Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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cliffskat 04/25/2017

Hi Everybody,

Once in awhile in the past we have done a Roll Call post to see who is here and why/how we got here. It's been sometime since we did one, and I thought now might be a good time to let others know you're here and why. That and apparently we're back up to 2,000 members!

Please don't post any last names or your kids' names - those should be kept private for your safety - this is a public forum.

I will start:

I am Cliffskat, my name is Martha, I lost my husband Cliff to an unexpected heart attack in November 2007. He was only 55, I was only 50 when he died. We had just celebrated being together for 30 years. I joined DS a couple weeks after he died. I became a "Community Leader" or "CL" for short in March of 2011. My friends from those early days have mostly moved on with their lives, but I remember them with great affection and gratitude for the help and understanding they gave me. I stayed to help others get through their losses like they helped me. I met my new husband in this group (he is a widower), and we married in 2010. I moved from Florida to England as my new husband is British (and a fellow CL here). I also have two beautiful autistic sons. My life looks nothing like it did before I lost Cliff. But it is good for the most part.

Okay, who else is here???

Love and Hugs,

Martha, co-Community Leader

scottito 04/26/2017

Call me Scott or Scottie. Just don't call me Ishmael or late for dinner :) My Juanita departed on May 8, 2015 about 2 weeks after our 30th wedding anniversary. Pancreatic cancer took her down, 4 months from diagnosis to death. I was 57 and she was just getting ready to turn 67 but never made it to her birthday. All of it has shaken me to my core and took me to a bottom I didn't think possible to find a way out of. But I've let this whole painful experience change and mold me into a far better person than I was before. Most likely, I think I was always too black and white, now I guess I'd color myself gray. Went pretty wild for an old guy this past year, but got it out of my system now, I think. Many many heroes and heroins here have helped me beyond belief, and for that I thank you all.

Jdhayes 04/26/2017

Hi, I'm Jenny and I lost the love of my life Oct 29, 2016 due to complications of heart bypass surgery. Things are OK, but will never be the same. I miss him so much.

Jdhayes 04/26/2017

Hi my name is Jenny. I lost the love of my life on Oct 29th, 2016. This weekend is the 6 month anniversary and his birthday. Prayers needed.

Uniz 04/26/2017

I'm Karla from South Dakota. I lost my husband Glenn on June 30, 2014 right before our 27th anniversary and 6 months after his dad's passing. They both died of sudden heart attacks. Glenn was 55 and I was 52.

vegprincess 04/26/2017

Hi, I'm Beth. My husband of 29 years died on 4/8/2017. He was only 54 and I'm 52. Every single day is a struggle. I miss him so much and don't know how I'm going to get through this pain. I'm so glad I found this site because reading all the posts helps.

luckydaughter 04/26/2017

Hi everyone. I am Sylvia and I lost the love of my life, Steve, eight months ago to cancer. We were married 31 years and had two sons, three grandsons and a granddaughter. Another grandson is expected to be born this summer.

msgood 04/26/2017

Hi
I'm Jeanne I lost my husband Ben in March 2016 to COPD we were both widows when we met we were together for 13 beautiful years. "Don't cry because it is over....Smile because it happened",
Dr. Seuss

Lynnlynne 04/26/2017

I'm Lynn. I lost my husband Sean Friday,May 13,2016 from a heart attack related to renal failure,he was only 47. We would have celebrated our 13th anniversary in July. Forever and a day was how we signed everything to each other. Miss him terribly.

hmr5 04/26/2017

I lost my 58 yr old husband 2 years ago from a heart attack. He collapsed while on a treadmill. He did everything right health wise and it didn't matter. I still cry everyday.

Mamza 04/27/2017

He passionately called me Mamza meaning mother of my kids. My name is Jabu from South Africa. I lost my husband in December, 11th 2016. He was diagnosed with B cell lymphoma in July 2016. He had a bad lung infection that eventually took him away from me. Miss him dearly. Grateful to this forum

Hopeful44 04/27/2017

Hi everyone. My name is Gwen from the Philippines. My husband died of a massive heart attack last Sept 2016. A huge part of me died with him that day and life was never the same. Hoping we someday find peace and happiness after what we all went through...

Dave61 04/27/2017

Hi, I'm Dave and currently in South Dakota, I lost Luise on Valentine's Day of 2016 after 40 years of marriage. She suffered from ALS the last 4 years, she was 61 and I was 60. Getting ready to move to Alabama and trying to start a new chapter in life.

Sophia2002 04/27/2017

Hello, I'm Tiffany and I lost my husband suddenly on 11/17/16. He passed out while driving (autopsy could not say, maybe a seizure?) and crashed into a tree. We have 3 children still at home. We were married 14years. I'm 36 and he was 41.

deb20 04/27/2017

Hello. I am Deb. I lost my husband of 38 years to cancer September 2015. He was 61.I found this group after a couple of months and found it to be very helpful. I'm not on here as much these days, but it's good to still find a few familiar names.

Paco 04/27/2017

Hi. My name is Shari. I lost my best friend and husband of almost twenty years in 2015. He died if lung cancer. Watching someone you love for without any control is a life changing event in every way. Trying to move forward and hoping this site offers peace.

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