a hard time again as the 1 year mark approaches. I keep busy most days volunteering, but nights are hard. Carol in South Florida

Hi I'm Trackersam(Tom). Lost my love of 45 years last December to brain cancer.
I live in Tamarac Fl.

I'm Trudie. My Alan died from a motorcycle accident October 23, 2012. I just 'celebrated' our 20th Wedding Anniversary last week. I am 59 and live in Texas. Found DS about 3 weeks ago. I can come here to learn or to post my pain, tears, memories without judgement and with acceptance and understanding and advice. Family and friends know I am hurting but like most people tears make them uncomfortable. TY DS members.

Hello, my name is Deanna ( Sparkles0521). I lost my husband
Kenny Dec.23rd 2011 to bladder cancer. He was my best friend,
He was my Rock. I live in Louisiana.
For all the new members here, this site has helped me so so much. I have met so many wonderful friends, that are still going through this journey with me. Even if you are not up to posting, read the discussions, you will get a lot out of it. I promise.We are not alone, we have each other.
Hugs

Hi -
I am Loretta
I lost my husband Louis on August 30, 2012 after a bout with pneumonia. He wasn't in great health, but his death was still pretty sudden.
We were together for 16 years & I worked from home fr the last six, so we were together every day.
Then, exactly 60 days after he died, Hurricane Sandy hit and I had major damage to my home & am out of business for the foreseeable future.
I have two daughters - a 16 year old who still lives with me (we are in my aunt's spare bedroom right now) and a 19 year old who just went back to college yesterday (miss her to pieces already).
Life is just surreal right now - I don't think I have wrapped my head around anything yet.
I read the discussions when I can & contribute sometimes. It makes me feel better to come here & I am glad to have found it.

Hi my name is Ron, I live in Vancouver,bc.., After being together for 35 yrs and married for 28 of those years,my wife died from ADEM..It has been 23 months now, the fog has lifted and reality set in ..day to day now with an emptiness that can be and often is overwhelming.. my heart aches for everyone of us on this journey.. I have read and hopefully learned some good advice from the caring members on here..to see,hear and hold my beautiful wife again..

Hi....I'm Cheryl 1149...I just joined here a few weeks ago. My husband passed away suddenly on 12/15/11 while he was in Florida. I was pretty much in shock and numb for the first year, but in starting my second year, reality has set in and I'm really missing him terribly. Still working and trying to keep as busy as I can just to survive. I haven't posted before, but read others' posts just to reassure myself that I'm not alone.

Hi, I m Yvette, 55yrs, Lost my hubby now for 5 yrs Dec 23, seems like the other day still at times. I lost him to unknown, the search n rescue found him after 8 hrs of searching . He was only 47yrs old. No closer here, always wondering what happened to him that day. What if you would call it "he went fast" Its still a nightmare a lot of times. What do you explain to your mentally challenged son daddy is not coming back.Life continues and have to be optimistic, baby steps is all I can do for now. I do smile , have to for my kids..
hugs back to you all
YY

Hi, I'm Debbie from SC - 52 years old. I lost my best friend and soulmate on May 2, 2012 to lung cancer. We were together 13 years total - married the last 7 of the best years of my life. We have one beautiful daughter together - age 8. I have one son from my previous marriage and 3 wonderful step-children. I feel blessed that I have my daughter - she is so much like her daddy! I miss my darling every minute of every day but know that I must go on for our daughter. I'm thankful for all of the wonderful people here on this site - you have been my lifeline these past 8 1/2 months! ((Hugs to all of you!))

Okiegirl aka Betty
Lost my Bear my best friend of 37 years to cancer April 9, 2011.

I'm from Springfield, Mo.
DS was my life line the 1st year, I've meet and talked to so many kind caring wonderful people here. I would encourage meeting with as many folks as you can...several of us have done this at different times and it makes a world of difference.

HI~
I'm Kelli and I became a "NEW" member on 12-31-12 @ 1:14 AM when my husband Giovanni (John) passed away....he was 45 and I am 44. We have 4 children Sal (21), Mackenzi (17) who both witnessed him passing in the ER after suffering Cardiac Arrest from a siezure....I was home w/ our lil ones Daniela (6) & Giuliana (5)....he had Liver Disease and recently didn't take care of himself which probably brought on the siezure suddenly and died w/in a few hours!! I live in New Jersey.....I'm born & raised BROOKLYN, he was born, raised & LAID TO REST in Pozzallo Sicily...

Hello All, my name is Marj, "LilMargie" here on DS. I've been a member of DS for a number of years - I originally came seeking support for multiple sclerosis which I had been diagnosed in 2007. This is a good place to come for comfort.

I'm in the SF North Bay Area here in CA, I'm 61 yrs old.

I thought I had things bad with my MS until I lost Bob to lung cancer on June 4, 2011. We were together & married a combined 41 years. His loss has kicked my ass like nothing before and I'm figuring nothing will ever be for the rest of my days.

I try really hard to count my blessings: Bob left me with 2 terrific kids (adults now), 3 wonderful wonderful grandkids. I'm not rich, but I'm not destitute either.

My biggest blessing is that I was really loved and was special to this man...and that I loved and treasured him in return.

But even though I try to remember the good things, life is just drab and gray now. I wonder a lot if that will ever change.

HI Im TANNIA, Im 50
Lost my husband and my bestfriend Randy October 4,2010
He had lung cancer, spread to his bones.
We were married for 32 1/2 years and I lost my bestfriend Joanne on November 25,2011 to colon cancer, and now I just lost my dad on o December 7,2012 to lung cancer!!!
:(

Lost my love Dec. '09
cardiac arrest
lived in IN then moved to WI almost 2 yrs ago
retired
don't get on line as frequently to post
has been a rough end to the year
made great friends here.........great site

I am Nicker (Diane) I live in Washington State on one of the mtn passes

I lost my husband while visiiting his Mom in Colorado of a sudden heart attack.

Shortly after I had to face his 2 sons in court who thought they should get everything...I spent the first several months dealing with that instead of being able to mourn ONCE I got a breather I found this sight and feel it was a life saver...