Ah, I don't think I've been doing that great the past few days. Today was better I think though.

Keep at it, you're going to make it happen!

I know what you mean about not being too hard on yourself but still being stressed about the pulling. It's a frustrating cycle. Keep trying!

Thank you guys :) very much.

Well hi accountabilibuddies! I've set a goal, 3 months pull free! From today til July 24. I don't normally set huge goals like this but I believe this is the best thing for me at the moment. My hair is causing me a lot of negative emotions. I'll just keep a tally if any hairs I do pull (2 today). I need to think of a great reward to motivate me. I do have some other good motivation, as I'm going on a beach holiday in about 3 months. That may have been the main motivation behind creating this goal. Anyway, I'm kinda pumped!

Wow! I love the beach holiday! I have a similar goal in mind, which is helping me to keep track better. You've got this!

I know what you mean about keeping it to a huge goal to help with the little bits.

Hugs! You're doing wonderful!

Challenging goals can help with motivation for sure! Be gentle with yourself if you slip up, but your beach holiday sounds like a great reward. I understand how hair can cause negative feelings. Remember that it doesn't take that long for regrowth to appear, and try not to focus on the hair so much until then.

Thank you mid :) I love the beach too.


Thanks Manda, great advice :)

Erghhh, the thing I feel the worst about is not coming to this site every day! I only need to spend 10 minutes here. 5 minutes even. It really helps me so it's a priority.

So, I haven't had a pull free day yet. My willpower slipped after 4 days, and I stopped wearing bandaids. In the past 6 days I've been pulling a lot (15-25 hairs per day), with one day where I oulled 3 hairs in there )that was following a day I pulled 25 hairs). Barriers are essential for me right now if I want to make progress. Willpower is a muscle and it increases with use.

So, barriers and visiting this site daily. Those are my two action steps. They are quite simple + quick ... But they make such a difference.

Oh but I should note that for the first 5 days of my challenge/goal I pulled: 6,4,4,4,6. Which is awesome, especially considering that previously I was pulling so many more hairs than that per day.

I so agree about the importance of coming here daily. Sometimes I really don't feel I have time, and sometimes I use that as too much of an excuse, but like you said, it really only takes five minutes. It helps so much with accountability, and of course having a support system is invaluable!

Yeah it's all about priorities! I can easily say that I don't have time in the morning but that's just not true. I can get up 5 mins earlier or shorten one of my activities for 5 mins.

Well 10 hairs yesterday, 10 already today. Feeling a lot of negative emotions today and that is of course a major trigger. I have bandaids with me so I'll put them on. Ugh. I just want to be a hermit sometimes and live on top of a mountain alone.

The past few days have been heavier pulling days. Checked my calendar. Yep... My period has taken me by surprise yet again. I need to set alarms every day for a week to remind me or something! Argh!

Keep giving yourself encouragement. I know, the hardest step is the first one, you have our support!

You can do this!

Waaah. My hair is in a really bad place. It's maybe the worst it ever been...

This is, of course, affecting my mental health. I'm experiencing more sadness, more panic, more melancholy, more anxiety etc than "usual".

I'm going to go back to focusing on the numbers (getting as many "good" days - 3s and below) as I can in shorter and shorter periods of time, and spending minimal time looking at my hair.

I need to get a hair cut next weekend and I'm dreading it. For the past.. I don't know how long, each time I've gone to get my hair done I've fekt shame due to my hair, and I've thought "well it will look better next time I go". But it just looks worse. And I can see the pity in their eyes and it just plain sucks.

Because my hair is thin naturally, bald spots happen REALLY fast. So even minimal pulling causes noticeable damage, which of course gets worse as time goes on, even if the pulling hasn't increased.

I'm going to keep trying to do better, mark scores on my calendar, and work on my negative thoughts about my hair. It's possible to change your thoughts. I tell myself that I don't beat myself up necessarily, but I think I do. I think on some (fairly big) level, I blame myself. It's tricky... Because I know that ultimately I DO have control, so it's hard NOT to blame myself. Oh, I think I also need to throw myself into a project with tangible results, so I can feel proud of something.

Ugh, I need a million hugs. Plz.

Hugs, Hugs, Hugs!

"In the Moment"...your hair is beautiful as is. You are beautiful as is. It's so hard to switch from the "beating up" mode we automatically turn on. Just keep at it, every single suggestion will remind you of your physical and mental "ability" ...and you've got this!

You can be you!

Sorry I haven't replied sooner! So sorry to hear you're struggling. Keep focusing on the numbers and not the hair. The hair will grow. Trich is so difficult a lot of the time, but it does get better sometimes, too. You just have to hang in there until the urges get easier to deal with. I know the feeling of blaming yourself, but we have to keep it in perspective. If you wouldn't blame someone else for having trich, try not to blame yourself. Finding a project to do sounds like a great idea! Be nice to yourself and message me if you want to vent about anything! Hugs!!