To provide a contextual framework, I've been at my sister and her husband's place with their son, 4, and their daughter, 2-and-a-half, for 5 days now, and sometimes their kids are cute, sweet and funny, and sometimes their irrational outbursts, fighting their mommy tooth and nail on every stupid little thing when they don't get exactly what they want, are really annoying. I am so NOT down for raising kids at this point, but I do like younger women, in their 20s, and some of them seem to like me!

What is wrong with dating women your own age?

I'm sure there are younger women who don't want children. Ask I guess. The statistics show this is a growing trend.

I don't mean this as an attack - just honest curiosity...

I would honestly like men here to answer what the appeal to much younger women is. I've been doing online dating sporadically over the last few years and it turns my stomach a little at the number of men in their 40's and older who are looking to date 20 year old girls.

The man I'm currently seeing on a casual basis says in his profile that he would have no problem dating someone half his age, which would be 24. I have a 25 year old daughter - so I just have to put this out of my mind and not think about it when we are together. I'm slender and fairly attractive at 45 and we have great sexual chemistry, so I'm a bit perplexed.

I'm no longer young or single but I never wanted kids and made that known when dating while in my 20s and 30s. So there are women out there who don't want kids. But the reality is that when you date young women, it's just part of the deal that many of them want kids and some that say they don't may change their minds with time.

Also, my husband has kids from his first marriage and they were little when we met, like 4-6 years old and I while not what I envisioned for myself when fantasizing about what an ideal mate looks like, the reality is I liked him and wanted to only be with him. So waddya going to do except accept all of him, including the fact he's a parent. I did then become a partner in some parenting, every other weekend. And yeah it was a sacrifice and they were gross and needy, but I cared very much for his children, because I love him and it was important to him.

I hope my response didn't seem snarky

I just as Bedhog stated am truly curious about dating someone half your age.
I have been hit on by men in their 20's and I have zero desire to date them have sex with them etc...
It would actually creep me out to be with a man that young.

Yeah, I don't quite get it either. I was never attracted to older men when I was younger so it's hard for me to get both from an older woman's perspective and a younger woman's perspective why men date so young.

It would be hard for me to be with someone young enough to be my son. Plus, it just seems uninteresting to spend time with someone who probably has had, oh, I don't know, like 5 minutes of any real life experience. I mean, I enjoy meeting and talking to all kinds of people, but a relationship, sharing your life with a person... a boy would not do it for me.

I've seen guys say they want to be with younger women because they're fun and have energy and don't seem to have as much baggage. My take is that some men (not all men) are scared shitless about aging and becoming irrelevant, so they chase youth in all forms, including women, to either be ok with getting older or to hold it off as long as possible. Then again, it really may not be that deep and it's simply about wanting someone with perky boobs and a tight ass.

I have perky boobs and a tight ass. I am 51.
And I have seen women in their 20's who do not.
So I don't think it is that either.

Come on guys!!
Chime in here!

:)

These guys don't know what they're missing!

I just hate when me assume that if you are over 35 that you must have a crappy body.
That is so not true!

There r women out there who have taken good care of themselves and look great!
Plus a relationship needs to be about way more than a tight body.

Anyway.... I knew at 26 that I did not want children Koolman.

*men* not me

I have a crappy body and never had a problem attracting men.

I didn't want kids until I turned 24. My SIL didn't want kids until now....she is 35 and trying to concieve. Some women don't but they also don't generally want to be the child in the relationship either. Finding a young woman, who doesn't want kids and is okay with dating a noticably older man just means your picking pool is a lot smaller then others, but it's still there.

My body has changed over the years for sure, but I haven't had too many problems attracting men either. It's the attracting good men and the right men was always the hard part.

Actually, I think I'm more attractive now and in the last 10-15 years than I ever was in my 20s. I also think it's a myth that older women just aren't as much fun or as active as younger women. I'm active and I put the F in FUN, damn it.

This is a funny article. Don't be fooled by the title:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/renee-fisher/why-older-men-should-date-younger-women_b_6938060.html

OK Lets' be honest many older women seek out young men. I live in Florida and I must say that it is not unusual to see this in restaurants and night clubs However I will admit that there are more older men with the younger ladies. I also have observed that in both cases the older is always the more affluent. This does tell us something. Personally , give me an older lady, who knows what she likes and needs any day.....Ron