I think the problem is just the women I meet in South Florida. Even if they happen to speak English (Spanish, Portugese and Creole have become the dominant languages here, English has become the second language, as South Florida has become overrun by Cubans, Mexicans, Brazilians and Haitians), they've got no class. The Boca Jews have class, but have EXTRAORDINARILY expensive tastes and are spoiled princesses. I couldn't afford a Jewish-American princess even if I wanted one.

OK, now that I'm sure I've offended EVERYONE, I'm outta here. Have fun, people.

This is classy?

Hard to believe you're all about thought and contemplation when you unload like that. Contemplate this:

Maybe the problem is you.

Sure the stereotypes are offensive but I think you just intended to be provocative. What is so off putting though is that you sound like you hate women. You know that women do pick up on that kind of hostility from a man, right?

I've been following this post for a few days now, time to add my opinion to the mix.

I knew this post would go downhill, when it didn't go down hill fast enough, Koolman decided he needed to give it a boost.

I've seen Koolman post like a sensitive human in the past.

I think something is going on in his life that is putting him on edge. He didn't say why he was staying with his sister and her family for 5 days, but nothing brings out the worst in us then revisiting old family dynamics. I would say the stress of that visit is the reason we are seeing this side of Koolman.

We have always been supportive of you, Koolman. If you are feeling down on yourself because of something going on out there in the real world, I wouldn't say you are doing yourself any favors by alienating your DS "friends"

So Snap out of it already. Halloween is weeks away so take off your Hero aka ( darn it, can't think of any of his other nics) mask! Take your own advice and jog around the park about 50 times and then do some weight lifting!

Seriously, Dude.... I hope you get to a better place

I think you may be right Shasta Sue. This post became rather 'troll-y'. I'm assuming Koolman has a bug in his drawers that he needs to take care of.....one of negativity that he says he doesn't want in a partner but carries himself.

Time to breathe deep and ditch the drama Koolman. Because you can't expect to find someone with out if you are clinging to it yourself.

I actually thought this had been an interesting discussion about age and what is perceived as negative about women over a certain age. Then it turned to uglyvile with the bizarre ethnic stereoptyoe rhetoric. I get some use this tactic to disarm people but sorry, it's really inexcusable.

Im a woman....and I've never encouraged older women to date younger men. My mum dated younger men....I hated it. First off I found it mildly disgusting when a guy a year or two older than I fawned over my mum. Secondly 9/10 times they used her for their own gains....money, status, sexual relief....pick one or more. I think that 98% of the time in order to form a long lasting, satisfying relationship both people need to be similar age because generally that is who can appreciate similar things. That leaves 2% where an age gap works....truly works...not for reasons other then love. So it does happen...it just will be much harder or have less chance of occuring then someone similar in age.

maekeljames, No double standard on my end. I think it's absurd for anyone, male or female, to seek out relationships with people who are what, 25 years their junior. If one of my girlfriends were running around chasing boys young enough to be her children, I'd be weirded out by it. Bleh.

Oh NOOOOO, please tell me Hero is't back.

No I do not have a double standard....I do not encourage women my age to date guys in their 20's.

I have been approached by men in their 20' and I am not the least bit interested. It would be like having sex with my child....ew.

Koolman, what is up with you ? I have always defended you because I thought you were a decent guy but the stuff that you are saying is beyond just an opinion - it is insulting and racist - how classy btw!

Most people who worry, btw , have been living on their own for a long time and carrying financial responsibility for other people.

To maekeljames.... You are silly.

makealjames,

Math is simple. Your brother =18yo. Waitress = 29yo. Age difference = 11 years at the most!

OP = 50yo. Wants to date "younger women, in their 20s". Age difference = 25 years or more.

Perfect comparison. Kinda like apples and oranges.

And for the record, I am 53 and do not find the idea of dating/sexing a "young man" (20-30 years my junior) appealing at all. I mean, what would be have in common to talk about, to share.

Maeckeljames, I'm sure there are people out there that think the way you are describing, but there are plenty of others that do not. I find large age gaps strange no matter whether the person initiating the relationship is male or female. And I would never encourage it.

Welcome back Hero.

Flirting with someone is not the same has wanting a relationship with them. That is actually a problem some men have, assuming a woman is into them because the woman chats him up, smiles at him, makes eye contact, etc. I was just at the grocery store where the cashier kid, who was a cute kid, maybe 19. We had a playful conversation, not sexual at all, but some banter back and forth, and if he thought I was flirting with him, while that's kind of adorable he'd think that, he'd be wrong.

Besides were talking situations where the age difference is equal to a parent / child, at least I am. Remember the original set up of this thread: 50 year old man into 20 something women.

Then, MJ, my question to you is why do you find younger women more appealing to women your own age?

If attempting to date younger women is so problematic for you, why do you continue to to it?