My finance Andrew passed away on June 24, 2015 at the age of 31. He died of sudden cardiac arrest. He was a very healthy guy and had no idea he had an abnormal arrhythmia. He collapsed in the hallway sometime shortly after I left for work. I am still in shock and miss him every second of every day...

I am weeping after reading all of these stories. So much sadness. Thank you for sharing everyone. I know I am not alone as hard as this is.

My husband died instantly in a collision, four years ago and he was 56. We were working through some issues at the time. I have a lot of guilt about making the last month of our life together so unhappy, with 28 years of mostly happy and some downright magnificent in front of it. I'm sorry for your loss Ruth and I hope you find some comfort in this caring community.
Hugs,
Jean

Hi Ruth. I'm new here, too, and have found comfort in all the posts on the various threads.

I knew my husband since 1991. We were married for almost 21 years, and he died when he was 53. He loved to fly and was an aerobatic pilot. He was practicing for an airshow on August 28, 2015 when the tail of his plane broke off, and he crashed. It's been 10 weeks.

I realize now that I was in a fog for the first few weeks just going through the motions and on autopilot trying to settle all his/our affairs (no will, no kids). I'm fine at work (HS teacher) for the most part and have great friends, but when it's the weekend or I am alone in the car, I never know when the wailing will commence. From what I've been reading, this will go on a long time.

My husband died of complications of end stage liver cirrhosis on August 25, 2015. He was 57...we would have celebrated 36 years of marriage on September 22 and he would have turned 58 on October 17.
Some mornings I wake-up and still can't comprehend that he is not here. The good thing...he is with our Heavenly Father so he's not lost, just has a new address.

My husband of 40 years passed on March 20, 2012 of colon cancer. He was diagnosed with stage 4 but fought with all his might and lived 6 years after being diagnosed. He managed to finish his college classes even after going through the chemo and radiation, and got his masters degree. I am still so proud of him and am still happy that I was his wife!

My husband passed away on May29, 2015. He was 33 years old. He had low back pain and a horrible cough the week before Christmas 2014. By New Year's Day, he had severe neck pain. On January 17th, he was hospitalized when I took him to the ER for the pain. They said he had stage 4 cancer, but we didn't know what type.
On February 20th, our 11th wedding anniversary, we found out that he had a very rare cancer called NUT Midline Carcinoma. He was the 62nd person in the world, and the 2nd person in our home state of Illinois to be diagnosed with it. He was given 6-9 months to live, and there is no known treatment. We looked into clinical trials and found two, one through Glaxo-Smith Cline at MD Anderson in Houston. We flew him down there right away and were told he didn't qualify for the study because he was too sick. We then flew him from Houston to Cleveland for another clinical trial through Tensha. They got him approved for "Compassionate Use", just in case he couldn't participate in the trial.
The drug from Tensha worked for the first round (3 weeks of daily injections followed by 1 week off). It worked amazingly well. But it stopped working with the second and third round. That's the problem with this type of cancer. It responds initially, but then stops responding.
He passed away just 5 months after his symptoms started. He went from 300 pounds to 160 pounds in just that short amount of time. He suffered every minute of every day since the pain started in late December.

Hello Ruth,
Thank you for asking the question. Part of my healing journey has been to tell the story of my husband's last days. My husband died April 17, 2014 from gastric cancer. It was unexpected and sudden in that when his symptoms presented it was already at stage IV, metastatic disease. We had been zip lining in Belize a few weeks before and when we returned home about a week later he began to feel ill and we assumed he had picked up a travel bug. A few tests later we received the devastating news. He live one month after diagnosis. He was 63 years old. We were married 42 years.

The love of my life Susie passed away on November 27, 2014. She had lots of health issues, and her heart was the one that killed her. We got up on Thanksgiving day with plans to got to a friends house for dinner. She called my son's girlfriend to thank her for the Christmas wreath she gave us. She complained of chest pains and became non responsive. I called 911 and the ambulance came. They took her to the hospital and she died on the way. I chose not to ride with her and met the ambulance at the hospital. I've always felt guilt about not being there when she died. Since then I am living in a trance sometimes. I miss her all the time. I know she's with God.

My husband suddenly and unexpectedly died two weeks ago. He was 57. We went to bed and he simply died in his sleep of undiagnosed rapid renal failure. The grief of his passing and the shock of waking up to find him dead has been devastating.

My husband died at age 36. He was born with a bad heart and lived a hard life. It finally caught up with him. We used to have a joke about an old well at the back of our property. I would tell his friends if they got him into trouble and then didn't see him for a long time, I had pushed him down the well. When i got the call from his work, his best friend and our best man at our wedding told me Gerald had fallen down the well and I should get to the hospital. He died before I could get there. I still can't forgive myself for not telling him how much I loved him before he left this world.

My Ken died March 12, 2011 at age 61. He wasn't feeling well kept going to ER. They said he had liver infection go home ride it out no meds. 11 days he passed of septis. The infection invated his heart and he ended up with 5 brain bleeds because of it.
I was 58 we were married 38 years my only boyfriend. Still miss him so

My wife Collette passed on Oct 25, 2014 of breast cancer at age 56 after 22 years of marriage. Her cancer had (supposedly) been in remission but she developed a back ache Sept 30 and was gone a little over 3 weeks later. Had a bi-annual check up with the oncologist in June that year and the tumor they found 3 months later was the size of a softball. Shoddy oncological workmanship.

Lost my husband to colon cancer back in 2094, he was only 34 when he passed. things happened so fast that everything at that time was a big blur, and in many ways it still is for me at times. I am a 63 year old widow that has lost all family close to me except my son, and my three grand daughters. With the situation my son is in right now with his wife, there is a good possibility that I may loose him and the children as well. Not looking forward to the holidays very much this year. But I am thankful God has sent me a new life partner to help hold me up and keep me strong.

My husband was 67 when he was diagnosed with inoperable Glioblastoma Brain Tumor . Almost one year later on August 24, 2015 he was gone. We were married 47 years and going together 50 years. I meet him when I was 11 years old and he was almost 15. and he was my life and my Superman.