I have a plan to discuss this and then throw him out of the house.
Thanks everyone

Just stop by to give big hugs
((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
myself i know i'm back into the deep cycle of xhronic pain remission seems to be over for now time to change my lifestyle again to accomadate my companion that never leaves my side u think 15 yrs & i would have learn sigh

@ Sunnybunny- I think you should ask to sit down and talk to him about it. I know it is hard to have "house guests". I have been there, but if you establish some rules and regulations as well as consequences things may go much better for all involved. The other thing you may want to keep in mind, your relationship may suffer, and though you may not mind, what about your kids are they close?? Would he take things the wrong way do you think?? I TOTALLY agree that the issue needs to be addressed, but just may want to be cautious how you go about it, so you don't get an outcome your not prepared for.


Also, I don't know what the law is in your state, but you may want to check it out before actually "evicting" him. Here you are required to give them 30 days notice.

Well, regardless of what you end up having to do I wish you the very best. Also, hope that one day he acknowledges how well you have done. I am a "daddy's girl", but he never really told me he was proud of me, and I always felt similar to you, that nothing I did was good enough for him. Finally, on the day he was going in for surgery, so he was heavily medicated, he asked me to come close and of course I did and what he said to me that day I will NEVER forget. He just told me how proud he was, and like I said he was medicated, but I took it. Obviously he meant it, it was in there somewhere, it just took this situation to get it out. So stay strong, and maybe one day when you least expect it, he will surprise you. ((((((HUGS))))). Take care and good luck!!

I really need a hug. My father left me again. For 20 years he stayed away but over the past 2 we have been trying to rebuild a relationship. I guess I did not measure up.

My heart is broken

I wish I coul give you a real hug. You poor thing. Since when is their a measurng stick for family? If anyone doesn't 'measure up', it is most definitely your Father!

Be gentle to yourself. It is his problem and nothing to do with you.

Big hugs,

Cherry

Tired today again because I kepy waking up last night with deep pain in my hips and turning over in bed hurts..Then I wake up and do it all over again.LOL....bu5t I have so much to be thankful for and I'm gonna concertrate on that. Jen

So sorry to hear this......sending hugs your way:)

Thank You Debbear.

DUUHHH... Thanks for the clue on the "most recent " button... I cant believe I missed that...! LOL ordinarily I wouldn't have... THANKS so much...

Big hug SunnyB! Good grief that's tacky and disrespectful...

At least you know in your heart that you did the right thing by helping him out.

Glad that you have plan...let us know how it goes if you're comfortable ...

HUGS lots of them...

OH Kallie.... ;(


HERE IS A GIGANTIC HUG FOR YOU (((((((((HUG)))))))))

You have been trying to build a relationship with each other? How did he leave you honey ??

Im so very sorry that you are hurting...

Will you update if you are feeling up to it?

@lady - It is a long story. My father believes that he has a right to do and know whatever he wants to. If you do not agree or follow his rules he cuts you out of his life. I thought he would be proud of me for going back to college. He even offered to help pay. What he did not tell me was he would have to see all my financial records and he felt he had the right to say whatever he wished about my husband and me. he even wanted to know what I talked about in therapy. I thought he was trying to help until I saw how he was manipulating my emotions. :(

I never really had a father so all his comments and actions I thought were normal until I started talking with my therapist about it. When I told my father that he had to step back and that there had to be some boundaries he said that was not acceptable and left. He said when I was ready to " respect those parameters" he may talk to me. Really? Who talks like that?

This post does not make much sense but there is just to much to try and explain.

Thank you for asking and for caring.
I just thought it might be different this time. adult to adult, you know? I guess I was wrong

Kallie

Back home for the night. Feeling OK. Wishing all the best. Back to work tomorrow so I may not be on until tomorrow night.

Hugs to all!!!

Let's keep this going...............

David.

Not looking forward to this week

lady,

I am scared. But I am a big mother bear when it comes to my kids so he is in trouble. SO agrees that he is outta here!
It is raining or I'd have thrown his trash in the street already.
Well, we would get cited from the homeowners assoc also. He is not worth the fine for littering.