My husband died in his sleep aug 19 2015 his cause of death is still pending, My dad died the day before aug 18 2015 with end stage renal disease. He couldnt take the dialysis anymore so mom put him in hospice it was only 6 hours til he died.

my dad was 79 and had dialysis only 2 weeks but his diabetes wasnt controled over 25 years. My husband was 46

My husband died November 22, 2014. He woke me at about 7:30am to let me know he was going for his Saturday morning run at a local nature park. He never returned. He was found unconscious at the park by other walkers/runners who tried to revive him. I called and texted him but knew something was wrong when he didn't return my calls or come home to attend karate practice with our son. By the time I made it to the hospital his body was taken to the medical examiner. He didn't have any identification on him during his run so he was considered a John Doe until they finger printed him. It took three months before I received a cause of death. Cardiomyopathy, he had many different things wrong with his heart. He may have visited a doctor twice in the 20 years we were married. He was 44 years old and our children were 11 and 13. We met each other in middle school, I miss my friend everyday.

My wife Dina died April 11 2013 from a brain hemorrhage. She was a month shy of 34 and I had only a month before turned 34. She had been in the hopsital for the 4 months prior due to complications following heart valve replacement surgery (thank you childhood cancer treatments!). The cause of the hemorrhage could not be determined.

My husband died suddenly July 30, 2015. He was 78. He had just passed the 20 year anniversary of his kidney transplant. In February, he had another aneurysm surgery (3 total including aortic). He wore a heart monitor for a month following that surgery and his heart was "fine". The morning of his death, he woke with a jaw pain so we went to the hospital ER, 65 miles away. They did all the tests, vitals, drew blood, EKG, etc. He was wanting to go home. Then all of a sudden he reached back to me, when I jumped up and grabbed him I knew he was gone. I stayed with him the whole time they worked on him doing CPR, etc. praying/begging him to recover. His death was listed as myocardial infarction. With all he went through medically, I thought he would go on forever. I remember the moment I grabbed him everyday but also remember he was reaching for me.

My husband was killed in a single car crash...cause of death was blunt force trauma but the cause of that was unknown; probable heart issues, although he exercised regularly, took vitamins religiously, etc. He was 10 days short of celebrating his 70th birthday with a disco themed birthday bash. He hadnt even retired yet but was greatly looking forward to it.

My husband Ron died at home on March 22, 2010, from Glio blastoma multiforma brain cancer he was 47 years young.

I just wanted to say how much I enjoy this post and all the responses. Thank you, Ruth for starting it and all the people who responded for letting us know you a little better. Sharon

My wife of 10 years Rachelle died a year ago. 7th November 2014. she was 38. I was 49. She was diagnosed with breast cancer in August 2013, 4 months after having our daughter Layla.
After surgery, Chemo and radiation we hoped we were on the road to recovery, but the cancer spread to her brain. More surgery and radiation was done, and once completed we jumped on a plane from Australia so she had the chance to go to Disneyland with our daughter.
Layla will not remember, but it was the best thing we could of done. Our 5 week holiday had to be cut short after 2 weeks due to increasing back pain.
We went straight from the airport to the hospital where she was operated on within hours and we found the cancer had spread to the lining of her spinal column and brain.
We spent the next 3 weeks in hospital until she realized nothing more could be done. Somehow she lasted another 3 weeks at home.
Every hour of every day for those 6 weeks someone was awake next to her. I spent every waking moment with her.
No amount of time together was ever going to be enough and she passed with her parents her brother and sister, and me by her bedside in our home.
Yesterday was a very emotional day. We had a gathering of about 50 friends and family. We cooked her favorite food (chicken schnitzel) lit a candle and drank her favorite red wine in her memory.
It is tough being a sole parent to a 2 year old who had the most loving mother she could ask for, but I am lucky I have her to drag me forward into this new life. And We are lucky to have an amazing family and a very large group of supportive friends who still go out of their way to help us whenever needed.
Best wishes to everyone here.

I'm Sandy. I joined DS in May 2014, about 3 weeks after my husband Martin was killed by a hit and run driver (M was riding his bicycle on a quiet country road). He was a keen long distance cyclist and very fit and young-at-heart at 61.
I've found DS a lifeline, better than counselling or books, although they've been a big help too.
I'm still finding it hard but am managing much better than I was at the start. Having made it through 18 months, my next challenge is the court case against the driver (the police tracked him down and charged him after 12 weeks). The trial date has not been set but may be in the first half of next year.

My husband died March 2,2015 he had a massive heart attack at home and made it to the hospital only to have two more heart attacks. He was put on life support and we waited for a sign that he was doing better. Just when the doctors thought there could be some hope although it would be a long road he was diagnosed with neferizing pancreitis. two days after he was diagnosed the dissuasion was made to take him off all meds and he passed that day...I at least had 33 days with him before he passed that I will forever be grateful for. He was 56 years old and we were married for 22 years.......

On Sunday June 9th my (then 7 yr old) granddaughter and I came home from working in our candy store to find the garage door open and bloody footprints all over the garage. She said "Lola I have a bad feeling about this." I told her to wait while I went inside. My 53 year old husband had apparently lost his balance and sat down hard on our glass coffee table shattering it into long shards. It severed his femoral artery. There were lots of rags in the garage he had used to try and stop the bleeding. The coroner said he would have bled out in about 10 minutes.

He still hangs out here and makes lots of noise which is very comforting. October 22 would have been our 35th anniversary. He was the best time I ever had.

My soulmate died of rare head and neck cancer: parotid (salivary glands). He had a feeding tube, couldn't swallow. could no longer speak well and his face was frozen to the side and swollen here and there often. He didn't want anyone to see him. He said 'what a way to go'. He was given 2 to 10 months to live. He had it 3 years earlier and had 'beat it' with chemo and radiation. Very hard to watch your 'other half' die painfully, slowly and he told me "I'm not ready to go" meaning the tiny grandkids etc to watch grow up, our just getting to retirement to begin travel etc, never got to. Just so sad watching him die, pushing his wheelchair. Driving for him as he could no longer do so. Unfortunately parotid cancer is so rare, they don't study it well. I've read all of your comments, you all have my sincere sympathy and a hug.

My husband died of cancer January 7, 2012. He was 45 and I had just turned 42. At the time my children were 9,4 ,2. In September 2010 he was having problems swallowing and keeping food down. I took him to ER and he was diagnosed with esophageal cancer the day I went back to work from maternity leave for my youngest daughter. He was diagnosed at stage 3. The plan was radiation to shrink the tumor and chemo. Then he would have surgery to remove the esophagus. After the radiation he was doing well, he was eating and his spirits were good. In March he was scheduled for surgery. The day before he was crying telling me he had a bad feeling about this. I tried to reassure him that he's scared and that's normal and everything will be ok. A few hours into the surgery the surgeon appeared and he told me he could not proceed with the surgery because there was cancer in his bowels and stomach which did not appear in the cat or pet scans because they are below the detection level. They tried chemo to prolong his life but three different drugs were not responding. In December 2011 he had an inoperable bowel obstruction and he wanted to die at home. Somehow he decided he did not want to die on Christmas because he didn't want the kids to have bad memories of the holidays.
I miss him everyday. I'm figuring out what is my next journey in this life.

Antonella

My husband dropped me and the kids off of our boat after a afternoon of fishing. It was getting dark. He was taking the boat back to put on the trailer, and then meet us at the house. On his way, the boat hit a single piling in the water. He was killed. The coast guard, sherif, marine patrol and Fwc were all searching for him after they found his empty boat. I found him floating near shore. We have a nineteen month old baby, the youngest of our five children. His ex wife got his life insurance due to his divorce decree. Life has been a living hell every since. I am fighting to keep our house. Everyday is a struggle.