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- Today, I await the outcome of an informal invitation I've given to my EC to go out to dinner. My EC said he'd call sometime this afternoon. I've been disappointed before with such invitations and I've expressed my feelings about it calmly in the...
- We are all partners here on this estrangement journey. We carry each other along the path. When one lags behind, we go back to help and make sure they are ok. On that note, is Bugsy out there? Just wondering. Anyone know? Bugsy?
- This hit me tonight after reading some other posts.We know how our estranged adult children are behaving. They aren't responding or maybe they respond in negative ways. They behave selfishly or manipulatively. Some of us have seen this behavior or...
- When we hold on tightly to our fears, to our worries, to our unresolved problems with our estranged adult children, we cannot live in peace. When we focus on their absence, on their silence, on their indifference, on their actions, on their...
- It may be something we did or are now doing that makes our EC estrange themselves. Take a deep breath now and read on before you draw conclusions.I got to thinking about how some of our EC aren't heard from or seldom heard from and when they are...
- Enough is enough. Enough is when we have had our fill. Enough is when we can't take anymore, don't want anymore and won't take anymore. Enough is when we have done enough and the EC haven't done enough. Enough is when we are doing all the work and...
- My EC has had some "showings" over the past year. Mainly, when he needs something. Today, I got a call asking for a "favor" - he needed a ride to a friends. Thing is, I was nearby and had time to do the favor and of course, I wanted to see him, so I...
- Most of us are uninvited, rejected, ignored by our estranged adult children. Some of us hear from them only when they need something and then we are again discarded. We aren't the on the list for invitees to graduations, weddings, granchildren's...
- Josh Coleman's book is one I've read and while it has some very valid points towards healing estranged relationships between parents and their estranged children, for me....I think that I have to be careful with how I interpret it into my...
- Below are some definitions of Victim:One who is harmed by or made to suffer from an act, circumstance, agency, or condition.A person who is tricked, swindled, or taken advantage of.We are on this site because we have adult children who for whatever...
- Estrangement and or no response is mistreatment - regardless of what started it. Its not right for our own children to disregard us. That's the conclusion I've come to.All relationships have issues, conflicts - they ebb and flow, but when you truly...
- They need something from us. I hear this a lot on these boards. And I know, for most of us its true. Our hearts hope that our EC are on their way to wanting a "relationship" with us. That they are wanting to "make amends". So we see these signs of...
- A safety net. This what we are to each other I think. This is what God is for me. We come here through our ups and downs with estrangement...wherever we are with it knowing that the net will catch us. The net is our spirits intertwined and united by...
- Who knows every outcome? Can we control outcomes? God is really the only one who is all knowing. We can do our best to sow our good seeds so we can reap good things, but we have no control over what others sow and what the outcomes will be.If our...
- I've been learning something on my estrangement journey that I wanted to share.What is the force? The force is when we try to coerce adult children to act as we wish they would. We may give them a gift or give them a call or write them an email,...