Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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Time for a Roll Call?

Community Leadercliffskat
cliffskat

Hi Everybody,


Once in awhile in the past we have done a Roll Call post to see who is here and why/how we got here.  It's been sometime since we did one, and I thought now might be a good time to let others know you're here and why. That and apparently we're back up to 2,000 members!

Please don't post any last names or your kids' names - those should be kept private for your safety - this is a public forum.


I will start:

I am Cliffskat, my name is Martha, I lost my husband Cliff to an unexpected heart attack in November 2007.  He was only 55, I was only 50 when he died.  We had just celebrated being together for 30 years.  I joined DS a couple weeks after he died.  I became a "Community Leader" or "CL" for short in March of 2011.  My friends from those early days have mostly moved on with their lives, but I remember them with great affection and gratitude for the help and understanding they gave me.  I stayed to help others get through their losses like they helped me.  I met my new husband in this group (he is a widower), and we married in 2010.  I moved from Florida to England as my new husband is British (and a fellow CL here).  I also have two beautiful autistic sons.  My life looks nothing like it did before I lost Cliff.  But it is good for the most part.


Okay, who else is here???

Love and Hugs,


Martha, co-Community Leader
Lisastp
Lisastp
I'm Lisa - my wonderful husband passed away very suddenly at age 51 in October of 2014. He was the love of my life and I am so fortunate to have been his wife. This site saved my sanity in the early days -- this is the one place were you can say anything and someone will understand. We are in the club that no one wants to be in, and that no one can understand until they lose their partner. I visit the site about once a week now, to try to give back some of the support I received in the early days. I've done just about everything I can think of to get through this grief -- including grief counseling, yoga for grief, meditation, exercise, working to keep busy, starting a "meetup" group for widows and widowers, and so on. And I'm getting through it with they help of my friends (both old and new) and my family, and my faith.
TooMuch
TooMuch
i'm beth. i lost my husband of 18 years suddenly 4 months ago.
cgriff4ever
cgriff4ever
Lost my sweet husband a little over two years ago, in a accident. Miss him everyday, he will always be my bestfriend/soulmate.
Deodarglow
Deodarglow
I'm Carol and I lost my husband Jordan to testicular cancer on August 24, 2015. 40 days from diagnosis to death. He was a very creative musician and performed his own music on banjo, guitar, flute, tabla. He had studied at the Ali Akbar School of music and loved microtonal music. He had actually made his living as a technical writer and later a produce man. That's how I met him...while buying apples! He continues to guide me from heaven and his advice is excellent. I will always miss him.
lostforever
lostforever
I'm Judy-Anne I lost my husband Andrew February 11,2017. He had a heart attack. we would have been married 33 years in July. He was 52. we have one daughter who is 32 and an awesome son-in-law and two Granddaughters age 4 and 22 months. The grief is so painful it's undiscriable. I cannot see how I will ever be happy again. I feel like the other half of me is missing. ( and it is). This group has been helpful because I do not think anyone understands unless they have been through it.
AAA236
AAA236
Hi, my name is Linda and I lost my husband suddenly 5 months ago. We were togethef 14 years and have a teenage son. I am 39 and he was only 43. I miss him and think about him everyday.
sodalitelady
sodalitelady
somewhat related question... I am not a widow, nor a member of THIS group but I am looking for a group that would discuss working in the death field. I spent over a decade doing autopsies and forensic death investigations. I have worked many kid cases, many homicides and many suicides plus I have lost both of my parents. dealing with death and grief every single day for years has taken a toll on my soul. If you know of a group or any folks with similar experience please PM me or have them send me a message. thanks
berniesval
berniesval
Hi, my name is val, i lost my first husband June 27/2004, and my second husband April 27/2017..right now i feel like i am in the twilight zone, trying to cope....
debbielu
debbielu
My name is Debbie. I lost my sweet and brave husband Ken January 6, 2017 from pancreatic cancer. Married 44 years when I was 18 and he was 21. My user name debbielu is the nickname my husband gave me. I so miss him everyday. Having a hard time with all of this. He's been my whole life.
totallyafraid
totallyafraid
I'm Steve I am dealing with
My wife of 15 yrs right at deaths door no chance of making it back. Struggling with final life decisions
lexie
lexie
Hello all!
My name Lexie . Live in California. My husband passed away in January 13,2017. We married for almost 21 years.
I miss him every day and forever grateful for the life we had shared together.
So , it's almost 4 months and am finally going back to work on Monday
Missmyanne
Missmyanne
I'm going to put this out to berniesval. Not sure it's appropriate in this thread but here goes...

I have no idea how you could do this twice. I'm having such a hard time going through this once. Many good thoughts and large hugs out to you.
Khis
Khis
Hello, I live in lovely Victoria BC Canada. I lost my soulmate of 45 years - 42 married..... 14 months ago, I feel very fortunate in that we got to say everything we wanted or needed to say to each other, I get great peace from that. My hubby wanted me to move on, have a great carefree life, some days I can do that ......others not so much. but I am trying as hard as I can, knowing he is released from the suffering and loss of dignity and independence.
Community LeaderShrn
Shrn
Hello, I'm Sharon It will be 10 years this June that my husband died from lung cancer. He and I were 60 years old. I had retired but was working part time while planning our trips and enjoying our retirement years. Those plans ended when he was diagnosed with with lung cancer. 10 weeks later he died leaving me and our 2 adult children. I became a community leaders here a couple of years later.
In that time, everything changed, especially me. I learned how to live without my husband and again see the beauty in my life that had lost its meaning to me. I thank the wonderful people here for comforting me, supporting me, and helping me get through day by day life without him. I hope you experience the same support with us. Sharon
lostmyheart
lostmyheart
I lost my husband of 42 years in mid-March to a horrible lung disease, IPF. I live in Nashville and while I have my kids living by, I don't have many friends. Lost without my best friend.