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- Merry Christmas - Seasons Greetings to all of you. Remember that Hope, Faith and Love are God's gifts to us. May each of you have many blessings in 2013.
- What about us? Why not us too? We matter just as much as anyone else. We can take care of ourselves. If our adult children don't like it when we take care of ourselves, that is their issue - not ours.If we don't take care of ourselves, we are...
- Do we really need to run the show? Is it up to us to keep the plates spinning in one hand, the hoola hoop turning in the other hand and the ball balanced on our head while we twirl something else on our ankle? How's that for multi-tasking?If we are...
- Some of us have been dancing the same way with our adult children for years - maybe even to the same record. We hear the same song and do the same steps. This dance goes around and around until we feel dizzy and its not fun anymore.Its time to learn...
- The more I think about it - we aren't really estranged from our adult children. They are just living the way they choose to live and for some of us, this means they are choosing to live completely apart from us, semi-apart from us, distant from us...
- The concept of walking away is much like detachment. Walking away is not necessarily physically leaving a place or even ending a relationship. Sometimes we can remove ourselves physically or end a relationship but we are emotionally and spiritually...
- Thinking the worst is a bad habit. Assuming we know what others are thinking or what will happen tomorrow is self-defeating.Yes, we have a bad history with our adult children, but that doesn't mean we should assume our future with them will be the...
- Each of us chooses how we will handle the estrangement of our adult child. Each of us chooses what is right for us. Each of us reaches our decision in our own timing. Walking away can be done in a way that feels right for each of us if that is what...
- Tonight, I was reading a meditation from The Language of Letting Go. The meditation was on recovery. No matter what our adult children choose to do....regardless of how painful that may be for us, getting them do what we want them to do is not the...
- Is doing it all for our adult children what is best of us and for them? Does being the best parent possible mean that we have to do it all and they have to do nothing or very little?Do we have to pretend that everything is ok with our adult children...
- Do our adult children get free passes just because we are their parents? I used to believe that being a parent meant having no boundaries with my adult child. I believed that in order to be a parent, I had to take whatever came my way from my adult...
- Here's the definitionof sincerity:1. not hypocritical or deceitful; open; genuine a sincere person sincere regret2. Archaic pure; unadulterated; unmixed3. Obsolete sound; wholeSomething to ponder on. I think that the sincerity of others, including...
- Sometimes we are in uncomfortable positions. Sometimes we are in impossible positions.Sometimes we are in a position to win. Sometimes we are in positions that feel right.What matters is that we recognize that we can choose what position to be in....
- It is not selfish to set bounadaries. It isn't selish to take care of ourselves. When we spend time doing good things for ourselves and realizing that we matter too, its okay.Here's a quote I love from the book entitled The Language of Letting Go....
- Maybe we feel that we have failed because we don't have a relationship with our EC. Perhaps we've come to believe that even an unhealthy relationship with our EC is better than none at all. In our need to have the love our EC cannot or will not give...