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- Even though our EC have chosen to discard us, we are still their parent. We will always be their parent. They will always be our children. Estrangement won't change that.Even though we were not perfect, we are still their parent. We will always be...
- Can reconciliation happen with our EC? I believe it can. Some of us have had periods of reconciliation, only to have re-estrangement override it. Most likely because there never was a "real reconciliation".Many of us have tried repeatedly to...
- Our EC are the lost sheep. The Lord never stops looking until He has found that one lost sheep. I pray that our lost sheep will find Him and find their way back home.
- Faith, Hope and Love are the most powerful spiritual gift. "But the greatest of these is Love".Let's not let estrangement steal our Faith. Let's not let estrangement leave us without Hope. Let's not let estrangement stop us from Loving our EC.
- Our EC are lost. They are lost in their own motives and emotions. They are lost from their family. They are lost along a path that in the end will not lead them towards peace and love. We cannot "find" them. We cannot alter the course of the path...
- We all plant seeds each day in our garden of life. Its up to us to plant the kinds of seeds we want. Whatever we plant, we will reap. Each day we water our seeds with the thoughts we have and the words we speak. This is our garden. We decide what...
- Does it mean we don't try to make any contact? I know we can't change our EC and that is why we put them at the foot of the Cross. I decided to reach out to my EC on the family holidays only as I still have a phone to call. Even if I get no...
- I had stopped praying for my EC discouraged by yet another estrangement after a reunion. There was no rhyme or reason for the re-estrangement I thought, but now I see that God has a Plan.When God is involved in working out the estrangement and when...
- We can't control estrangement. We can't fix estrangement. We didn't choose estrangement. We have no power over estrangement. So what do we choose to do with it?We can choose to let it ruin us. We can choose to let it rule us. We can choose to let is...
- Detaching from our estranged adult children's choice to estrange is not easy. Especially since we are and always will be their parents. Not having a relationship with your own children is unnatural, but its a choice they have made.Sometimes, we...
- No, we don't have to take mistreatment. No, we don't have to have relationships without boundaries. No, we don't have to try to fix our adult children's estrangement choices. But if we choose to, we can still love them.
- Yes. Let's keep caring for our estranged adult children. Let's care enough to let them be responsible for healing the estrangement they chose. Let's care enough to set healthy boundaries with them. Let's care for them by letting them earn our trust...
- When we stop focusing on our estranged adult children and the choice they've made to estrange, it frees us to focus on our own life. When we stop spending time rehashing the estrangement, it gives us the time to focus on the present and enjoy the...
- I'm learning to act instead of reacting to my ES. I'm learning that I don't' have to fill in the silence that he has left by estranging and not communicating. I don't have to react by trying to reconnect with an adult child that has chosen not to...
- I really appreciate being invited to this group. We are here for each other not by chance, but by design I believe - to walk along side each other through the trials of estrangement.I wanted to share a meditation from Language of Letting Go about...