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- It isn't easy to learn the lesson of estrangement. Sometimes, it takes repeating the course before finally understanding it. Maybe some of us have been on the merry-go-round of trying to "fix' our EC and have at last gotten off the ride. Maybe some...
- Never really understood the concept of Walking Away - until now.EC was back in my life for a time now and then and suddenly and abruptly re-estranged. Though at first shock and hurt left me stunned, I rebounded again. Only this time, I finally...
- I used to wonder if all my efforts towards my adult child were worth it. Now I know that worthy efforts are healthy efforts.If I am over extending myself towards my adult child at the cost of exhausting myself or undermining my self-respect, than...
- No matter what the status of your relationship is with your adult child - distant, non-existent or only exists when they need you, you can still choose to live a full life. A full life, I am learning is a life where I live my own life and where I...
- No matter what the status of your relationship is with your adult child - distant, non-existent or only exists when they need you, you can still choose to live a full life.A full life, I am learning is a life where I live my own life and where I...
- Been learning that how I act is no longer dependent on how others act - my adult child included.We all know by now that we can't control how others act. I used to think that what I did or didn't do had an impact on how someone else acts. Sometimes,...
- Many of us were again dishonored today. We were ignored on our special day....and it is not okay.We are justified to feel hurt. We have a right to be angry too. We should expect acknowledgement from the adult children we brought into this world.For...
- I used to believe that as a parent, I needed to be the one to try. I needed to be the one to reach out. I needed to be the one to figure it out. I needed to be the one to mend it. I needed to be the one to endure. I needed to be the one to forgive...
- When a mother is forgotten on such a special day when a mother is approached as if this day is just like any other when a mother gets no flowers not even a card despite a show of bravery the pain very hard When a mother gets a phone call when a...
- Too many typos in my post. Here is the RetakeWhen A Mother is ForgottenWhen a mother is forgotten on such a special day when a mother is approached as if this day is just like any other when a mother gets no flowers not even a card despite a show of...
- When a mother is forgotten on such a special daywhen a mother is approached as if this day is just like any otherwhen a mother gets no flowersnot even a carddespite a show of braverythe pain very hardWhen a mother gets a phone callwhen a mother gets...
- On this special day, we can remember that we are forever mothers. Even if we are ignored, mistreated, used, unacknowledged on this day, we are forever mothers. We deserve the flowers, cards, calls, gifts and most importantly the sincere love from...
- Are you beaten down by the estrangement or have you beaten it down? As long as I am not beating myself up over the actions of my adult child, I am not beaten.The only beat I dance to now is the beat of serenity now matter how loud the drums of...
- I hear that a lot of us are experiencing or have experienced a lack of compassion from our adult children. In some cases, we have experienced down right cruelty in our most vulnerable moments.Often, we have seen our adult children "fronting" ,...
- When our adult children were really children, it was our responsibility to give them consequences for their behavior. We could give them time outs, take away privileges, ground them or reward them based on their behavior. Being consistent with the...