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- Peace and Joy - what gifts they are!No matter what an adult child chooses to do, I can have peace and joy.With peace and joy and letting go of the actions of others, comes freedom.
- Always, we will be mothers or fathers. God intended this. No one can take that away from us. We cannot lose the gift of love, the power of forgiveness, the treasure of hope. We can never lose the blessing of parenthood that God gave us. Our adult...
- It matters that we raised our children to the best of our ability. It matters that we love them despite the indifference they show us. It matters that we remember them, even if they forget us or only remember us when they need something. It matters...
- We are caring parents. We care enough to want restoration with our estranged adult children. We care about them and love them despite of their behavior towards us. We care so much that it breaks our hearts that they would treat us in such hurtful...
- A lot of us have made an attempt or many attempts to show our love to our estranged adult children. We bit our tongues so as not to say the "wrong" thing. We swallowed our pride, hid our pain and stuffed our anger, to keep the peace and to hold on...
- We all had or still have expectations of how our adult children should have turned out. How our families should have been. We all wanted close and loving relationships with our families. Isn't that the way it is supposed to be anyway?For those of us...
- Yes. Our estranged adult children are out of control - they are out of OUR control. We have no control over them and their choices and we have zero control over estrangement.Often, I struggle with believing that if I only I could do or say just the...
- Just want to say happy and blessed New Year to all of you. May the Lord keep you in His loving care, just as He is keeping our adult children in His care. Keep the faith.
- Continuing on the topic of the olive branch....what is an olive branch? I think its just a loving gesture. Its like giving a gift. When we expect something in return for it, then its not an olive branch any longer, just like gifts aren't gifts if...
- What can we do about estrangement? What can we do about our adult children and the lives they live and choice they make? We can't fix estrangement. We can't change them. We can't live their lives and make their choices. What we can do is love them....
- Happy New Year!In this new year, I hope we each find the gift of serenity. Peace despite our trials.I find serenity when I accept that I have no control over my adult child and decide to release my adult child to make his own decisions and live his...
- I've come to a conclusion regarding "estrangement". Estrangement, painful as it can be, is just a behavior our adult children choose. Estrangement is not the best way to deal with life, but that is how they choose to deal with things in their lives,...
- Sure. They can stop answering our calls. They can move away with no forwarding address. They can block us on Facebook. They can forget our b-days and not spend time with us on holidays. They can refuse to let us see our grandchildren. They can speak...
- Even the hard times we go through whether it be estrangement or other losses in our lives serve a purpose and can become blessings.None of want hard times - we'd all like to coast through life without adversity, but life has obstacles. It is how we...
- If only we could predict the future, we could prepare for what is to come. They say the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior and that is true. Unless our EC choose to change, we can expect the same behavior.Perhaps, I am too hopeful,...