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- LOSS OF WILLPOWER - Each time our willpower fails, with our best intentions, we feel even more hopeless, useless, and worthless. The greatest damage to self-esteem comes from repeated failures at trying to change addictive behavior. It really hurts...
- 4. DISTORTION OF ATTENTION - Preoccupied with the object of our addiction or attachment, we cannot think of anything else but stuff connected with the addiction or the person or thing we are attached to. The distortion becomes our ULTIMATE CONCERN....
- 3. SELF-DELUSION - Starts with denial, then repression, and then mind games, rationalizing, then comes the conscious lying. The rationalizing and consciously lying really do a job on our trust, self-esteem, respect and self-respect. At all cost we...
- 2. PROGRESSIVE - Tolerance: takes more to get the job done; we are unable to get by with what we once did. With non-substance addiction Jealousy it takes more reassurance or checking on, etc.Al: On top of my drinking problem getting worse so was my...
- 1. ALLERGY - The phenomena of physical craving that kicks in with the first drink of alcohol, slice of cake, pill or any drug, etc. This craving is limited to those with a chemical addiction.Al: When it came to jealousy I did not have the same kind...
- STEP ONE (Honesty) We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.SIX ESSENTIAL CHARACTERISTICS OF ALCOHOLISM AND OTHER ADDICTIONSWorking the Six Essential Characteristics of Alcoholism and other addictions as...
- During the time you are working this process you will have to abstain from your triggers. For jealousy you are to abstain form asking inquiring questions, like “who was at the meeting” or “who did you have lunch”, etc. You are not to do any...
- It takes as much or more skill to dis-empower an old habit as it does to build a new useful one. The following is a process for the purpose of replacing the old habit, personal “reality” jealousy, with a new one. Although this is a simple...
- This is based on Al Kohallek's 12 step method to get over Jealousy, based on the AA 12 steps.I will be posting material form his chapters which are available free here at: http://www.12stepworkbook.org/workbooks/jealousyWe could work on the forum ...
- I don't let hubby watch TV...he has to look away or close his eyes while I screen for a movie and start it at a 'safe' kids animation movie...even uncomfortable with trailorshe has to let me know if he stops anywhere on the way home from work...when...
- hubby needs to go to aa meetings.I feel uncomfortable letting him go to those which are mixed and have women in them.Right now I really need to let him go to his meetings comfortably as there are only few mens meetings. The situation in the...
- I was looking for being able to find a psonsor and be a sponsor to somebody on this forum. So to have one person one could reach out to once a week and give and update of whats going on, the progress being made.A maximum of a 15 minute call from teh...
- wellthis s not exactly about jealousy but i am here healing from it.I have been having jelaousy-free days and I mark 7 days straight this week:) as an 'A' grade. This implies I did 't ask any serious questions about it.Overall there has been much...
- HiI am doing OK with my no jealous-questions pact. I am rewarding myself with some yummy hot drink. I was doing well. Now there is this feeling of disconnection from my partner. A kind of independence and liberation and also a feeling that by losing...
- well things were going pretty well and I was having a few jealous free days. Had a great day yesterday and able to focus at work. By the time I got home and was tired and hubby mentioned in passing about something we would do when his parents get...