It's working well, thanks!

maybe you should read some journals. You seem out of touch. They are personal, but are often shared, and the responses are really helpful for some of us.

But I will stop blaming you and start looking within now. I have to find the reason he turns off his phone and is unavailable to his disabled child. If i look hard enough, I'm sure that's my fault, too...

Hand raised..I know at the start of the breakup there was still a chance, in giving him the break to sort his feelings out. unfortunately, or fortunately, I turned into a crazy texter, which in turn, yes pushed him away further. My first ever break up, didn't know how to deal with it, went a little crazy for a while. Take full responsibilty for my my actions. Well what was meant to be will be I guess. Should have not taken so long to work on myself. But admit I was psycho wife there for a while, well maybe a long while...But I've learnt. And that's it basically. What was, just was, I guess......

Look, I know, and have slept with practically all of you.

Why am I here?

My emotional healing is done.

Everything is as it should be, yet I hang around.

I see both sides clearly.

You get off the whiny plane when your ride is over. Some will stay on the blame plane for the rest of their lives.

You are the only one that determines when either ride ends.

Should you nudge people to get up and dust themselves off? Absolutely. If they don't take to a nudge? They aren't ready to get up. You stand with them until they do, or leave them to their own devices and processes. I get your frustration, as you have seen the light, and want to share with all, but some don't move at your speed, and never will.

Love them anyway.

RMS you better be taking notes.

I think TD just called us slow...

Not at all hikerchic.

The speed in which you heal is not gauged as fast or slow. It just is.

Well, I was slow....Very slow...I don't want to say I'm fully healed, but well on my way...I had friends telling me to concentrate on myself and let go. Telling me I was a dweller, which I tend to be. Always took their advise, and never got offended, but until I was ready to start my way of healing, it didn't matter what anyone said...Admitting I'm a little slow...

BoricuaMami: I don't get into pissing matches in the internet (waste of my time) but let me help you out here......Very simply put.....Nobody likes a preachy windbag. And there are more than a few preachy windbags on DS.

But the things you have written are in my Top 5 of preachy windbagginess that I've read on this site.

Support should come from sincerity. Dial it down a few notch on the preachiness and I think it will be all peaches and cream. If I wanted to be preached to, I'd make a better effort to get to 10am mass on Sundays.

Take care and good luck!

Some of the women on here have some serious issues with words. I truly believe that some words set you off no mater how the word is presented.

TD " Grape Ape " WTF.

I think words are a personal craft. To agree or disagree, is the emotion pushing the craft. It's gender in-specific.

Term of endearment GSCH.

This is a prime example that people dont read. I put " FROM MY EXPERIENCE " THAT MEANS WOMEN I KNOW.

I dont know any of you financially.

Or would you rather me instead of calling you women I will start calling women, whores, sluts, tacos, gals, scanks , bitches. No you are women.

Jaken do I know anything about your finances?

Women over my life time. You women are psycho.

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