Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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missmyhero 12/08/2012

There are so many new members and so many of us old timers (old dsers) still sticking around after all this time. We have done roll calls before so people can get an idea of who is here and who is not. It has been really helpful...especially helping people sort out who is where with what timeline. The really huge benefit is helping people connect with people with similar time lines or similar losses. Anyway...I want to do this again...Hope everyone will join me....

So I am:
#1...
missmyhero...Diana
I lost my husband Denny on April 3, 2009
to a brain tumor.
I live in Vermont.

This is such a difficult time of year for us that I thought a little light hearted connection post would be a good idea.

big (((((hugs))))) to everyone.

cathylynn58 12/08/2012

I am Cathy I will be 55 next month. I lost my husband, Bob, to lung cancer that spread to his central nervous system on April 23,2012. We were married for 10 years and together for 12, not nearly long enough. I survived our wedding anniversary and Thanksgiving but I am really dreading the next 5 months, Christmas, my birthday his birthday just under a month after mine and then the dreaded first year. I am very grateful for DS and the people on here who have been a huge help to me.

deleted_user 12/08/2012

ProfLangue ... Kathy
Chuck passed "into me" on Dec. 18, 2011 at age 59. Obviously, last Christmas is a blur. Chuck had RCC (kidney cancer) which metastasized to his lungs and liver. He was incredibly strong, positive and joyful (and admired) even to the end, so I try my best to emulate that. We were married 27 years / together 30 years. Particularly during the last four years (after his diagnosis) we made every day "count". So hard to keep that up, but with his love and inspiration, I'm trying.

Porchpuppy 12/08/2012

Hi...I am Dawn, 64 from TN. I lost my husband, Randy May 6,2012. He had esophageal cancer but actually died from complications of a pulmonary embolus. We were together for 37 years and married for 23.

I am so thankful for all the caring people on this site. I don't think I would have survived this if not for all of you. It is nice to feel like I know you a little better...Dawn

Lady101 12/08/2012

I'm Sharon, 63, from Washington State. I lost the love of my life unexpectedly while we were on vacation in Hawaii, on October 23, 2012. He suffered a massive heart attack while we were snorkeling and life as I knew it ended. We were high school and college sweethearts and had 41 wonderful years of marriage.

I thank God every day for bringing me to this site and all the warm, caring people who, even with their own unbelievable pain, take the time to send love, encouragement and help to all who come to DS crying our for help.

Thank you all for being the special people you are..!

Blessings and (((((((Hugs)))))))
Sharon

cleodoggie 12/08/2012

Hi I am Chris from Wisconsin. I lost my sweet Jim on April 17, 2009 (my youngest daughter's birthday) due to Agent Orange. I was 56 when he died and am 60 now. It seems just like yesterday since he died. We were married 35 1/2 years when he died. I am so much better now and am learning to get along by myself with my two Basset hounds. I am learning to count my blessings. By that I mean I was so blessed to have Jim in my life and I know he is waiting for me. I have survived and I know he is smiling down on me.

nowjustme 12/08/2012

Hi, This is a great thread, can we place a star or something on it so we can find it again?

I'm nowjustme, JoAnn, age 63, I live in North Fla.
My husband of 41 yrs passed 15 months ago. He had liver problems and we never knew it until it was too late. I miss him so much and its still hard to believe he's not coming home.

cliffskat 12/08/2012

I'm Martha -- Cliffskat
Lost my husband Cliff to a heart attack - his first, last, and only - he was only 55, I was only 50. I saw the light in his eyes go out as he took his last breath in my arms. That was November 2007. I was living in Florida at the time. We were together 30 years, married for 28; we had 2 sons together, both of them on the Autism Spectrum.
I have remarried a widower from DS and now live in Oxfordshire, England. It has been a long and arduous journey, and my life does not look anything like it did 5 years ago.
I am one of the Community Leaders ("CL") for this group.

Love and Hugs...

marjoe 12/08/2012

Marsha - Marjoe - and also a CL. Joe died July 2008, billiary duct cancer. I live in NC. DS was, and is, a lifeline - especially in that I feel normal here. I don't have to hide anything. Not that I'm normal anyway, but...

deleted_user 12/08/2012

I"m Paula - from Wisconsin. Lost my husband at the end of August. He was diagnosed with a fairly rare autoimmune disease called Primary Biliary Cirrhosis in mid-July, told his prognosis looked good - and was in the hospital with liver failure at the end of July.

It's been a long, long year for me. We were unable to talk or interact the whole month he was in the hospital. It feels like he left me on 7/30/12 when I had to call 911.

I've found this site helpful, but I tend to read more than post.

Nicker07 12/08/2012

I live in WA state
I am 62
I lost my husbabnd unexpectedly from mass heart attack July 31, 2010 when he was visiting his Mom in Colorado.
I am a 16 yr breast cancer survivor.....

I live in a rural area in Mts with my 2 horses, 2 dogs, 2 cats and me...
SO finding this sight was a God sent....

holland69 12/08/2012

I am Sterling--holland69. My life was shattered when I lost my beloved wife July 12, 2011 to metastatic liver cancer after 42 years of marriage. I am now almost halfway through what I hoped never even to begin--a second year without her. Only my faith and the support of friends and loved ones have kept me going...including my new friends here at DS. I have learned so much from all of you... and tried to encourage you as you have me. May God who knows the end of all things bring us peace and comfort and healing.

deleted_user 12/08/2012

I'm MisisngMrZ--aka Diane
My husband died October 19, 2011
to serve acute pancreatitis with complete organ failure.
He felt ill July 4, July 5 was the last time I heard his voice.
We were married for 22 years. I'm raising our boys 10 and 12 and I have a married daughter (19).
I now live in Massachusetts.

I try to check in daily. I read posts, pray, and respond when I can help.
Hugs!

michaelbmanning 12/08/2012

Maggie (32) from NY State by way of NJ.
Lost my husband Aug. 26, 2010 to brain cancer.
We were married 9 years. I have 5 children.

Maritele10 12/08/2012

I'm Marilyn AKA Maritele just turned 54. My husband Tom passed away July 23, 2012 from complications of a stroke suffered on Jan. 22, 2012. We were only married 3 yrs knew each other 5 yrs, but I felt like I loved him a lifetime. He was so easy to love. I live in NJ and found this site in July. I thank God for this site and the kind and caring people.

deleted_user 12/08/2012

hi, I'm dmartin329 aka Beth. I lost my Daniel on 5-12-12 from an accidental overdose which they ruled a suicide. We were married 27 1/2 yrs together for 30. We have one son 28. He died in my arms and I am lost without him, still find it hard to believe. Thx to this site for all the support, it has really helped. I read more then I post but offer what I can. I live in NC

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