I have been keeping to my journal to write about my convoluted sex life, but had an experience yesterday that I found very weird. I met a male friend for lunch. We have known each other for 30 years. Back when we first met, he did want to date me, but I was not attracted to him. We became good friends, tho, and went out to concerts etc a lot up until the time we both got married.

Well, at the end of lunch, we got talking about our marriages and I said I really wasn't sure I wanted to be married, but felt kind of stuck after 26 years. He agreed and then said maybe it was time for a FWB. Then he confessed that he still wants me after all these years and wants desperately to make love to me, etc. I was gobsmacked. A few years ago, he was damning off people who screw around. I also thought his marriage was very good. Better than mine.

I am in a quandary. He is the second male friend of longstanding to come on to me in as many months. This is why I wonder...am I giving off some kind of signal...? It seems so crazy. With this latest one...while I am more attracted to him now than I was when he was young, I really don't want to have an affair with him. I also don't want to hurt him. I know I hurt him back in the day. How can I say 'no' diplomatically and retain the friendship?