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- Topiary, I think you posted on What do you want your life to be. Would you consider reposting that? Thank you.
- If we have chosen to set boundaries with our EC, does that mean we have given up on our relationship with them? If we have decided to practice self-love by not allowing ourselves to be mistreated by our EC, does that mean we've given up on them? If...
- It used to be that my EC's behavior caused my undoing. My EC played my emotions like a fiddle. Like a merry-go-round or roller coaster, I went around and up an down based on what my EC did or didn't do.I thought that I was responsible for "undoing"...
- How can we not personalize estrangement? Especially when some of our EC have blamed us for it. Because it really isn't about us. It is about what they are feeling. It is about what they have chosen. It is about their response. It is about how they...
- Shock, hurt and anger are the emotions and reactions many of us feel when our adult children choose estrangement. Sometimes, we feel denial - the disbelief that this could happen to our family. Then, we come to acceptance that estrangement has...
- That's all this generation has to do if their parents weren't perfect. They don't have to accept responsibilities for their own behavior as adults when their parents are available for blaming. All they have to do is Blame you, Click on you and hit...
- The generation is living in the days of disposable family. If their parents do something they don't like, they can just cut them off. They can vanish. They can estrange. They can do a cyber block. They can get restraining orders to keep their own...
- Letting them fall where they may. As difficult as it has been, realizing that I can't fix what my EC broke has helped me find some peace. And so the family bond my EC has chosen to break has left many chips along the way. Chips that I will no longer...
- We are powerless over the choice our adult children have made to estrange themselves. We are powerless over their behavior. We are powerless over their actions. We are powerless over their feelings. We are powerless over their choices. We are...
- I walked away from my adult child's decision to estrange rather than reconcile his family relationships. I walked away from the insanity of believing that I caused or could cure my EC's actions. I walked away from any attempts to control my EC's...
- There are websites encouraging estrangement from family as a way of "healing". They talk about removing themselves from traditional holidays and choosing whether or not to be contacted regarding family deaths or attending family funerals.It is...
- Often, too often, I focus on what went wrong. Okay, so many of us have been estranged by our adult children. We may never know what went wrong. Maybe nothing went wrong, but for whatever reason they have chosen to estrange.Maybe its time to focus on...
- I know a mother whose son died of an overdose at a young age. Her daughter chooses to estrange from her.She imparted these words of wisdom to me regarding my estrangement situation. "Keep your side of the street clean and do the next best...
- Are we meant to be estranged from our adult children for now? As much as we would want it to be otherwise, are we right where we need to be with our EC at this moment? Think about it. If they were back in our lives the way they are at this time,...
- We walk away from our EC's choice to estrange from us, accepting that we can't control their choices.When we walk away, we leave behind our efforts to change what we cannot change. We leave behind our belief that we have the power to make our EC act...